My bff (who is throwing my shower) is coming over on Sunday to talk about the shower and so that I can give her my guest list. My bridal shower wasn't all that long ago, so I'm thinking the guest list will be very similar. However, my mom has told me she would be fine with less of her friends being invited this time around since she knows I want a more intimate shower with just my closest friends and family.
That being said, I'm thinking about not inviting several members of DH's extended family. They are his 3rd cousins, and we're not close with them. They didn't attend (or even RSVP for) my bridal shower. Would it be ok to not invite them to the baby shower? I don't want to upset my MIL (she wouldn't make a big deal about it, but she would definitely ask me about it) or cause hurt feelings. I just want a nice, small baby shower brunch and am trying to reign in the guest list.
Thanks in advance for your help
Re: Guest List question
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I've thought about it. But they have attended my SIL's bridal and baby showers and I'm wondering if it was just a fluke that they missed my bridal shower (or maybe they just secretly hate me lol)
We see them maybe a few times a year. Sometimes just on Christmas Eve.
What you need to do first is talk to your friend about what she can afford to throw. SHE actually determines how many people you can invite! It's not her responsibility to throw a huge shower where you invite "everyone".
So... yes, you can limit your guest list. Plus, past that, showers really are supposed to be for your closest family and friends. They aren't supposed to be "invite everyone you know" events. And your wedding shower guest list has nothing to do w/ your baby shower guest list.
IF your MIL gets upset, all you need to say is that you're keeping this baby shower smaller and more intimate. Even say that due to your hostesses budget, you can't invite extended family. If your MIL REALLY wants her extended family, she can also step up and offer to throw a shower for her side of the family. Again- it's not your friends responsibility to accomodate "everyone".
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