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Just need to vent...

kbjones88kbjones88 member
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We went for a doctor's appointment at 10 weeks to hear the heartbeat but couldnt, So I went today at 12w 3d and still no heartbeat with the doppler.  From what I read, I shouldnt be concerned and im just looking forward to the ultrasound on Wednesday.  My b/f was there for the 10w appointment and was really disapointed we couldnt hear it but for the 12w one he had to go out of town for a funeral and when I told him that our little one is sneaky and we'll have to wait to see him/her, he told me he had lost hope!!!! I couldnt believe it! I know he's in a bad place after loosing his uncle this past week and he has gone through a miscarriage before at 12w with an ex.......But really?! 4000 miles away and thats what he decides is a good responce. Naturally I was a little disapointed that I didnt hear the heartbeat today too....But ive never lost hope in this pregnancy.  My symptoms have faded to almost nothing but I have not had any cramping or bleeding, I feel like baby is doing just fine.

He can be so stupid sometimes!! UGH!

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    allisonmarie22allisonmarie22 member

    I'm assuming that since you didn't mention it, you've never had a miscarriage yourself. Try not to be too upset with your BF. Going through a miscarriage is traumatic, and it makes you paranoid and gun-shy. I've suffered losses myself, and if I hadn't heard the heartbeat by 12 weeks and had not had an ultrasound either I'd be having a total meltdown.

    I admire that you are so positive. I am sure all is well, I'm just saying try to cut the man a little slack.  Big Smile

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    redheadinloveredheadinlove member

    Aw honey. I'm sure he hasn't truly lost hope! He definitely chose the wrong words, but he's probably just upset because he really wants the reassurance. 

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    kbjones88kbjones88 member
    It's true, I have not gone through a miscarriage...I can imagine I would be a little gun shy.  I was a little upset at the time, but I wasn't going to worry him by being negative....But that didnt work.  He is well aware that he should of chose better words but I wont hold it over him, Im sure it wont be the last time he does it Confused Poor guy is a wreck right now...I just hope we get to see a h&h little monster kicking around and he can relax a little.
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    ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    I just wanted to give you hope - my little one couldn't be found on the doppler until my 14w appointment.  GL on Wednesday:)
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    bumpuser1509193bumpuser1509193 member

    dopplers can be tricky. I have had a hard time finding a pulse on a clearly living creature ( I'm a vet tech... we use dopplers when we measure blood pressure) It's probably all ok, but I can understand the anxiety.


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    kbjones88kbjones88 member
    Thanks ladies :)
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    elfkinearselfkinears member

    boys are stupid.

     

    your dr must not be too concerned or they would be monitoring your betas?  wishing you well..

    praying for a miracle ..

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