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2nd Trimester
Jazzyashes84
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Honesty Poll
Jazzyashes84
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Ok not really a poll, but, for those of you that have found out the sex of your baby...were any of you disappointed with the results when finding out? Only for a moment of course. (or a week or two) haha. I personally haven't experienced this, but I had a friend that did.
TTC#2: 8/17/14 // BFP: 9/5/14
TTC#1: 7/30/11 // BFP: 8/22/11
DS: Carson Robert 4/29/12
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Re: Honesty Poll
I was a little.. was hoping for a boy.. cause we already have a boy.. have boy stuff..
Plus i'm not a real girly girl.. so i'm going to be horrible at helping her with hair and make up (half the time i nearly end up in tears of frustration cause I can't do it at all)
BUT i'm hoping that doing someone elses hair is a lot easier than doing your own..
I was thrilled to find out we're having a girl and I say that I would have been equally as thrilled with a boy, but I'm partially lying. I would have been somewhat disappointed at first, but I would have come around soon enough. I'm already hoping our next baby is a boy.
I don't think it would have been humanly possible for me to be more thrilled.
I also have no problem admitting that we probably would have had some slight initial disappointment if we were having a boy. We were both sort of hoping for a girl and we are only having one child, so it's not like we would have another chance later. But in the end what we wanted most was a healthy baby and I know I would have had fun with a son too so it's not like it would have been a terrible thing.
Me and DH had more of a moment of shock, instead of dissapointment. EVERYONE was telling us we were having a boy...by the way I looked/was carrying/my symptoms/etc....so we kind of got into the mindset that it would probably be a boy. (I didn't have any of those motherly intuition feelings about the gender, so I honestly had no clue...)
Went in for the u/s.....and didn't believe the tech when she told us we were having a GIRL! We even had her try to look again, just to make sure LOL (she couldn't get a 2nd peek though, LO crossed her legs and was being stubborn at that point).
I will say I felt a *little* bad that it wasn't a boy, because I knew how much my hubby wanted a boy first, then a girl.......so yeah I did feel a little dissapointed *in myself* that I couldn't give him what he wanted =/ He was still completely happy though...he's been asking to have a baby for a few years
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we're both happy to have a lovely little girl (and DH is ALREADY talking about how excited he is to try for a boy next..I told him not for a while though - I want to be able enjoy some time with baby girl before I have to go through pregnacy again! LoL)
It took a few days for GIRL to settle into both of our minds, and now we're COMPLETELY ecstatic! DH is sooo excited to have a "daddy's girl"
We had an elective u/s a few weeks ago, and we had the tech double check the gender (b/c we keep hearing stories of how sometimes it out to be a boy).........and honestly we would have probably been DISSAPOINTED if it turns out it was a boy after all.
So.....not dissapointed, just surprised
?Little Love of my Life?
All my life I really wanted to have a boy first. However, I also really wanted to have a girl at some point. My feelings for both basically evened out...
This time around I want a boy again just becasue we have a girl now. However, I would not be disappointed if I had another girl...
Does that even make sense?!
Yes. My SO and I really wanted a boy. I've always dreamed of a house full of loud. crazy boys, SO wanted at least one boy first so our girls would have a big brother. Well we're having a girl. That night he was telling everyone about out little girl and no one believed him when he said he wanted it to be a boy because he seemed so excited. It took a minute to get use to but we were both still very excited about her.
A PP mentioned something about "if they waited until birth to find out it wouldn't have been an issue", I think she meant it just for that situation but for us that wouldn't have worked. I didn't realize until we found out it was a girl that I had only looked at boy things. I had to basically start from scratch for the 'girl' stuff.
Slight disappointment? Yes, a little. I was a little disappointed, because I knew DH REALLY wanted a boy. Plus, it would have been fun to have a different sex. You know, one of each.
But, it didn't last long at all. I'm so excited that DD will have a sister so close in age. In fact, as much as I love and adore my brothers, I'm a little jealous of her. I hope that they will be best friends for life. Obviously, there will be battles over clothes, boys, gossip and other girly drama, but, overall, I'm so excited. I got all of DD's old clothes out over the weekend and it is so great that I can use them again so soon!
I did have a twinge of disappointment when we were told DD was a girl. I had always wanted a boy first. But that disappointment didn't last long at all, I got excited to have a girl, and now of course I wouldn't trade her for anything.
This time, I can honestly say I am thrilled to be having a little boy. I am slightly bummed that DD probably won't be having a sister if we are indeed done having kids, but I am overjoyed that we'll have one of each. Had this baby been a girl, I probably would have been a bit disappointed, but would have gotten over it and would have loved having 2 girls.
I was happy both times. Got exactly what I wanted.
The first time I wanted a son, so DH would be more engaged in the parenting thing. And I got my boy.
This time, I didn't care as much. But I do covet girly things. So when I found out I'm having a girl, I did a little inside happy dance. BARBIES!!!!!
I will be honest. I was overjoyed when I found out this one was a girl. But, with my second son, I wanted a girl and was very disappointed when I found out I was having another boy. Did I feel bad about it? Yes. Do I love my son? Yes. Would I trade him for the world? Hell NO! I think its normal and it was a process I had to go through. I dealt with the feelings for a while, then bucked up and moved on.
And now that we are done having children, I actually prefer to have my two sons to look over my one and only baby girl! She will be well protected. I dont think I would have wanted it different!
Married April 1st 2017
DS #1: May 2009
DS #2: Jan 2012
I wanted to find out the sex as I have some complicated feelings about it...I am a (very happy and well adjusted) adopted kid, and I totally wanted a little girl so I could see some of 'me' in her. Not that I won't in my son, but my husband (judging by my stepson) seems to 'stamp' his sons--his son is a mini-me and has been his entire 7 years!
My hubby also wanted a daughter to go with the son (complete the set lol), and my stepson wanted a brother! So he was thrilled, we were a little disappointed, but we are still very happy--the most important thing is that thus far things appear quite healthy.
Now that we know, we are having fun with it. But we aren't sure if we will be having another, so I still kind of dream of the daughter that has some of my features.
Completely honest: I was thrilled to find out we're having a boy and I would have been thrilled to find out we were having a girl. I didn't care either way one bit (neither did DH). I just want a healthy baby, and I was so happy to just know a tiny bit more about who this little person is growing inside me.
Also completely honest: I just really don't understand gender disappointment. Why is it that important?? Yes boys and girls are generally different, but they're individual people and boys won't necessarily turn out to be macho and girls won't necessarily be girly; why does it matter what's between their legs? I know this statement is totally flameworthy, but I think it's kind of sad to be disappointed in your kid before s/he's even born.
No. We tried unsuccessfully for 5 years to get pregnant, never making it this far until now. These babies are a TRUE miracle of God, and we're SO grateful for them. Our one and only concern is them being healthy. The sex does not matter to either of us what so ever.
With my son, I wanted a girl first and was scared of having a boy. I was also convinced he was a girl. So when they first told us boy at the NT scan, I was shocked. And a little disappointed. Less that it was a boy and more that I might not have a daughter. They also said probably boy at an emerg. u/s a few weeks later and I took it more seriously and began to adjust to the idea (I wasn't moping or disappointed that entire time, we didn't put a lot of stock in the NT scan, and I didn't worry much about it). By the time we knew boy for certain I was happy. He wasn't just hypothetical boy I didn't know how to raise, he was our son Gabriel.
Gabriel Ross - August 24, 2009 * Vivienne Rose - May 1, 2012
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I will add, after reading the comments, that my feelings this time are far more complicated than before. We lost Gabriel and I never got to raise my son. Having a girl would be completely different (and that is where things are leaning now, fwiw) experience, and I will be disappointed that we still don't have the chance at the life we thought we would have two years ago. At the same time, my reasons for wanting a girl didn't disappear, and I think in some ways that a boy would be more emotionally challenging in terms of reconciling Gabriel's loss with a new baby, and in terms of keeping our sons separate individuals.
It's not that I am deeply invested in sex organs - we've said all along the sex is secondary to living and healthy. But it is something to think about it. I don't have a preference this time, but I do want to know who is inside me - Gabriel's brother or sister. I want to time to consider either and become comfortable with it in my mind.
Gabriel Ross - August 24, 2009 * Vivienne Rose - May 1, 2012
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I was very disappointed we weren't having a boy. I had a hard time keeping my composure in the doctor's office. I managed to make it to my car and then I completely broke down. I think it was half disappointment/half shock- I was so sure we were having a boy.
I feel better about it now.
Coming from a past experience with DS1 - I will be honest and say that I was a tad disappointed I was having a boy. I thought for sure it was a girl, up until the 20 week u/s showed us different.
I've always dreamed of a girl. Never dreamed of having a boy. What do *I* know about boys? How do I raise a boy to be a man? Etc, etc. All those questions/fears/etc went through my mind.
Gave birth and was thrilled with my blessing. 2.5 years later, I can not imagine life without my boy. He is the best thing that happened to me (since my DH). I now can't imagine what I would do with a girl. My boy is definitely a mama's boy and I still love him more each day.
We are team green this time around, but I am a bit terrified of having a girl. I know nothing about girls...I know tons about how to raise a boy. Boys (Imo) are the best (for me). At least, my son is!
Funny how life changes when you live it