February 2012 Moms
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I would like to vent too
Ok, I know in the grand scheme of things this probably isn't important but I hope I will better to get it off my chest. My friend said she was going to have a baby shower for me. I am due Feb 17 but because of scheduled u/s will probably go around the 10th. I thought the shower would be in January but she wanted to have it the first of December so I would have time to get things I needed after the shower. I was ok with that but now she is wanting to push it to December 11th. That is only two weeks before Christmas! I think that is a very bad time for everyone, not only timing wise but money wise also. But since she is hosting it, don't I have to go along with that date? It is very frustrating to me. I would rather wait until January so that it is not so bad for everyone. Please let me know what you think. Am I just being ungrateful?
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Re: I would like to vent too
Maybe you could mention that to her.. I'm sure she wouldn't mind changing the date...
I would agree with the holidays being so close it might not be the best time for a shower
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I think most people would rather have their shower earlier instead of later, so I'm sure that's why she scheduled it for that date. If you have an issue with that date though, talk to her about it.
I don't have any issue with showers in December though (unless it was a night thing).
My shower is on the 10th of December and I am due the 16th of February. My host is a teacher and it worked best for her schedule. January for me is cutting it too close - it would make me too nervous so I'm excited to not have it so close to my due date.
Also, nobody is out of town for my shower and because it's a sprinkle I'm not expecting much - it's really just a celebration of being close to friends and family (geographically speaking) this time because none of them got to see me pregnant with DS since we lived too far away and only came for family functions - therefore friends didn't often get to see me.
Maybe a save-the-date would be helpful so people can obviously put it on their calendars, but also to put into their mind another gift before Christmas. I doubt anyone would be annoyed or anything - if they are then they don't have to come. Even a nice card means the world to me and that costs what a couple dollars?
I thought the same thing but then my DH pointed out this - would you rather have people shopping before or after they get their Christmas bills!
**I'm not trying to sound greedy/selfish but the way he said it cracked me up!**
It is close to the holidays but at the same time, I don't know how much of a difference 10 days would really make (the 1st as opposed to the 11th). It's hard timing being due in Feb. I don't think the date is so bad. Jan is out for me since I could easily be on bedrest (twins) and the snow here could get bad so I think my shower will be around the same time as yours. It's a few weeks after Thanksgiving and a couple before Christmas. Not such a big deal in my eyes.
Anyone who is planning on coming to your shower and spending money on a gift is probably budgeting for that already anyway so if you thought the 1st od Dec was fine, I really don't think having it 10 days later is a big deal. If it were me, I wouldn't ask them to change the date. They are nice enough to plan a party, I would just show up when they tell me to.