Never thought I would be here

babyquestnortheast · October 2011

Hi Ladies -

I have been hanging out on the preg loss board for the past week (lost the baby on Tuesday and have been in the midst of m/c ever since). I got the call from the doctor today confirming the m/c so thought I'd visit over here and see if it lifts my spirits at all. Surely hearing about people looking to the future is a good thing...

The other board has been such a huge source of support and encouragement during what has been an absolute nightmare. I never in a million years thought I would find myself in this place. This living, walking NIGHTMARE.

I was able to have a natural m/c and it was fairly early, so the NP and OB said we could try right away when my cycle comes back (does anyone know how long that could take?).

I'm excited to try again but also TERRIFIED -- what if something goes wrong again??!!! Ugh.

My thoughts are with each of you in your journey to conceive after a devastating loss. Praying for sticky babies for all!

~Heidi

keft514 · October 2011

I'm new here too. I hate that we are all here, but I know you will find tremendous support on this board. I just joined it today after learning of my m/c on Wednesday.

I have found that nobody knows what to say, but this board is comforting and all of the women have been amazing.

We are terrified to try again too, but also very anxious and excited. I think that many of us are in that boat. That's what makes this board the perfect outlet for all of our thoughts, fears, anxieties, emotions, etc.

Thoughts and prayers with you during this difficult time.

mrsjenni · October 2011

Aww, thinking of you hun and I'm so sorry for your loss. I too was suppose to be a June mama We had a very early loss at 5w and my doc gave us the green light to try again right away (using natural m/c as CD1).

We're TTC this cycle and I'm just scared to death now. Like even if we get a BFP, I will be so scared to even be excited about it. Sigh. I'm also confused about my cycle b/c I had signs of O too early... I'm just not feeling it this time around. I'm hoping I get back on track next month (but still praying for a BFP/July baby!) I guess all we can do is just wait and see (but I'm not very good at that.)

{{{hugs}}} I hope you find this board as wonderful as I have.

bluebonnetmeg · October 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I don't think any of us really thought we would be here, but the ladies are wonderful. I hope you can find some comfort here.

VikingQueen · October 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. It is full of such amazing women that have been exactly where you are now. We all have the fear of what if it happens again, it's natural, but we continue to push on and be so strong for what we want in life. Everyone differs for how long it could take for your body to regulate. I hope you stay here is short and sweet.

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tanya8 · October 2011

I am truly sorry for your loss. These ladies here on this board are extremely supportive! Hopefully, you will heal quickly so you don't have a long wait TTCAL!

babyquestnortheast · October 2011

mrs.jenni:

{{{hugs}}} I hope you find this board as wonderful as I have.

Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss as well, wow your EDD was very close to mine. Um could we discuss the cheeks on your baby Brynn! Holy cute!

bribri81404 · October 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board! I hope you find the comfort that I have here. These ladies are nothing short of amazing!

postcards · October 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're right, it's an absolute nightmare of a situation. You will get though it, we all will! This board is a great support for this journey that is TTCAL! Welcome!

JeffNessa810 · October 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. This board has already been a great source of support for me and I've only been here a couple days now. FX for your July baby! Hoping for one myself

MeatballEsq · October 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. I agree that it is a club none of us should get a membership too

But like the other ladies have said, this is an amazing board, that really helped me with the grieving process and getting emotionally ready to TTC again. ((HUGS))

orangegoggles · October 2011

I am sorry for your loss. I understand about the fear you have to try again. That is one of the worst parts (for me) is losing that naive and blissful happiness that nothing could go wrong. I was so happy when I was pregnant and NEVER thought about m/c....now I am sure I will be so nervous the entire time

Hugs to you and hopefully your TTCAL journey is short and sweet.

CdnFarmGirl08 · October 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. I have the same fear as well. We lost ours in September at 6 weeks. We are nervous too about it happening again.

Hugs!

mijakach · October 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel about TTC again. I was already paranoid the first time around and sadly all the worries I had came true. I am definitely looking forward to my next BFP but I know I'll never be able to enjoy a pregnancy without that constant worrying.

I do find that it helps to post here and on the Miscarriage board since everyone else understands what I'm going through. I hope you find lots of comfort here and can look forward to the future.

chop2428 · October 2011

So sorry your going through this. I think it's fairly normal to be scared of having another mc. If your ready then go for and try to keep faith that everything will be alright ( I know easier said than done). FX you get a BFP and healthy baby very soon.

coastalmaine · October 2011

So, so sorry for you loss. It totally sucks that any of us have to be here. It has been a long slow journey for me. I can tell you that it will get better...day by day. Just take it one day at a time. As far as being terrified to try again...I completely agree...it has been four months since my loss and I am just now ready to take the leap...however, I can't say I know how to get rid of those nasty "what ifs"....I have been trying to "turn the car around" in my mind when I start going down those dark roads...best of luck to you and you will find some totally amazing women on this board. ((hugs))

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