Push gift?? What??

gothgrrl · October 2011

Ladies, this idea was shared with my DH last night at a Halloween party...we are clueless...is this something that is a national phenomenon? Huh? Or is it a southern thing, or what? For those who have gotten a push gift, what was it?

After pushing out a baby, is a plastic surgery/liposuction push gift a little too much to ask? Wink

cinderella4282 · October 2011

Wow . . . I stopped at asking for a Tiffany necklace Wink

But that's only because DH asked . . . I'm not sure that I would go all the way to plastic surgery though!

gothgrrl · October 2011

cinderella4282:
Wow . . . I stopped at asking for a Tiffany necklace
But that's only because DH asked . . . I'm not sure that I would go all the way to plastic surgery though!

I promise, I was joking about the plastic surgery...just really unfamiliar with the whole concept. Caught my DH off guard, too.

dojo1 · October 2011

I'm of the camp that a push gift is kind of ridiculous. We're savers and saving for my year of mat leave + baby stuff is enough to make my head spin without the added unnecessary expense of something flashy.

December192009 · October 2011

Hahahaha I totally wish mommy make-over had been in my future. I wouldn't recommend one unless you're sure this is it. We were sure 1 was it for us then we surprise got preggers with #2, then after using 2 methods of control we surprise are now expecting #3! We have since taken other surgical measures into our own hands

DH gifted me with a beautiful watch as a push present. I love it! Not sure if it's a southern thing. We are from the south, but I think its pretty common everywhere else too.

ADub09 · October 2011

DH said to me the other day that I was getting my push gift at Christmas instead of April and I said WHAT I don't want a push gift, we have been/spent so much to even get pregnant I don't need a push gift. So we have renamed whatever my gift is as a Christmas/Family Gift. I don't like the idea of a push gift I think it is ridiculous and show off ish. I was shocked my DH even mentioned the term ~ I still wonder where he got that from!!

xoladiebug · October 2011

I worked in the jewelry industry for 7 years and the "Push Present" has been around for a while now. A lot of times, I'd sell husbands small diamond necklaces, or a piece of birthstone jewelry. I'm not asking for a push present, but I'd love some Aquamarine jewelry for Mother's Day

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Moneypenny424 · October 2011

Push presents aren't just in the South. I doubt we'd do this. I'd be surprised if Mr. Penny knew about them, but like PP said, I can wait for Mother's Day Smile

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elainej · October 2011

Push gift = tacky

KTCaliL · October 2011

Meh, I think its really stupid, personally. I would have never heard about it if it weren't for the bump, and I'm know for a fact my DH has never heard about it.

Lesleyjking · October 2011

HA! I asked my hubs for a mommy maker ie boobs well after baby is born. hee hee!

I think some ppl do push gifts others do not.

easjer05 · October 2011

The 'trend' started a few years ago with some women demanding gifts on the birth of their children and some sweet husbands/partners giving gifts and retailers picking up on the idea and trying to market specific items, particularly mother jewelry.

It's certainly not something done in our house. We've got better uses for that money (not that I object to pretty sparkly things - but I can use new floors).

DevonPow · October 2011

I bought my own push present after DS1

He was born right before Mother's Day, I had wanted a diamond band for a while (to match my wedding band), so I bought it for myself for my 1st Mother's Day. It has DS's name and birthdate engraved in it and I wear it on the other side of my e ring. I will probably buy myself another piece of jewelry after this one. I figure I deserve a nice gift, but I don't feel the need to make DH buy it for me.

jsillyfun · October 2011

I don't really see the point. Babies are expensive enough. I do plan to add a charm to my bracelet with my child's initial. But, I'll do that whenever and it isn't a present from DH to me. I feel like the baby is the present.

EllasMommy2010 · October 2011

In my family, a gift for the mother is the norm. (I live in South Dakota) In fact, my grandma gave my mom a nice present after she had me in 1981. My DH got me a plush robe and a gift certificate for a massage and mani/pedi. I don't think it is tacky to give the mom a little pampering after giving birth. Obviously, it shouldn't be demanded, but I don't think it hurts for DH to get the mom a little something.

AugustSkye · October 2011

In a perfect world, I would only have 2 words:

Breast. Reduction.

salt78 · October 2011

elainej:
Push gift = tacky

ITA. I think it's ridiculous to get a gift for performing a perfectly natural act that women have doing since the beginning of humanity. Put that money toward something useful like the child's college fund.

OR_Bride · October 2011

My husband's family has been doing it forever it seems. I don't like the term push present and don't think that it should be required or demanded by anyone. Although if hubby wants to do something I don't see any reason why he couldn't. When our #1 was born we added two charms to my bracelet and will probably do the same with #2. I don't think the gift has to be expensive, I think it should just have meaning.

shannm · October 2011

I have heard of it before but we didn't do anything like it.

I did tell my husband that if I didn't get at least one balloon, I would be really pissed. He heard me and brought me a beautiful bouquet and some balloons to cheer up my hospital room.

greeneyed_bride · October 2011

I've heard of Push Presents before, and I'm in Ohio, so it's not just a Southern thing.

I'm definitely not asking or expecting anything from DH. For one thing, baby is due three months after my birthday, two months after our 5th wedding anniversary and Christmas, and nine days after Valentine's Day. DH and I will definitely be 100% out of gift ideas! (He usually gets me jewelry for our anniversary anyway.)

However, just to play the devil's advocate - I have heard before that for some new moms, the time right after the baby is born can be difficult. The combination of hormones and the fact that almost 100% of the attention mom has been getting for the past nine months has now been transferred to baby can be tough. My best friend just had a baby, and when we went to visit her and baby in the hospital, I brought a gift for the baby as well as a gift just for my friend (a charm bracelet.) I think it's nice for people (not necessarily just the husband) to do something nice just for the mom after the baby is born, so I can see why some people really love the idea of Push Presents.

5bears · October 2011

I don't think it's tacky or ridiculous. Why would my DH doing something to celebrate the fact that I have carried and birthed our baby and to celebrate this new stage in our life tacky or ridiculous? Especially if we were financially able to do so?

However, I do find the name "push present" to be tacky and ridiculous.

BigAppleBiggerBelly · October 2011

I'm in NYC, and they seem pretty common here. My husband said that most of his male coworkers with kids have given them to their SO's after birth. I'm not expecting anything so i wouldn't be upset if I didn't get one, but I certainly wouldn't turn down a present!

paintme · October 2011

I have a bunch of friends who are pregnant and plan on getting a push present...but they are more in good fun. One friend asked her husband for a botle of her favorite wine (20$) and another ask for a new pair of running shoes to help her get back into shape. They are more fun gifts that they could get themselves anyway but their husbands will pick them up and throw a bow on top for good measure and a really nice thank you card.

lizahan · October 2011

elainej:
Push gift = tacky

The name 'push present' is pretty silly, but the idea isn't tacky... Don't be jealous that you aren't getting anything!

salt78 · October 2011

paintme:
I have a bunch of friends who are pregnant and plan on getting a push present...but they are more in good fun. One friend asked her husband for a botle of her favorite wine (20$) and another ask for a new pair of running shoes to help her get back into shape. They are more fun gifts that they could get themselves anyway but their husbands will pick them up and throw a bow on top for good measure and a really nice thank you card.

Stuff like this I can understand. My husband already knows what kind of wine to have waiting for me at home.

I just think the gifts of expensive jewelry and stuff are unnecessary.

And that doesn't mean I'm "jealous" for not getting a present. I'm just practical and would rather him put that money toward something the baby needs. My reward for all the pushing is my daughter.

treble_clef · October 2011

I don't like the term push gift, but my husband gave me a ring when we had our son. It carries a wonderful memory:) I was so much happier with that present than, say, a Christmas present, which I think we are pressured to buy every year.

mrs+harlow · October 2011

I'm originally from the South now living in NYC and had never heard if this until about 8 years ago when the president of the company I worked for got a huge Harry Winston rock as a " push present" . It had been very common in NY for a long time and I think the gifting has spread. My husband has already brought it up and I never mentioned anything to him. Obviously, I don't consider it necessary but I won't turn it down either. Besides, it will be a nice heirloom to pass on to the child and say " Daddy gave this to me when you were born and now it's yours for your children."

gothgrrl · October 2011

Thanks for all of your thoughtful respones...like I said before, we were very unfamiliar with the concept and therefore, caught off guard. I know my DH takes all suggestions into account from our friends with children (this is our first), and he really wants to do everything "right." That being said, I am glad he asked me about it. Our LO is due just before my birthday, and Mother's Day will soon follow - I would rather the money be spent on something more useful for the family. But...like several PP's stated, if he wants to get something for me, who am I to turn down a present?? Thanks again! :-)

goldenleaves · October 2011

I don't think its a big deal, but I won't be getting a push present. We are way too cheap! If we want something we budget for it and get it. And if it's too expensive to even budget for, we don't need it!

dojo1 · October 2011

goldenleaves:
I don't think its a big deal, but I won't be getting a push present. We are way too cheap! If we want something we budget for it and get it. And if it's too expensive to even budget for, we don't need it!

I like your style!

BabyC2012 · October 2011

5bears:
I don't think it's tacky or ridiculous. Why would my DH doing something to celebrate the fact that I have carried and birthed our baby and to celebrate this new stage in our life tacky or ridiculous? Especially if we were financially able to do so?
However, I do find the name "push present" to be tacky and ridiculous.

I 100% agree!

lissag24 · October 2011

I think flowers would be a lovely gift and maybe a plush bear for your new baby... other then that hello you just had a baby do you really have that much extra money to throw around

ghdst1 · October 2011

I have heard of this but DH never got me anything. I mentioned it to him but he probably forgot. My one friend got a nice bracelet, my sister got a locket, and another friend got $100 to do with what she pleased!

BOTB2011 · October 2011

If DH wants to get me a gift I'm not going to say no... Wink however it is NMS to "demand" gifts to begin with - we don't celebrate Valentines Day, Sweetest Day, usually just go out to eat for anniversary, etc.

I think it's a little ridiculous...

My bff did get a push gift, she got a new car! (And there was nothing wrong with her old one either....)

FusionLMT · October 2011

I would like some nice flowers, and an awesome expensive sushi + sake dinner ASAP after we are home Drinks

Mommy2be0412 · October 2011

I think that the term push present is cute... don't know why people take it so seriously, my husband and I absolutely love to take any opportunity to get each other gifts, I think it feels great to shower people you love with presents and am not sure why others have such strong opinions against it....

nomi729 · October 2011

Totally! My wonderful husband is planning on getting me one. It's jewelry but I am not exactly sure what yet.

mamabear0813 · October 2011

DH is the king of getting small "suspies" (our term for little thinking-of-you gifts.) anything from a grocery store bouquet of flowers to an edible treat to a small cheap piece of jewelry like sterling silver or something. And he thinks of me often. So right after DS was born when he would come home he'd usually pick me up a little something. So no one gift as a "push present" but he definitely kept me in his thoughts. We aren't the kind to have big budgets for gifts anyway, so even my mothers day ring is sterling silver with a fake or manufactured stone. I still wear it every day and I love it. You can tell it's fake, but I love it just the same.

kiarstin · October 2011

I actually have a gift picked out for my husband to pack in my hospital bag. I like the idea of a small gift to remember something. I am getting him a watch. When he wears the watch maybe it will remind him of the day his son was born. I would never buy something crazy or out of our means much as he wouldn't but a nice gift to show you thought of a person is great. A card, flowers, chocolate, wine or some tasty vodka!

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