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So mad! And sorry for SS!
I posted earlier on insisting that SO and I have a date night tonight. Well I got a text from SO at about 4 this afternoon saying that he was going to have the kids. We had already made backup arrangements with BMs parents as a backup to BM for tonight so I knew something serious must have been up.
Turns out that the girls had a halloween party tonight with a friend so BM had promised to take SS to the school halloween carnival. She told him it would be a "special date" just for them. Well apparently she got a date that she liked better during the day and cancelled on SS. SO came home early from work and SS spent an hour crying in his lap. He's 8 and couldn't understand why his mommy would promise him something so fun and then not want to do it anymore.
We made the best of it and took SS to a hibachi grill to celebrate his great report card he had last term. He had forgotten all about it by the time we left but was still very clingy to SO. I just don't understand how you could do that to your kid! SDs didn't find out until SO called to let them know he would be picking them up instead of BM and they flipped! SD13 is a really protective big sis and was really upset.
And the best part...SO, me, BM and BMs bf will all be meeting for the first time bright and early tomorrow morning for SDs softball tournament. I don't know how I'm going to keep my mouth shut...I am so ANGRY at that woman!
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Re: So mad! And sorry for SS!
So sorry you've been going through this. It sounds familiar and very frustrating.
I know it's going to be hard, but try and keep your cool tomorrow. It's the best thing you can do. I'm guilty of blowing up (via email) to BM of my SS3 and I don't know if it was the right thing to do. They were things that needed to be said. But, she doesn't care at all about what we think of her and nothing is going to change her ways so it just increases the frustration. The best thing to do is keep a record of things, and try and remain on the higher ground. I try and tell myself that all the time!
TTC 10/11. IUI 2/12. BFP 3/8/12. 4/26/12 missed mc. RE consult 5/17/12. IVF #1 ER 7/13/12 53R, 41M ICSIed, 32F, 8 5d, 6 6d blasts - all PGD/frozen. PGD results 1 normal M and 1 normal F, 1 maybe M. FET 9/6, transferred 1 F embie. Beta 9/15 BFN. FET#2 planned for 11/2012 put off until 2013. Surprise BFP 11/21/12!! My son was born on 7/24/13!
UGGGH!!!! The frustration is so familiar!! First off, SS will forget, I promise. My SS BM rolled out of town on Xmas when SS was 3 for a week. We called and called, when she finally picked up her excuse was "I can't come get SS, Im washing my bikini out in BFs shower" BM gets on the phone with SS and tells him she's coming to get him...and NEVER SHOWED. SS cried and cried.
SS is 6 now, doesn't even remember a thing, or of he does he doesn't talk about it. We aren't going to remind him about it.
It will be ok, you are and awesome SM!!! AND who doesn't love habatchi!!!!
My dh remembers a list of things with his parents fighting and his dad not showing up starting at around age7 or 8. His difference op is that he had no one in his corner.Your ss is lucky to have you.