I find myself really missing Anna's birthmother. I haven't talked to her in months, and I'm a little bit afraid to. We saw quite a bit of each other while she was pregnant, and Anna looks so much like her, so I'm reminded of her daily.
She has so many issues with anger, and insecurities, and entitlement (she isn't a young girl, either, she's 31), so it is difficult to have a relationship with her. The last time we spoke, she told me never to talk to her again (this was probably 5 months ago). She is bipolar, so sometimes she gushes about how thankful she is that we have adopted Anna, and other times she curses us and says that she wishes she never had picked us (because we would not, on the advice of the adoption agency, loan her $200 to pay rent). It is really sad. I try not to take it personally, as I know she has gone through a lot more in life than I ever will.
I guess I want to reach out to her and find out how she is doing. I really care about her and want the best for her and her fiance (Anna's BF). But I'm afraid I'll piss her off. I did send her Anna's 6 month pics and a letter, asking her how she was doing, if they've moved like they planned to, but I haven't heard anything. I'm not sure if I should press the issue. But I think about her so often.
Re: I really miss Anna's birthmom
I could have written this. Luke is almost two so it's a bit different now.
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So sorry you're in this hard place too.
Oh Fred, This is a beautiful idea. How creative and meaningful.
I really like this, too.