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Sort of a question, more of a vent

anna7602anna7602 member
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I had a lovely breakfast with some local moms this morning (yay for balance!) and the subject of the preschool "bully" came up. This isn't a kid I think much about because DD holds her ground and he stopped bothering her, but apparently, he still gets away with the occasional biting or hitting of some of the other kids, despite all the teachers closely watching him.

The director of the school has spoken to the parents repeatedly, has expressed her concern that maybe the child has other issues and should see a specialist or be tested for sensory issues and the parents haven't done anything about it (the mom herself disclosed all this info to one of the moms I was with today). It seems like it would be within reason for the school to tell the parents they have to take their child out given how many other parents have complained, but the mom is a bit unpredictable (ok, she's a total bully herself and has a very aggressive way of speaking). The director, who is friends with another of the moms, is afraid she might do something like hire a lawyer (on the basis of what???) or make some kind of public protest about her child being "kicked out" of the preschool.

I don't know anything about these things. It's a private pre-school. Do the parents really have any "rights" in this situation or can the director just tell them they can't bring their child back? I was blissfully unaware until this morning how many of the other kids are actually afraid of this little boy.

 

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Re: Sort of a question, more of a vent

  • ITGurl0626ITGurl0626 member
    I don't know about your pre-school but my in-home daycare provider has a clause in her contract that she can terminate us in the case my child is bullying others (after repeated attemtps in correcting the behavior) or if the parent is not adhering to her policies (picking child up late, etc.).  But in all reality if this one child is bullying so many the director needs to think about whether it is beneficial for her to lose ine child (the bully) or many kids (the bullees) whose parents' are tired of complaining about the same child.
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  • GHBEAGHBEA member
    "IF" the preschool has done everything in their power to help this child and the parents and are not getting anywhere the school has every legal right to ex spell the child.  All children should feel safe at school and if this is such an issue then these children are not safe.
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  • rae_dylanzmomrae_dylanzmom member

    The director is being bullied... what a trip.

    Already mentioned in a pp, but my thought is that the moms who are complaining should discuss pulling their kids out of the daycare with the director... that will give her a legitimate reason to do something about it.  

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