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June 2012 Moms
alr5
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True or False... (VENT)
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Re: True or False... (VENT)
Wow! I am SO sorry for all that you are going through.
That is just inexcusable!!
yikes that's horrible.
well i think if michelle duggard from 37 kids and counting is still standing you are good to go!!
I'm pretty sure you will be fine. All my brothers and sisters are within a year and half of each other and my mother is still alive to tell about it.
I'm so sorry that you have people with that kind of negativity in your life. You know what you want in life. You have to live to make yourself happy, not everyone else. Try not to stress their comments too much.
I think it's perfectly okay to have children so close together. One girl I know is 22 and has 4 kids the are 4, almost 3, almost 2, and 7 months old. And she trying for the 5th when her husband gets back to the states. The only thing her doctor warned her about is that her body may not heal all the way since she isn't giving it enough time. And her babies have been on the small side because of it. But all are healthy!
I've learned to ignore the haters. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing, every baby is a miracle and anyone who says otherwise can zip it!
I never understood this. you would think family would just be happy to have a new baby around. My brother and I are were born a year and three weeks apart. actually we had the same due date so it would of been only a year. I was on time(i hate being late), and he was thankfully late. WHen we were little everyone thought we were twins, i think if we had the same birthday too that wouldn't help the matter.
what do they expect you to do now?? NOT have the kid?! get real.
I'm worried I'm going to get comments like oh but your so young and you just got married don't you want to travel and enjoy married life??
no i want to start a family. i think i know what i'm doing, but thanks.
Those cupcakes look fantastic. I love the mayo clinic website. This is all I could find. I personally had grandparents and a cousin who had children really close together and everything turned out fine for them. My cousin had three children in a row less than a year apart, with no extra complications. The family shouldn't have said those comments. Best wishes for a H and H pregnancy for you both!
https://www.mayoclinic.com/health/family-planning/MY01691
I'm SO sorry for their reactions. I would be so hurt. I don't have any links about the safety of having kids close together, but my high risk ob with my son said it's perfectly fine. The only safety consideration she had was if you had a previous c-section and wanted a vbac next time there needed 1 year to pass between when you last gave birth and when you would be giving birth again.
Those cupcakes look amazing!
I have heard that you shouldn't get pregnant within the first year because your body is still healing and it can take quite a toll on your body.
As for being dangerous for you or the baby especially during labor and delivery? No, I have not heard such things.
My family had a very similar reaction when I told them about #2. My mom actually asked me if I knew what birth control was. It angered me and hurt me but eventually I realized it is MY life and the only people that REALLY matter is myself, H and our son. If they want to be bitter about it then they can go screw themselves.
They've gotten a bit better through the last 2-3 weeks but it still hurts to talk about it to them.
I'm sorry you are going through this too. They will become more accepting as time goes on. Just be happy for yourself!
omg wtf! If you ever want to be adopted, come to my family and they will go wild for your babies. Who doesn't like babies?? Ugh!!! But yeah, I majored in Child development and they always said it was best to have children two years apart. On the other hand, I can't remember the reasoning why. Which means it isn't important. Which means have your babies and forget all the lame things ppl are telling you! aghhh
Even if there were any truth to that, you're ALREADY pregnant. Them being pissy doesn't change or help that in any way so . . . yeah, that was pretty sucky. Go treat yourself to one of those cupcakes!
There are higher risks for compilcations and your body is still semi depleated (nutrient wise) from the first, that is why the reccomend 2yrs between PG, and for some reason I cant remember people of hispanic descent are at higher risk for low birth weight babies and other medical complications for the LO based on having them too close together, but it happens and the medical field handles it so. I say have them when you want.
My OB who i have yet to have an appt with reccomended 2yrs but everyone is asking me now when are we having the next one. I keep saying soon, they'll all be shocked when I tell them at ThANKSGIVING, but if they were asking first then decide to be snarky when i tell them boy I will be sure to call them out on asking in the first place.
The only things I had heard were the VBAC/c-section rules mentioned by a pp. And I had heard that your bones can become weak from calcium depletion. Just take good care of yourself and you'll be fine.
Sorry your family was so sucky.