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  • krysiahamatykrysiahamaty

    Ugh I'm so sorry. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to try not to beat yourself up about it. At that moment in time, you felt it was the right decision. I did a c section vs vaginally birth because I knew I would not have been able to handle pushing with the result of a stillborn baby. I have second thoughts about it because of always wanting to do a vaginal birth and now I won't have that opportunity but I know emotionally, I would not have been able to handle it.

    Hugs. 

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  • DesiraeSunshineDesiraeSunshine
    ::hugs:: you made the best decisioon for you at that moment.
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  • mdluv21mdluv21
    You did the best you could.  It is so hard to make those choices.  Some days I almost wish I hadn't delivered vaginally.  It was the longest 5 hours of pushing that will haunt me for the rest of my life.
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    Beta #1 8dp5/6dt = 234 Beta #2 10dp5/6dt = 695 Beta #3 12dp5/6dt = 1796 Beta #4 17dp5/6dt = 17,888 U/S #1 May 17, 2012 = Twins
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    I think we all have regrets in some form. You did the right thing at the time for you.
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  • illinigalillinigal member

    imagemagdalina.h:
    I think we all have regrets in some form. You did the right thing at the time for you.

    Agreed.  Big hugs to you.

    TTC #1 since October 2008. Dealing with MFI.
    IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
    IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
    IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
    Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
    IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
    Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
    Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
    IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
    IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
    ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer :(
    Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
    IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
    IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
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  • kate6267kate6267
    We all have regrets sweetie... BUt you do what you can at the time to get through. You made the best decision for YOU at that time.
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  • pb127pb127 member

    Please don't feel like that, we all try to do the best we can and I think many of us still have regrets. You aren't a bad mother- we all can see how much you love your son and if that isn't an absolutely wonderful mother, I don't know what is. (((hugs)))

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  • Auki13Auki13 member
    imagepb127:

    Please don't feel like that, we all try to do the best we can and I think many of us still have regrets. You aren't a bad mother- we all can see how much you love your son and if that isn't an absolutely wonderful mother, I don't know what is. (((hugs)))

    I completely agree.  You did what you felt was best at the time and your son knows that.  I believe that in my heart.  We all have regrets and I don't think there is any right answer where you would have completed your journey regret free.  I am so sorry you feel the way you do.  HUGS 

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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    ((hugs)) I think we all have regrets, but you are a wonderful mother.

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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    Huge (((HUGS))). At that time, you made the best decision you could. You are not a bad mother.
    Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
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    BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
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