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Some great advice!!

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In the newbie check in this week there was some great advice! Here it is in case you missed it:

Tip of the week: Going against your doctor's orders is never a good idea. It is best to let your body heal and wait for the thumbs up rather than try anyway and risk the chances of something going wrong. If you are not sure why your doctor has given you a certain wait time do not hesitate to ask for an explanation. This has been talked about before but it never hurts to repeat very important information

If you don't understand, check this: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/57399237.aspx

 


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  • kellbelle618kellbelle618 member
    A great reminder!! Thanks Cashew!
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  • candr09candr09 member
    Haha that pretty much answers my question. I'm feeling so impatient, but I don't want to put myself or another baby at risk by trying too soon. It just sucks waiting. But I do plan on asking for a medical explanation for the wait, just be ause it'll make the waiting feel "worth it", if that makes sense. 
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    Starting to think no one reads my check ins anymore Huh?
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  • candr09candr09 member

    imageamyrdz522:
    Starting to think no one reads my check ins anymore Huh?

     

    Sorry :(  

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  • amyrdz522amyrdz522
    imagecandr09:

    imageamyrdz522:
    Starting to think no one reads my check ins anymore Huh?

     

    Sorry :(  

    It wasn't directed towards you ;-) I do weekly check-ins usually on Mondays I was a little late this week and did mine on Tuesday. Please see the link to the blog in my siggy for more information. 

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  • RizzaTsRizzaTs

    Yes

    Thanks Cashews AND Amy!!

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  • FreyaWin2382FreyaWin2382 member

    Well said. And like stated in your other thread; if you ignore your doctor and suffer another loss, would you be able to forgive yourself? I already blame myself for our m/c (I know, I know, it wasn't my fault...my brain and my heart still are having a conflict about that) and know that I would never want to be put in that situation. Good advice and reminder.

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  • ktsnshnktsnshn
    ALWAYS good advice. And a good reminder to some who have been around a while. If you like and trust your doctor, why wouldn't you listen to him or her? If you don't, go get a second opinion. I never understand why someone would question their doctor if the doctor is telling them what to do to increase their best chances at getting and staying pregnant. Personally, if I TTC'd before my OB cleared me and got pregnant only to have another loss, I would blame myself.
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  • amandachsamandachs member
    imagejessuhmarie:

    imagecandr09:
    Haha that pretty much answers my question. I'm feeling so impatient, but I don't want to put myself or another baby at risk by trying too soon. It just sucks waiting. But I do plan on asking for a medical explanation for the wait, just be ause it'll make the waiting feel "worth it", if that makes sense. 

    See, that's totally acceptable! Ask your doctor/nurse/midwife! He/she knows your body/situation the best. It might just be that they want to be able to date your pregnancy better or it might be more serious like your body needs to heal so you don't have another loss. Your doctor/situation/miscarriage/body =/= my (or someone else's) doctor/situation/miscarriage/body

    This Smile  I'm really glad that you'll be asking for an explanation, and I hope it answers your questions.  This situation sucks, but I'm all about being informed.  (((Hugs)))

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  • buckeyebaby814buckeyebaby814 member
    imageCashewsMommy:

    In the newbie check in this week there was some great advice! Here it is in case you missed it:

    Tip of the week: Going against your doctor's orders is never a good idea. It is best to let your body heal and wait for the thumbs up rather than try anyway and risk the chances of something going wrong. If you are not sure why your doctor has given you a certain wait time do not hesitate to ask for an explanation. This has been talked about before but it never hurts to repeat very important information

    If you don't understand, check this: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/57399237.aspx

     

    I saw this post earlier and was wondering what prompted this but after lurking some posts this was VERY necessary Yes 


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  • kevinandmonica2011kevinandmonica2011

    Yes

    But it doesn't count if you *accidentally* go against their orders, right?

    You know... like you are accidentally naked and your DH is accidentally naked and he accidentally slips on a banana and he accidentally falls on top of you and his non-condomed thingamabob accidentally goes in your unprotected thingamabob and you accidentally BD when you are supposed to be TTA...

    Right?  

    I mean... it was totally an accident.

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    imagekevinandmonica2011:

    Yes

    But it doesn't count if you *accidentally* go against their orders, right?

    You know... like you are accidentally naked and your DH is accidentally naked and he accidentally slips on a banana and he accidentally falls on top of you and his non-condomed thingamabob accidentally goes in your unprotected thingamabob and you accidentally BD when you are supposed to be TTA...

    Right?  

    I mean... it was totally an accident.

    YesYes 


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  • LoveOfMikesLifeLoveOfMikesLife member

    wow! I can't believe I was dumb enough to actually think about going against Dr orders!

    Big thanks to Cashew and all the other "oldies" that told me if I questioned it to talk to her!

    You ladies have been amazing :)

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    imageCashewsMommy:
    imagekevinandmonica2011:

    Yes

    But it doesn't count if you *accidentally* go against their orders, right?

    You know... like you are accidentally naked and your DH is accidentally naked and he accidentally slips on a banana and he accidentally falls on top of you and his non-condomed thingamabob accidentally goes in your unprotected thingamabob and you accidentally BD when you are supposed to be TTA...

    Right?  

    I mean... it was totally an accident.

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  • AppleJack83AppleJack83

    Yes

     Great post Cashew.. When my Dr told me to wait three cycles, I was annoyed, since with my later losses I only had to wait one. I would be lying if I didn't say I thought about having a "slip up", but in the end I heeded her advice. I think she could see how hard this loss hit us and wanted time for emotional healing. At the time three cycles seemed like the end of the world, but in retrospect it wasn't so bad and it was a great break from the maddness of TTC

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  • mijakachmijakach member
    Thanks for posting! I already blame myself for my first m/c (I know I shouldn't but can't help it). And if it were to happen again because I went against doctor's orders, I definitely wouldn't be able to forgive myself.
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