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Krisx2
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FB ? Would this bug you...
Krisx2
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DH is not friends with BM on FB (or at all for that matter). He is friends with BM's sister and brother. All of his privacy settings are on friends only, so BM wouldn't have been able to see anything.
SD mentioned weeks ago that "BM just found out you have a FB and that you are friends with my Aunt and Uncle. We were looking at your profile". DH didn't think anything of it because BM wouldn't have been able to see much anyway.
I just figured out that BM has been logging into FB under her sisters profile and can see all of DH's profile that way. DH has never posted anything derogatory and has never mentioned BM at all except in private messages. But its bugging me that she can see all of our pictures/posts from our parties and dates and stuff that I really wanted private except to friends. It just kind of creeps me out a little and makes me nervous about her snooping in our lives.
Would that bug you? Are you friends with BM on FB or is DH?
Mio Marito per Sempre: Married 2009. SD is 12 yrs. DD is 4 yrs.
DS born 12/29/14
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Re: FB ? Would this bug you...
I am not FB friends with BM, but not because we of our relationship. We actually get along just fine. I am friends with my SD and I don't have a problem if she shows her mom our FB profiles.
But, in your situation, that would bother me. You aren't friends with her for a reason.
Sound to me like you either unfriend the aunt/uncle or change your settings.
This wouldn't bug me, I don't post things that I don't want anyone to see, because just like this, stuff always seems to circle back. Does the sister know that BM logs into her account?
H and I used to be FB friends with his ex-wife, until we had a falling out a year ago.
BM and her sister have a love hate relationship. You never know if they are speaking or not. DH friended her siblings because he was friends with them for six years while he lived in MT. But yes, I guess it's pretty dumb to assume that she would NEVER let BM see the page.
Mio Marito per Sempre: Married 2009. SD is 12 yrs. DD is 4 yrs.
DS born 12/29/14
This would not bug me because I have realistic expectations about facebook and the potential that anyone can see it despite my privacy settings.
No, we are not friends with any ex's of any kind.
This is why SO does not have FB at all and why I am not friends with SD on my page. We would never be FB friends w/ BM and BM has SDs password. I love SD and would love to be able to share all the fun pictures I take with her but I'm just not prepared to let BM have access to all my fun memories that way. It's sad that it comes to that but it's worth it to feel like our lives are our own!
DH is friends with SD and SS on FB, but not with BM. We do know however that BM uses SD's account to "pretend" to be SD. She looks at DH's account. BUT I have BM, SS, and SD blocked and we upload all pictures of DS's ultrasounds and everything from my account. If DH wants I tag him in them. BM can see the pic, but she can't see my descriptions or comments.
I wish I could friend SS and SD on FB, but BM drama overrules that.
I agree that it's slightly your DH's fault for believing that her brother and/or sister wouldn't let her see.
DH nor I are friends with BM on FB (even though we never say anything bad about her on there or post anything that we wouldn't want her to see). DH's sister, brother (and his girlfriend), younger brother a few other people (who used to be close to DH) are friends with BM. DH nor I are friends with any of those people, simply because we don't trust them to respect us and our wishes. There is obviously a reason we aren't friends with BM and we can't trust them not to give her their password or show her our pages etc.
It's a respect issue (or the lack of).
Nothing on FB is "private".
second, nothing with SKs is private. And it shouldnt be.
BM and I have 15 mutual friends on fb and I know for a fact that she comes on my page to see what I am up to through a few of those mutual friends. I dont let it bother me bc if anything I find it sort of sad that she is that interested in my life. If it were just during the time we have SS then I might be able to understand it bc she would want to see what we were doing with him, but we send her updates and pics via email so I dont see why stalking my page is necessary to her. I dont post a lot on my fb bc my rule of thumb is if I have to think twice about who is going to see it, then chances are I shouldnt be posting it.
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
Mio Marito per Sempre: Married 2009. SD is 12 yrs. DD is 4 yrs.
DS born 12/29/14
Yes it would bother me. More so that your DH has his ex's family members as "friends" than BM being nosy (Im sure I would too if I had access). I see no reason why DH needs to see what his ex's family is up too...
Delete them. <-- HE needs to delete them.