My cousin's wedding/shower was back in May/June....

June4bride2be · October 2011

you think thank you's should have been mailed by now? I know they say a year....but for shower too? It is my mom's sister's daughter...I am dying to ask my Aunt what's up....surely she can't think this is acceptable.

I think about this way too much, and let it get to me! lol

amamommy · October 2011

I'm so anal about Thank Yous. I literally do them the night of or the next day after a shower/bday party or whatever. I just wanna make sure everyone is thanked, and be done with it!

If I were you, but this is ME, I'd ask your Aunt if she sent them out because you hadn't recieved yours yet! Or something to that effect...

MelissaSue81 · October 2011

Here is my shameful confession...I would say about 1/3 of my wedding thank yous never got done/sent..I dragged my feet on it.. and then I wanted DH to do his friends ones..and he didnt do them.. and then i lost the list.. So I really dont know who did and didnt get thank yous..I am embarrassed about it.. but there isn't much i can do about it now.

That being said.. I dont really care about getting thank yous. They usually go immediately in the trash after I open them. Now that you mentioned it, DH went to his friends wedding in July, and we havent gotten a TY..I hadnt thought about it til now.. but then gain, maybe its cuz we never sent one to them.. HA!

jnk062602 · October 2011

Don't ask the aunt! Someone asked my mom about a thank you note from dd's baby shower and I was so annoyed bc if it was that big of a deal they should have just asked me. And I had sent them one, who knows what happened, but I sent them another one anyway. And the second one was super crappy bc I had already tossed the list after finishing the thank you notes the first time and I wasn't positive what they gave me. So it was just a dumb generic note. I'm still annoyed haha.

Telyco · October 2011

Yeah - I'd get over it...with all due respect

They're nice to get, even nicer if they are timely...but the lack of one doesn't keep me up and night, kwim?

That said from someone that never mailed out Leah's birthday TYs. I had my wedding TYs mailed two weeks after the wedding, though. But things are just super crazy and I always like to include a photo and write something personal and cutesy, etc. This year - I plan on having labels all printed for people (I need some for Evan's invites and thank yous, Xmas cards and Leah's invites and thank yous....all within a month and a half!!)

olivia_eve · October 2011

Hmmm, I sent out notes for all of my shower gifts, but I was under the impression that if you open the gift in front of the person and thank them in person, they are not required. Am I wrong?

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · October 2011

I can't stand thank yous but always do them. Like Melissa said- they go right in the trash once I read them. They're always so generic anyways. I understand like if someone sends a gift- to send a thank you but for parties it drives me nuts. Like J's bday is in 2 weeks... as he opens gifts he will give each person a hug and say thank you. Then say thank you for coming when they kiss goodbye. What I REALLY want to write in the card is "dear in-laws, here is 'thank you' on behalf of my son for the 3rd time. I know if I don't send a card you'll talk sh!t about me behind my back. Have a nice day".

Ashnmike528 · October 2011

I'm pretty old school when it comes to TY notes. When I was little I remember my mom laughing hysterically when I asked her if I could write a "You're welcome" note in response to a TY I received. :-)

I have a mini confession, I never received one after my neighbor's twins bday party (we bought 2 gifts mind you) so I never sent them one for the gift they got DD. Maybe I should...

TinyPinkBug · October 2011

MelissaSue81:

Here is my shameful confession...I would say about 1/3 of my wedding thank yous never got done/sent..I dragged my feet on it..

Ditto this, except I would say only about 1/10th of mine. All for various reasons. Some of them got returned to me in the mail, some I just didn't have the right address, one I found in the bottom of a drawer stamped and all 4 years later when we moved. No idea how it got there.

Mrs_Hark · October 2011

i've sent them for the major events, in the past 6 years: my surprise 30th b-day party, wedding shower, wedding, baby shower, christening and 1st birthday.

M's 2nd birthday i did not send them out, i feel guilty that i didn't but i am guessing that no one noticed. we've gone to a lot of our friends kids birthday parties and not received thank you's, so i don't think it's a big deal.

ArcticFox · October 2011

I do them right away for that reason. Sometimes I even address the envelopes ahead of time.

I don't really think there is a good excuse, unless it was something extremely serious. I know for every time I've ever not gotten a thank you, that person has enough time to watch TV, play games on FB, and do plenty of leisurely things. I don't possibly understand how someone can sit and watch TV and not jot a quick thank you note.

Two*True · October 2011

I have about five TY notes sitting on my entry table....from DD's birthday back in April....for people I don't have addresses for. I've called, FB'd, asked other people and yet I'm still stuck with these. I feel like I should get them out but at the same time I've tried to get info.

BelhurstBride · October 2011

I haven't gotten one from a shower last August. And I bought the bride a Tiffany's necklace. Safe to say I'm not getting one...

June4bride2be · October 2011

I think big events, like weddings and showers need to have thank yous sent. Typically those gifts are higher priced or are cash. It is just rude not to send them. I have sent them for bdays from R, not sure how long we will do that. He always gives a big thank you in person.

If my grandma sends me a bday card w/$ in it....I call her and thank her.

I don't mind getting them in the mail, I think it is nice for the person who was given something to stop and show appreciation.

Sure, there are always the little issues....but I am going to stick with expecting a thank you note for a big occasion.

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