Late Term and Child Loss

Wondering

Yesterday was our six month anniversary of Avari's passing. For me one of the hardest things is not knowing anything about her. I wonder how curly her hair would be, if she would like vegetables, and if she would be crawling yet. Do you wonder about your child? If so, what do you wonder about?

Re: Wondering

  • Oh I think about so many things. I wonder what his personality would be like, what his hair color would be, what color his eyes would be, what his interests would be, if he would cry a lot, and so many more.... I wish so badly we wouldn't be wondering and we would be experiencing it first hand.
    TTC since November 2009. DH diagnosed with sperm antibodies. IUI #1 = BFN IUI #2 = BFN On the road to IVF.... Egg Retrieval Jan 21, 2011 16 eggs retrieved Egg transfer Jan 26, 2011 Only 2 viable eggs transferred. 1 IVF, 1 ICSI IVF #1 = BFP :-) 10/3/11 No heart beat at 38 weeks: Our baby Jack became an angel 12/14/11 = natural BFP Rainbow baby Samantha Jacklyn born8/8/12. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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  • i wonder this all the time especially since Sydney looked almost identical to my first DD it kind of haunts me all the time their pics at birth are close to identical so it hurts my heart. i wonder all the time if she would be just like DD1! The pain most days hurts so bad i cant breathe!!
    DS- Brenden born 11/13/93 Missed miscarriage on March 6, 2007 @ 9 weeks D&C on March 8th 2007. Riley Annalise born 2/25/08 ( 3 weeks early weighing 8 lbs 12.8 oz.) Chemical pregnancy 3/2010. Sydney Adriana born sleeping on 9/30/11 weighing 10lbs 3 oz at 38wks 4 days. Trinity Alivia born via c section at 36 wks 4 days weighing 9 lbs. 5.7 oz. She is our amazing rainbow baby!!! Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie First Birthday tickers PGAL buddy drvst8
  • I wonder the same thing.  It has been less than 48 hours since Sylvie died.  I got to hold her but never got to see the color of her eyes.  I don't know what color her hair was, if she would've been a good sleeper or what it would feel like to breastfeed her. I had an anterior placenta so I never even got to feel her kick.  That is so painful - I feel like i barely got to know her and then she was gone. 

    All the lost opportunities are what hurts the most.  

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    BFP #2 - Sylvie V. Q. born and died on 10.28.11 at 21w. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    BFP #3 - Evie V. Q. Fetal demise @ 16w. DC 7.8.12
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    BFP  #4 - Beatrix V. Q. Born 6.2.13 at 23w6d.
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  • There are so many things I wonder about. The sound of his cry, the color of his eyes, his personality. Its just not fair that we are all in this situation.

    Logan Gregory born sleeping 9/29/2011 @ 40wks 2days Forever in our hearts Lilypie - Personal pictureLilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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  • I dreamed that Quincy looked just like his sister.  Now, when I look at her curly hair, I wonder if I would have cut it when his started getting long and curly.
    Momma to 2 sweet girls here on earth and a precious baby boy in heaven
  • All the time and so much.  I wonder about so many things.  My DD was born at 35 weeks, so I always wonder if Adam would hit his milestones earlier than DD did.  I wonder who he'd look like.  It makes me nuts that I never got to see what color his eyes would be.  So, so many things. 
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  • I wonder what it would have been like to raise a child with no legs, 1/4 of her fingers and a fused hand. What would it have been like if she were able to live through all the damage she was experiencing and of course we didn't terminate. I wonder if she would ever be able to walk with prosthetics. I wonder at what age. I wonder what kind of life she would have lived. And worst of all, I wonder how much suffering she would have continued to experience to live that so called life. 

    I try not to wonder as much as I can. :( 

  • I wonder a lot.  I wonder how tall he'd be, how much he'd be talking, how fast he'd be walking, and most of all I wonder about his eyes.  It makes me so sad that I'll never know the color of his eyes.
    Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
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    BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
  • Same things, what would she look like, what outfits I would put her in, what her little personality would be like.
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    DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
  • I wonder about everything. I wonder about his hair and eyes. I wonder about his first night home. I wonder about his favorite foods, stories, and songs. I wonder about his first tooth and first day of school. I wonder about his first crush and first kiss. I wonder about his graduation from high school and college. I wonder about his bride and my grandchildren. 
    Avery Alexander Napaluch born sleeping October 24, 2011 at 32 weeks.
    He was 4lbs. 9oz. and 17&1/2in. He was absolute perfection.

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  • I'm so sorry...i wonder about EVERY about my son. i only saw my son's face for 1 second..they tell me he looked JUST like my husband as a baby except my nose.i wonder what his eye color would have been,how fast he would have grow,for a week i didn't know how much he weighed until i saw a pic that said 9.8 pounds.i didn't know how long he was for months 23 inchs found out from the autopsy report...it kills me.he would always kick when he heard my husband,if he sang he would wiggle all around,i wonder if he would still like it,if his long hair would have stayed the same color as my husbands,would he have dimples like my husband,loved cars like me and his dad,broken bones like me when i was little?just soo much..
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