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MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · October 2011

I'm having one of "those days" where I need to vent flame free- PLEASE join me, I won't judge.

Today I wish I worked... to just go somewhere else- without the kids and just space out or concentrate on something else for a whole day. Just 1 day.

I'm so frustrated with the babies, it's insane. They teased me with sleeping through the night Wed night and now they're back to the same crappy up 3-4x between the 2 of them, like it's been for 4 stinkin' months straight. Then they're up at 4am for the day. I can't keep living on these nights of 45 minute naps. We missed PT for Disney and scheduled a make up session for 2day- I rushed to get all the kids dressed/presentable, forced the babies into an early nap and ran around to get the house clean... only for the PT to cancel an hour before. It's not his fault- I understand but it's just the icing on the cake of my morning.

Two*True · October 2011

50% of me is not ready for DW to come home. The other 50% is of course thrilled.

olivia_eve · October 2011

I can't stand it on other boards when people brag about their babies sleeping through the night and then make it seem like it's because of something they've done. Like- "Well we have a bedtime routine and give a bath before bed." Ohhhhh! Of course! I have just been putting Thomas in a cardboard box and not feeding him for 3 hours before bedtime. Why didn't I think of a routine and a bath? Secretly, I wish for their babies to stop STTN. Blame my evilness on lack of sleep.

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · October 2011

olivia_eve:
." Ohhhhh! Of course! I have just been putting Thomas in a cardboard box and not feeding him for 3 hours before bedtime. Why didn't I think of a routine and a bath? Secretly, I wish for their babies to stop STTN. Blame my evilness on lack of sleep.

Thanks for the laugh on a day I needed one badly

MelissaSue81 · October 2011

olivia_eve:
I can't stand it on other boards when people brag about their babies sleeping through the night and then make it seem like it's because of something they've done. Like- "Well we have a bedtime routine and give a bath before bed." Ohhhhh! Of course! I have just been putting Thomas in a cardboard box and not feeding him for 3 hours before bedtime. Why didn't I think of a routine and a bath? Secretly, I wish for their babies to stop STTN. Blame my evilness on lack of sleep.

LOL. So true.

Kim72508 · October 2011

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt:

olivia_eve:
." Ohhhhh! Of course! I have just been putting Thomas in a cardboard box and not feeding him for 3 hours before bedtime. Why didn't I think of a routine and a bath? Secretly, I wish for their babies to stop STTN. Blame my evilness on lack of sleep.

Thanks for the laugh on a day I needed one badly

I totally agree!

TinyPinkBug · October 2011

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt:

scheduled a make up session for 2day- I rushed to get all the kids dressed/presentable, forced the babies into an early nap and ran around to get the house clean...

You know what? I wouldn't bother to worry much about how presentable your house and kids are for therapists. I am sure that your house is 10times cleaner on its worst day than a lot of the homes they visit on their best day. I used to just be sure the kids were wearing shirts and underwear/diapers and that there were no clothes, blankets or pillows on the floor. My house is usually pretty cluttered and I would sometimes appologise, they would often tell me not to worry about it because, they just appreciate being able to sit on a floor that is clean, a lot of there visits, this isn't the case.

TinaL99 · October 2011

olivia_eve:
I can't stand it on other boards when people brag about their babies sleeping through the night and then make it seem like it's because of something they've done. Like- "Well we have a bedtime routine and give a bath before bed." Ohhhhh! Of course! I have just been putting Thomas in a cardboard box and not feeding him for 3 hours before bedtime. Why didn't I think of a routine and a bath? Secretly, I wish for their babies to stop STTN. Blame my evilness on lack of sleep.

I think I love you.

And
MrsW, I think that's totally valid. I guess my FFFC is that I'm partially ready to go back to work. The stressful days of taking care of a screaming baby and active toddler are wearing on me. But of course the last 2 days have been better and I feel guilty for even thinking it.

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · October 2011

TinyPinkBug:
MrsWhiteonWhiteSt:

scheduled a make up session for 2day- I rushed to get all the kids dressed/presentable, forced the babies into an early nap and ran around to get the house clean...

You know what? I wouldn't bother to worry much about how presentable your house and kids are for therapists. I am sure that your house is 10times cleaner on its worst day than a lot of the homes they visit on their best day. I used to just be sure the kids were wearing shirts and underwear/diapers and that there were no clothes, blankets or pillows on the floor. My house is usually pretty cluttered and I would sometimes appologise, they would often tell me not to worry about it because, they just appreciate being able to sit on a floor that is clean, a lot of there visits, this isn't the case.

My pt told me he used to have a client who kept things in black garbage bags and literally just had a path through the living room for people to walk through!

goosh24 · October 2011

I'm annoyed with my SIL for backing out of going to a wedding in November. This wedding is 4 hours away and she guilted us into feeling like we had to go so we are, then another wedding she was supposed to go to got rescheduled and is the same day so she's going to that one. So we're driving the 4 hours, to go to a wedding and reception that J will maybe last like an hour at, then driving the 4 hours home. The wedding is family of step-MIL and we don't really speak with her or any of them (messy story) so we're on our own at the wedding. I get why she's not going, but I know she wouldn't be happy about it if the situation were reversed.

goosh24 · October 2011

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt:
TinyPinkBug:
MrsWhiteonWhiteSt:

scheduled a make up session for 2day- I rushed to get all the kids dressed/presentable, forced the babies into an early nap and ran around to get the house clean...

You know what? I wouldn't bother to worry much about how presentable your house and kids are for therapists. I am sure that your house is 10times cleaner on its worst day than a lot of the homes they visit on their best day. I used to just be sure the kids were wearing shirts and underwear/diapers and that there were no clothes, blankets or pillows on the floor. My house is usually pretty cluttered and I would sometimes appologise, they would often tell me not to worry about it because, they just appreciate being able to sit on a floor that is clean, a lot of there visits, this isn't the case.
My pt told me he used to have a client who kept things in black garbage bags and literally just had a path through the living room for people to walk through!

I always stress about having the house clean but I know that our house is exceptionally clean compared to a lot she goes to. She had to change the way she brought toys in because a bunch of the houses had fleas this summer and she won't wear her hair down because of lice. Yuck! Makes me happy to be her first appointment on Tuesdays!

Chapter79 · October 2011

olivia_eve:
I can't stand it on other boards when people brag about their babies sleeping through the night and then make it seem like it's because of something they've done. Like- "Well we have a bedtime routine and give a bath before bed." Ohhhhh! Of course! I have just been putting Thomas in a cardboard box and not feeding him for 3 hours before bedtime. Why didn't I think of a routine and a bath? Secretly, I wish for their babies to stop STTN. Blame my evilness on lack of sleep.

It's the bathing. Really. You should do that more often! (I kid, I kid).. that would annoy me, too. I don't blame you, nor do I think it's you being evil. Just a normal mama frustrated with lack of common sense from others.. right? FTR, I hope he does sleep through the night very, very soon :::hugs::::

MY FFFC (which, btw, I have to admit I needed to google.. being a newbie here, I had no idea what that stood for).. is needy friends. I have a friend I text often, because I enjoy doing so. We met on a board many moons ago, have never met IRL. But.. if I go more than 1 hour without texting her, I get a "freak outttttttt" text from her saying "did I do something wrong? Are you mad at me? Can we talk? What'd I do??" ::blink:: I write back.. "actually, I was just cleaning the bathroom..." I seriously just don't like NEEDING to text someone so often. I should want to? I do have a life. Sometimes. It's annoying to me that she often thinks I'm mad at her, just because I haven't sent a text in a bit. I'm just... living my life. Meh.

Kim72508 · October 2011

I'm annoyed with people who just don't "get it" when it comes to kids. Many of our single friends don't understand why we decline the middle of the week invitations to happy hour and the dinner invites with 30 minutes notice. To them I want to say "Just wait til you have a child, your life will surely change" and the FFC, I also want to say FU when they give me grief about it!!! haha!

The real FFFC....I wish everyone would just give out allergy friendly stuff this Halloween! (Completely irrational and unfair thought, I know!) The thought of Halloween treats and Halloween parties scares the crap out of me due to DS's food allergies. We had a really bad reaction this week and I just want to put him in a bubble.

Ashnmike528 · October 2011

Mine is mean. I really don't want my IL's to come up for Thanksgiving or Christmas (usually one or the other) this year. My grandparents and sisters will be in town for Thanksgiving, staying at my mom's, and I'd rather spend time with them. Plus for Christmas I"ll be like 37ish wks pg, and I don't want to feel like I have to entertain them.

battybtags · October 2011

I got asked to work today a few weeks ago (normally my day off)...well, my boss let me leave at lunch for the day. DD's at daycare so I'm doing stuff I want/should do this afternoon-going to hit up the mall (maybe xmas shop?) and should do some packing of the house...I feel guilty leaving DD at daycare when I'm not at work, but just this once won't kill me!

JenJar · October 2011

Yesterday, DH woke up quite grumpy. He was off and we had G's Halloween party to go to, so I needed him to cheer up pronto. So, I proceeded to tell him about a racy dream I had about him....never had the dream, made the whole thing up, but I knew it would snap him out of his mood.

MelissaSue81 · October 2011

JenJar:
Yesterday, DH woke up quite grumpy. He was off and we had G's Halloween party to go to, so I needed him to cheer up pronto. So, I proceeded to tell him about a racy dream I had about him....never had the dream, made the whole thing up, but I knew it would snap him out of his mood.

love it!!!

MelissaSue81 · October 2011

I have one..

I really just lost it on Eve.. And I'm feeling really guilty about it.. I yelled at her... bad.. She just won't listen though. She just completely ignores EVERYTHING i say.. And I know the yelling won't help.. but I really get so ANGRY. I don't want to be so angry at my kid.. but I am. She made an enormous mess with her lunch today.. and doesn't seem to care that shes being terrible. I swear she used to be a good kid.. She used to be sweet and nice and caring.. and now she's just plain BAD.. I really am afraid I'm raising a really bad kid. the kind of kid that all the other parents hate.

June4bride2be · October 2011

I decided too late to do an event with R for Halloween....so I am calling and searching for something to take him too. The Y is $30 for non members....and it is just R and I. That is too much. I called our Wegmans and she told me they already had theirs on Wednesday.....

so here I sit eating candy and in tears because I didn't plan ahead. We did ZooBoo last weekend, but he loved it so much I wanted to do another thing before we TOT Monday.

Telyco · October 2011

I hate bad drivers and tailgaters. I try to be extra safe when I have the kids. So this morning we were in a line of traffic but a safe distance behind the car in front of me...we were probably going 50 or so. the car behind me was right up my buttt and was swerving all over the place. I saw some nasty looking debris on the road and everyone ahead of me was going around it. I waited until the last possible second to swerve around it so the guy behind me wouldn't have time to miss it.

MelissaSue81 · October 2011

And as I was typing that, Eve fell while climbing in an out of her bed.. so I went up to get her.. and left Natalie propped up on the couch.. she tipped over and I came down to her face down with her face between two couch cushions screaming. i really am sucking at this mom thing right now.

JenJar · October 2011

MelissaSue81:
And as I was typing that, Eve fell while climbing in an out of her bed.. so I went up to get her.. and left Natalie propped up on the couch.. she tipped over and I came down to her face down with her face between two couch cushions screaming. i really am sucking at this mom thing right now.

You don't suck at this mom thing. Huge ((HUGS)) to you right now. Some days, some weeks, some months are just harder than others. Two and three are ROUGH ages! Hang in there...

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · October 2011

MelissaSue81:
And as I was typing that, Eve fell while climbing in an out of her bed.. so I went up to get her.. and left Natalie propped up on the couch.. she tipped over and I came down to her face down with her face between two couch cushions screaming. i really am sucking at this mom thing right now.

Melissa- you don't suck. You're doing your best. I swear it's impossible to be a perfect mom when you have more than 1 kid- you're pulled in a million directions 24/7. In my house it feels like someone is always crying, hurt, whining or being ignored

mrsoc · October 2011

I am SO HAPPY that both boys are napping at the same time right now....the day is just so crazy and busy when this does not happen. I should be doing something like the dishes or laundry, but I am enjoying my "me" time.

abba916 · October 2011

I appreciate DH works hard and I get to stay home but I wish sometimes he was just a grunt worker and left work at work- he's been home and its been helpful but he's also been totally plugged into the office which sucks...

wendyj · October 2011

Today was one of those days when I wish I was still single. Not married without kid. Single. I set my own schedule. I do not have to be responsible for anyone or anything. And I definitely wouldn't have to deal with a three year old screaming at the top of his lungs and openly defying me at every turn.

Yeah, it's been a craptastic evening.

@Melissa - right there with you. You're an awesome mommy. Some days just suck. Hang in there.

NikCole · October 2011

I am loving being back to work, so I totally hear you MrsW.

I feel a bit guilty, but it's so nice to get dressed and go to work, have adult conversations and even enjoy what I'm doing. Things are a bit more hectic in our lives, but overall I'm much happier. I loved being a SAHM, and am grateful for the 2.5 years I got to stay home with Evan... but I totally now see that being a working mom is more "me". Plus the paycheck makes it all the more worth it! (although the daycare bill does not!)

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