Lets talk about sex... realistically

mamastich · October 2011

So its coming up and of DH is looking forward to the ok from the Dr, but Im getting a little nervous so... answers please! And Im not rushing it and i know exhasution will play a factor but im curious

How active (walking, gym etc..) have you been since your C?

How soon after you got cleared did you give it a go?

Were you successful?

If not the first time, how long until things went smoothly?

And anything else youd like to add!

mrsseguin · October 2011

We waited till 8 weeks pp to have sex. Just go slow and use lube. We had no problems.

mamajanna28 · October 2011

I have been walking everyday since I had my C section but I really don't have time for the gym or other activity unless LO can come along. We didn't quite follow the rules and had sex at 4 weeks Embarrassed

It was fine but we had to go really slow at first. Just make sure that you are "in charge" the first few times so that you can figure out what is most comfortable for you.

KellyT24 · October 2011

This is with an emergency C-section, Got the okay after 6 weeks, did it before though and down there area was fine as long as we paid attention to the scars and stuff. only in the hospital for 4 days not due to C-section, other issues. The scar is still sometimes tender, especially when little man manages to dig his toes just right, or my older two bump it. Wearing jeans or certain underwear was horribly uncomfortable till about 5-6 weeks after.

pepomntpat · October 2011

We went for it at 6 weeks PP. It hurt and we used a ton of lube and we were very slow about it. Do not have a lot of expectations. If it turns out better for you, be pleasantly surprised.

I think BFing was part of it. I really did not enjoy sex until about 8 MONTHS pp. Thankfully my DH is not a pushy bastard and was okay with a couple of times a month until that point. Now we are back to a normal sex life.

Besides I was so into sex while pregnant I didn't feel too guilty about a little deficit. Wink

wyldirishrose12 · October 2011

The doc gave me the go ahead to fool around if i felt up to it when I got my staples out a week later. He just said to be extra careful. We tried at 4 weeks pp but it was very sore and uncomfortable so we ended up waiting the 6 weeks. This was my 2nd c-section.

faith194 · October 2011

I can't remember when we successfully had sex. I remember we tried around 8 weeks and I was in so much pain(no lube). It didn't get good until 7 or 8 weeks pp. I believe it was due to hormones. We did get the clear at 6 weeks. I would not have sex prior to a dr's okay, due to the risk of infection.

magdalina.h · October 2011

We waited until 6w. We went slow and used lots of lube. TBH, it's just now starting to be not as painful.

l_elizabeth · October 2011

mamajanna28:
I have been walking everyday since I had my C section but I really don't have time for the gym or other activity unless LO can come along. We didn't quite follow the rules and had sex at 4 weeks It was fine but we had to go really slow at first. Just make sure that you are "in charge" the first few times so that you can figure out what is most comfortable for you.

This exactly. We waited 4 weeks and it was fine, just go slow!

ChiTown Bridget · October 2011

We waited 10 weeks and it was very uncomfortable for me. To be honest, I was actually a little surprised because I figured it wouldn't be painful since I had a c/s and not a vaginal birth.

g00dg0llymsm0lly · October 2011

How active (walking, gym etc..) have you been since your C? I had a rough recovery, but started walking regularly (built up to a mile, now I do two) every morning at 4 months PP.

How soon after you got cleared did you give it a go? 4 months

Were you successful? Yes. It was awesome. It's still awesome. It's my only favorite part about having had a section lol, the sex was unaffected.

And anything else youd like to add! Please take it easy on yourself. Nothing is worth interrupting the healing process. Not the laundry. Not the dishes. Not sex. I tried to do too much too soon and literally re-opened my incision, THEN it got infected, and it was NOT a fun time. Next time I am going to sit on my ass for a month, and be perfectly ok with that.

mrsw23 · October 2011

We did not wait the 6 weeks to have sex again lol. I think it was more like 3 or 4 weeks. I was never in labor and didn't have any pain down there, so why wait? I definitely don't regret doing it early! Best sex ever! No lube needed. Don't psych yourself out about it, just approach it when you feel ready... you may be surprised like I was ; )

faith194 · October 2011

mrsw23:
We did not wait the 6 weeks to have sex again lol. I think it was more like 3 or 4 weeks. I was never in labor and didn't have any pain down there, so why wait? I definitely don't regret doing it early! Best sex ever! No lube needed. Don't psych yourself out about it, just approach it when you feel ready... you may be surprised like I was ; )

Remember, infection is a huge risk regardless how your LO is delivered. Your placenta left an open wound in your ute, and that is why doctors say to wait the full 6 weeks(at least).

pepomntpat · October 2011

faith194:

mrsw23:
We did not wait the 6 weeks to have sex again lol. I think it was more like 3 or 4 weeks. I was never in labor and didn't have any pain down there, so why wait? I definitely don't regret doing it early! Best sex ever! No lube needed. Don't psych yourself out about it, just approach it when you feel ready... you may be surprised like I was ; )

Remember, infection is a huge risk regardless how your LO is delivered. Your placenta left an open wound in your ute, and that is why doctors say to wait the full 6 weeks(at least).

Yeah, this! And I really don't get how anyone can have the best sex ever with an abdominal incision that is still healing on top of not sleeping because of having a newborn around. I really do wonder if some of these women are making this crap up, because I have a very gentle and patient husband and it was not good AT ALL!

cottonlily84 · October 2011

I don't understand why anyone wants to rush it. I'm only 3 weeks out from my c/s and my whole pelvic area, inside and out, is still really sore. I'm not thinking 3 more weeks is going to make much difference, especially considering that's 3 more weeks of no sleep and nursing every 2 hours. I just don't get the go slow, use lube, be gentle, don't expect much enjoyment advice. With that kinda of advice necessary who would want to have sex like that?!?! Only when I get to the point of being able to put jeans on or sleep on my tummy without pain and feel anything like having sex will I give it a whirl. And if it doesn't work out then oh well.

boxergurl · October 2011

pepomntpat:
faith194:

mrsw23:
We did not wait the 6 weeks to have sex again lol. I think it was more like 3 or 4 weeks. I was never in labor and didn't have any pain down there, so why wait? I definitely don't regret doing it early! Best sex ever! No lube needed. Don't psych yourself out about it, just approach it when you feel ready... you may be surprised like I was ; )

Remember, infection is a huge risk regardless how your LO is delivered. Your placenta left an open wound in your ute, and that is why doctors say to wait the full 6 weeks(at least).

Yeah, this! And I really don't get how anyone can have the best sex ever with an abdominal incision that is still healing on top of not sleeping because of having a newborn around. I really do wonder if some of these women are making this crap up, because I have a very gentle and patient husband and it was not good AT ALL!

I had a very easy recovery plus my incision was pretty much healed and my bleeding was almost nonexistent, so we had sex just before I was 4 weeks pp. It really was some of the best sex I've had in a long time and that is no lie.

Now, question is would I do it again? No way. A few days before I was 6 weeks pp, I started hemmorhaging. I don't think it was related to the fact we had sex before being cleared, but after passing out twice, hitting my head and hurting my ankle in the process and then getting 4 units of blood transfused, I don't think I'd be tempted.

annabelle.27 · October 2011

We had sex at about 7 weeks. It was mildly painful, but more because I was tense than for any physical reason I'm sure. To be honest, I didn't really get back into the swing of things until about 9 months pp- I just wasn't ever in the mood before that point.

+diana82+ · October 2011

No gym but am constantly running around after a 2YO. We were cleared at 6 w and have had no issues.

skio · October 2011

How active (walking, gym etc..) have you been since your C?

I started doing walks at 1w pp. The first ones were very short, but by 8w pp, I was up to a mile or two a couple times a week. At 6m pp, I started jogging and doing weights/crunches again. I'm still sore to the touch in my abdomen.

How soon after you got cleared did you give it a go?

Cleared at 6w, tried two days later.

Were you successful?

Nope. Hurt like a mofo, stopped halfway through.

If not the first time, how long until things went smoothly?

We waited another week and a half, so at 7.5 or 8w pp, we finished the deed. But it was NOT pleasant. It honestly didn't become anything near pleasant until about 6m pp. I had major issues with burning and tightness. Lube didn't do squat, in fact it made it worse. I was on top for the first many times so I could control the whole thing. We're just about back at 1-2 times per week now, and like I said above, it has only been fun for me the last month or so. Thank god. Although my sex drive is still zero...so while it's okay while we're doing it, I have no interest in sex.

Breastfeeding has definitely contributed to both the painful sex and lack of sex drive issues for me.

mrsw23 · October 2011

pepomntpat:
faith194:

mrsw23:
We did not wait the 6 weeks to have sex again lol. I think it was more like 3 or 4 weeks. I was never in labor and didn't have any pain down there, so why wait? I definitely don't regret doing it early! Best sex ever! No lube needed. Don't psych yourself out about it, just approach it when you feel ready... you may be surprised like I was ; )

Remember, infection is a huge risk regardless how your LO is delivered. Your placenta left an open wound in your ute, and that is why doctors say to wait the full 6 weeks(at least).

Yeah, this! And I really don't get how anyone can have the best sex ever with an abdominal incision that is still healing on top of not sleeping because of having a newborn around. I really do wonder if some of these women are making this crap up, because I have a very gentle and patient husband and it was not good AT ALL!

Did I say do it at 4 wks PP just because I did? They're called h o r m o n e s and sometimes (obviously not in everyone's situation) they help matters. I probably should have also mentioned that it was pre-deployment sex, which is always amazing. My goodness, people.

byrne15 · October 2011

I had an emergency c-sec and an episiotomy.

We waited until 11 weeks pp and it was still painful. It took about 8 months for it to get better and about a year for it to be normal. (I had trouble with the healing of the episiotomy)

Want a personalized experience?

Lets talk about sex... realistically

Re: Lets talk about sex... realistically

Choose Another Board

Search Boards