hello ladies. please help :(

mausmaus · October 2011

hello ladies. i actually was just told that this board was here on the pregnancy loss board, i wasn't aware. i just need advice, i'm going crazy. i lost my son a year ago yesterday due to anencephaly, and i thought i was doing better since then but i feel like i've relapsed. i thought that time would make it easier and yes i knew when the real due date came and then this would be hard but it's almost unbearable. i just want to break down and cry. in a way i'm getting better because i used to burst into tears any time i saw a pregnant woman, thankfully i'm past that. but i'm back to the emptiness stage. like right after we lost him i felt so empty, hollow. i got better after a few months, but it is hitting me so hard right now. i just wanted to know if any of you had any advice for this. has anyone else lasped back into crazy zombie mode so long after your loss? what did you do to help? i planted a tree in his memory, but i still dont feel like that was enough. i'm so lost on what to do or how to make myself better. please help.

i'm also very sorry for all of your losses. no one should have to go through losing a child.

krysiahamaty · October 2011

I am still early in my grieving process so I don't have much advice but I'm so sorry you feel this way. I don't think one can ever really move on from such a tragedy as losing a child. I imagine with time it does get easier but I would imagine relapses are normal. Do you have anyone like a support group or something? Again I'm sorry for your loss.

roxyttandme · October 2011

I can remember having fits of rage! Utter rage! I would take a bucket of ice and launch them with all my might at our back wall. The impact was quite satisfying, I have to say. It was a great way for me to get the "ughh" out. Other than that, exercise, anti-depressants and a bit of therapy did me good. I think we all feel like sometimes we go one step forward - two back, two steps forward, one back.

Welcome to the board. I am so sorry for your loss!

(((hugs)))

butterfly843 · October 2011

((hugs)) I'm so sorry for your loss. I find that I will be fine for awhile, but once I approach the anniversary of when I lost my twins or my due date I relapse. I'm approaching two years in a few weeks and these last few weeks I've been finding myself in tears more and just really missing my babies. I try to keep myself busy on my loss date and due date.

starrkitten89 · October 2011

I am very sorry for your loss.It hasn't been too long since I've lost my daughter,but my feelings fluctuate daily.I did start therapy which has been more helpful than I expected,just to have an unbiased person to talk to.This board has also been a great help,and I hope it is for you too!(((hugs)))

DesiraeSunshine · October 2011

Grief is a scheisty b!tch. Sorry for your loss.

Auki13 · October 2011

I lost my daughter due to anencephaly in July, so mine isn't as far out as yours but to be honest this past week almost seems as hard as the first week we lost her! I don't know if it's the change in seasons, the fact that the holidays are approaching, or what but I am in a pretty bad place right now. I feel like the longer time goes, the more difficult it seems (I just miss her more and more) and I'm not sure what to do. I'm sorry I don't have any advice but I wanted you to know that I understand completely and I hope that things will get back to being a bit easier in the days ahead. (((HUGS))). This group of women is wonderful and so supportive and I hope they give you a little bit of strength as they do for me. I'm glad the miscarriage board was able to refer you to us.

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hewinked · October 2011

My grief ebbs and flows. I do well and then have really rough times. Anniversaries are really hard. My son's bday is in 2 weeks, and I have not been doing well at all. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to have these times. I find that if I try to fight them, it's often worse. I'm so sorry for your loss. So many hugs.

mdluv21 · October 2011

I am very sorry for your loss. I too feel like in the past month I have regressed and am feeling very depressed. For me I think it is the holidays approaching.

I think it goes in cycles. I hope things get a little easier for you very soon. ((hugs))

pb127 · October 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice, but I hope you'll find some comfort here. Big (((hugs)))

mausmaus · October 2011

thank you so much for your support. it's getting a little better now that it's been a few days. i really appreciate you listening and sharing your stories with me. i needed to be re-assured that i'm not alone in this and i'm not completely crazy for feeling this bad a year later.

Carolee · October 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a hard time as I approached and then hit the one-year mark. It was like all of the grief and the feelings came flooding back. I don't know that I really did anything to help, but things did get easier again after the one-year mark for me because that anxiety that I had in anticipation of the date was gone.

hello ladies. please help :(

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