It's just one of those days.

goosh24 · November 2011

I guess this is my early whine for tomorrow. I had an appt this morning and it was a trainwreck. Jules was off from the start of the day and wanted nothing to do with breakfast so I knew it wasn't going to go as well as I'd like, no matter how positive I was about it. After parking really far away and walking into the office, I went straight to the bathroom so that was one less thing to fight with J over when she was out of the stroller, first meltdown. Then we played with the toys and looked at the fish tank, she wanted to climb up on the book shelves, meltdown #2. We get into the room and drop off the stroller and go to get weighed, another meltdown and she was definitely not letting the nurse hold her. The whole visit just continues with whining and crying and me apologizing. I know they've seen it all but it still makes me feel like I suck. So super hormonal me starts crying on the way home because I'm so frustrated that it seems like things are always a fight and I really wish that once in a while, things would just be easy, and maybe the reason is because I haven't done a good enough job with her. DH tells me that its not that, she's just a busy little girl and is a little crazy but its just her personality, which I know but for once, can something just be easy?! I can't do groceries or go into a store and even in the car, the DVD player has to be on otherwise its a freakout. Even changing a diaper is an ordeal. I'm not saying she's a bad little girl and I love her and her personality, but sometimes it is so wearing. And I keep thinking how is this going to work when I have one having a meltdown and a newborn? Ok, long enough, vent over.

wendyj · November 2011

I'm so sorry you had a rough time of it. It is such a rough age. They want to constantly be moving and doing their own thing. Don't let it get you down. You are doing OK.

Is there any Mother's Day Out type place, or a daycare that will allow you to drop a child off for a couple hours while you go to appointments, shop, whatever? Our daycare offers it, that's why it came to mind for me. It may allow for you to get your things done in peace, and give her some other stimulation.

Hang in there. Things will fall into place eventually. Don't be hard on yourself.

TinaL99 · November 2011

I'm sorry you're having a rough time with J. If you need me to watch her on the weekend so you can grocery shop or something in peace just let me know! Or we can leave the girls with our DHs and go get pedicures! Toddlerhood is exhausting for parents, that's for sure. You're doing great and when the new baby gets here, you'll adjust, I promise.

goosh24 · November 2011

Thank you both for responding. I know part of the problem is that I'm feeling pretty hormonal today (had another cry lol) which just doesn't help. From now on, DH will have to take either a half day or we'll ask our "old" babysitter to watch J, they've been sick though so I didn't want to today. I'm really dreading when the appointments become more frequent or I have to do NST's etc, but no sense in stressing about it now.

meryltheresa · November 2011

You are doing great! Don't get so down on yourself. Just when I think I've got Liam figured out he learns something new and uses it against Jer and I. haha!! And if it makes you feel better...I really think it's Tuesdays, because last week I cried a couple of times on Tuesday, and today at lunch I called J, and had a good cry. L was AWFUL this morning when I was trying to leave. He crying, and patting the couch saying, "come sit mama, come sit mama..." Broke my heart!!

jnk062602 · November 2011

Awww, that sucks. I think that is a good idea to use the baby sitter for that time. And I hear you about the diaper changes! Diaper changes were getting so bad for me that was one of the reasons I did the 3 day pt thing as soon as our vacation was over. I figured even if I cleaned up accidents all day long that was better than battling thru another diaper change.

Irisheyes1247 · November 2011

((hugs)) I definitely find my patience wearing thin a lot more quickly with the whining and crocodile tears than I have. And I feel like I have been a lot more emotional than I was last pregnancy. Be kind to yourself! You are a good mom and you are doing a great job. The fact that your kid has meltdowns (like every other child, ever) doesn't change that. It just means you guys are having a rough patch.

goosh24 · November 2011

Thanks ladies Today was much better, thank goodness!

M-Maybe it really is Tuesdays! I saw your Whine and that you had a tough night too, some days are so freaking rough and I know how you feel about never seeing Jer, tonight Jon will get home around 9 and tomorrow has a meeting after work, so maybe 8. Blah.

K-I absolutely can't wait to get to the potty training stage and not deal with Jules and diapers anymore! She loves to take her diaper off and then pees (and quite often poops) anywhere but the potty. Of course, when it's actually time to PT, I'll have a newborn and who knows how gung ho I'll be then.

Irish-Thanks, I know you're pretty much in the same boat as me, I was definitely not this emotional last time! I can remember crying about stupid stuff (like my DH not painting her walls as carefully as he needed to, ha) but I think the challenges of a toddler just intensify it all!

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