Sigh, I just got off the phone with my mom.
So my husband got some advice from a co-worker that a doula was the best money he's every spent and totally worth the cost, and told him why (yay co-worker). I was personally a bit on the fence about a doula since it was only going to be DH in the delivery room and I didn't want to make him feel like I didn't think he could handle it.
Anyway I was all happy that he was on board and was just chatting with my mom about it as a possibility and she kept cutting me off saying stuff like "that's the mother's job!" and when I said the MW and maybe the doula will come over after and give some advice about how to take care of the babe and she was again all defensive "that's what mothers are for" I just found it so annoying. She will obviously be coming over to help and see the baby but she still has some old school ways and she is no expert. (example she thinks gettting tests is silly because "no one in our family has GD" ok mom, I guess it's impossible for me).
She knows she isn't coming to the delivery and I think she wants to - but I just don't think she will be the calming helpful presence that I'm looking for.
venty vent. I'm done now :P