Opinions please

tomkat2010 · October 2011

Okay so we don't know for a few more days what we're having yet (but last US the tech suspected a boy). But DH and I have settled on a girl's name we both like and we are at odds on possible boys' names. It's almost WWIII every time we try to discuss it. He only likes one name, and I want almost any other name! He likes Magnus, but wants to call him Maggie, which I always thought was just a girl's name...Honestly I hate it. I feel terrible that I hate it so much and flat out refuse to use it, but I do. He has said I could choose the middle name to be anything else I want no matter if he hates it. Personally, I wish we could both find two names that we both love!

Thoughts? Advice on how to solve our issue or I am being too rigid?

EastCoastBride · October 2011

Maggie? For a boy? Does your DH want your child to be made fun of?!

No, I would not be olk. with this. And your DH needs to back off on this "i only like one name" stance of his. This is YOUR CHILD too and YOU GET A SAY.

Of ALLLLL the names out there, I don't believe this is the ONLY one. He's being a stubborn a$$.

I think it's unrealistic to expect you to both love a name, but you should both at least like/ be able to tolerate a name.

And again, Maggie for a boy is cruel.

Moneypenny424 · October 2011

EastCoastBride:
Maggie? For a boy? Does your DH want your child to be made fun of?!

No, I would not be olk. with this. And your DH needs to back off on this "i only like one name" stance of his. This is YOUR CHILD too and YOU GET A SAY.

Of ALLLLL the names out there, I don't believe this is the ONLY one. He's being a stubborn a$$.

I think it's unrealistic to expect you to both love a name, but you should both at least like/ be able to tolerate a name.

And again, Maggie for a boy is cruel.

I agree with all of this. Dh is being ridiculous. You have a say in your child's name and yes, Maggie for a boy is silly.

aimee1899 · October 2011

Does your DH not like Gus as a nn for Magnus? I agree with pp about calling a boy Maggie. (Although that is what we call our male dog sometimes but, he's a pet.)

HannahO28 · October 2011

EastCoastBride:
Maggie? For a boy? Does your DH want your child to be made fun of?!

No, I would not be olk. with this. And your DH needs to back off on this "i only like one name" stance of his. This is YOUR CHILD too and YOU GET A SAY.

Of ALLLLL the names out there, I don't believe this is the ONLY one. He's being a stubborn a$$.

I think it's unrealistic to expect you to both love a name, but you should both at least like/ be able to tolerate a name.

And again, Maggie for a boy is cruel.

ECB is very wise

Sean+Lyss · October 2011

EastCoastBride:
Maggie? For a boy? Does your DH want your child to be made fun of?!

No, I would not be olk. with this. And your DH needs to back off on this "i only like one name" stance of his. This is YOUR CHILD too and YOU GET A SAY.

Of ALLLLL the names out there, I don't believe this is the ONLY one. He's being a stubborn a$$.

I think it's unrealistic to expect you to both love a name, but you should both at least like/ be able to tolerate a name.

And again, Maggie for a boy is cruel.

I agree with all of this too. I do like Magnus, but I am totally with you on the NN. Horrible thing to do to a kid.

kmv68 · October 2011

2 people made the baby, 2 people get to name the baby. You have to agree. If it is the only name he likes, oh well. You have months to come up with another name he likes that you like as well.

Magnus, Maggie is AWFUL

tomkat2010 · October 2011

It's nice to know I'm not crazy. LOL. His family also thinks it's a strange name, but my stepdaughter is on his side and likes the name, probably just to irritate me. (She's a teenager and loves to irritate either of us when she finds the chance.)

I told him I've resorted to suggesting "third string" names, which I never would have initially considered, but I'm just trying to find any compromisable name at this point. He says him picking Magnus and me picking any other name is a compromise, but I say a compromise is that we both have veto rights and should come back to the drawing board with other names.

My latest suggestions:
Peyton, Philip, Ryan, Grant, Cole, Barrett, Benton, Brian, Baylor, and Warner. Opinions?

Jazzyashes84 · October 2011

"He likes Magnus, but wants to call him Maggie, which I always thought was just a girl's name...Honestly I hate it." I hate it too!!! Just tell him no, don't like the name, we need to agree. So have him make a list of 5 other names he's ok with and then discuss those.

MySallyGirl · October 2011

kmv68:
2 people made the baby, 2 people get to name the baby. You have to agree. If it is the only name he likes, oh well. You have months to come up with another name he likes that you like as well.
Magnus, Maggie is AWFUL

Magnus & Maggie are Horrid! Maggie is like asking your son to be beat up and ridiculed!

Tisharp · October 2011

Yeah, the only only only only only way I'd even consider Magnus, is if the kid would be called exclusively by a middle (not as horrid) name or at the very least be called Gus. I think Gus is kind of cute. But, imagine what you think of when you think of a 45 year old man named Gus. Yeah...

MrsSutton0523 · October 2011

OMG I couldn't belive it when I read your post.

Is your husband INSANE? He needs to chill or you need to go somewhere and buy him some baby name books

Either call him Magnus or forget it. I think you should pick a very feminine MN and say that's what I want and I am sure he will change his mind on the whole Maggie thing.

Maggie I am still in shock

ObLaDi · October 2011

EastCoastBride:
Maggie? For a boy? Does your DH want your child to be made fun of?!

No, I would not be olk. with this. And your DH needs to back off on this "i only like one name" stance of his. This is YOUR CHILD too and YOU GET A SAY.

Of ALLLLL the names out there, I don't believe this is the ONLY one. He's being a stubborn a$$.

I think it's unrealistic to expect you to both love a name, but you should both at least like/ be able to tolerate a name.

And again, Maggie for a boy is cruel.

All of this.

hmr22 · November 2011

EastCoastBride:

Maggie? For a boy? Does your DH want your child to be made fun of?!

No, I would not be olk. with this. And your DH needs to back off on this "i only like one name" stance of his. This is YOUR CHILD too and YOU GET A SAY.

Of ALLLLL the names out there, I don't believe this is the ONLY one. He's being a stubborn a$$.

I think it's unrealistic to expect you to both love a name, but you should both at least like/ be able to tolerate a name.

And again, Maggie for a boy is cruel.

I agree completely!

tomkat2010 · November 2011

Thanks for the responses. I think he would drop the terrible nickname if I would at least agree to Magnus, but I really just hate it with a passion. I want to see what else WE can come up with that we both are happy with. And of course I'm afraid the kid would get made fun of for a girl's NN but his response? "He'll be such a bad-a$$ that no one will pick on him." Uh-huh. Because my DH is all-knowing and can see into the future. He's such a wonderful man, but he really went off the deep end with this one...I'll keep y'all posted on what we're having and how the discussion is going.

emilyray14 · November 2011

I agree with everryone else, Magnus is awful. I'm not a fan of the name Angus, but its better than Magnus and maybe a compromise? or Maximus (nn Max)?

tomkat2010 · November 2011

I agree Angus or Maximus would be good compromises, but I hate those names too! And I even hate Max as a NN. Here's where I'm becoming harsh and unwilling to compromise. I just don't like them, and I can't see myself calling a child any of those names. I wish I could say I tolerated them even.

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