Fears of Labor...Anyone Else

luckyholly · October 2011

Hello ladies, so I have become even more aware this week that I am acctually going to have to deliver my baby girl in uumm...around 13 weeks. And, I AM AFRAID!

I am afraid of tearing, pooping, my DH looking at me diffrently afterwards, my body not bouncing back. And all of these come in after my my concern for a healthy baby. I would love to see her again just to let me know she's doing well. Anyone else a little scared?

PhoxySteph · October 2011

This is my 4th and I admit I am swcared to death of L&D! My girls arrived very quickly and each labor got shorter and shorter. We now live almost an hour from the hospital some Im a bit scared.

I admit I was more nervous with my 1st. But it is over pretty quickly and you will never forget it. Its an expierence unlike any other.

Im also curious as to what everyone else is feeling right now as well! We are all reallllly close!!

christina627 · October 2011

I think it was at this point with my first that those fears kicked in....also that I wouldn't be able to handle the pain and I was planning to give birth at home. I got through it without pain meds (but in hospital) and got a healthy baby boy.

This time my biggest current fear is that I'll either go into labor early...like now, before DH moves back here (he's got about 2 more weeks) and still having fears of miscarriage/still birth.

I posted this on FB today, but I want a pact that no more of us are gonig to do this crazy early labor thing. I know we can't control it, but here's to hoping.

Cleo29 · October 2011

I was more scared/ nervous because of the unknown factor. No one can tell you for certain how things will go and I admit it, I don't like that. lol

I was less worried about pooping, they are such pros that they get things cleaned up in seconds or even H seeing me differently than before, I just didn't want it to be so miserable that I would look back on it with horror.

In the end, it wasn't. H probably does view me differently, but in a positive way. To see your spouse do something that hard (pushing is no freaking joke) and go through all that and come out smiling, is pretty amazing. And I am sure your H will think the same thing of you.

kerryholmes · October 2011

I started to get nervous the last time around about this time. Scared that somehow I wouldn't be able to handle the pain (which was far less painful than I imagined btw)

This time around I let my mind go wild once in a while "will LO be breech, etc" but I am pretty calm and just excited for the most part.

namara5532 · October 2011

I'd be lying if I didn't say I was scared. I think I've channeled my fears into the hospital not giving us the birth we want, but I admit the prospect of giving birth to another human being is unknown and scary. I'm also still scared about premature birth or even a stillbirth, even though this pregnancy has been for the most part uneventful.

What helps me is to actually think about my little mother able to push out an 8lb and then a 9lb baby. I'm taller and more heavily built than her, so I know physically my body can do it. I'm doing Bradley method which is a lot of relaxing enough to let my body do what it needs to do. I hope I'll be so focused on it that I won't freak out midway and overthink what I'm doing: having a baby!

howardm · October 2011

I am nervous... More of the after delivery and being able to handle everything just in the first couple of hours. It is only my husband and I in this state... so it will be just us for a while, and we are not experienced with babies by any means. I am just scared that we are going to have her and then I won't be able to handle it and being tired from labor....

kcvasquez · October 2011

I think it's totally normal to feel a little scared no matter how many labors and births you've been through! Every one is different and you don't know quite what to expect. I'm nervous about my VBAC, but try not to let negative thoughts enter my mind, but every once in awhile I'll think "what if my body can't do this." We know what you're feeling though, at least it's a board of women who aren't alone in this!

potbellypig · October 2011

I also have 13 weeks left (as of today) and the fear factor has started to creep in.

I'm telling myself that nobody has died from labour pain.

sanbry · October 2011

My nervousness about it comes and goes at this point. Mostly I wonder how/when it will happen and how painful it'll be. I try not to think about it too much. I'm just trying to get by week by week lol

gen2009 · October 2011

I'm still terrified.

babesbabs · October 2011

Um YES! I am fearful of the tearing, and the pain and what my body and lady parts will be like after.. I am not completely set against having an epidural, although right now I would like to go without it. So I just keep telling myself that if I am in horrible amounts of pain and am miserable beyond belief that I will get one (and not feel guilty LOL)

theladyjess · October 2011

I'm not too worried about pooping (it happens, no one's going to care) or tearing. What I'm most worried about is going into labor at home and not being able to get ahold of Hubby at work. He works on air craft carriers and if he's down on the boat he doesn't get cell service. His project is way behind and was supposed to be over before my EDD. Now there going to be their most busiest when I'm due. He'll most likely be working 10-12 hour days, 6-7 days a week. I'm just praying that someone will be in the office to answer the phone.

gemmalouise85 · October 2011

I cant lie, I have my moments where I get a little scared but as one of the PP's said, its more of the unknown. Also, I am just so focused on our little girl coming out healthy that I find I am more fearful of anything that side of the fence rather than labour itself.

Pooping? Meh, if it happens it happens. Yes its an embarassing thought now and I certainly am not planning on it but what can you do? and DH is so good at making light of things that its not something that we will both focus on. He has already joked about bringing a pooper scooper just in case! Lol

My biggest fear is not being able to do it drugs free - I am petrified of an epidural. The thought of anything going into my spine is horrid and the side effects I have read about, no thanks! Obviously each persons body reacts differently so who knows! I dont even want the gas and air because of the woosey feeling that comes with it. We will see though, when I am in the moment things could change drastically!!!

We will all be fine ladies - We are MADE to do this!

gymkatinka · October 2011

Me, me!I'm scared.This is my first.I'm scared of not being able to handle the pain and whining like a ninny...

I have less than 10 weeks left. Two days ago we did the hospital tour and seeing the birthing room made me so uneasy.Thank God the end of the tour was at the nursery.Seeing those munchkins in there gave me some strength.I know their mommies have just gone through hell, but there is the reward, right there.

As they say, we are meant to do this!We can do this!

ames243567 · October 2011

I am totally freaked out. Hopefully the Child Birth Classes will help clam my nerves.

bigbear · October 2011

I have been completely relaxed the entire pregnancy but lately I do find myself thinking about labor alot more. I'm still battling with fear of pooping while pushing, I don't know why but that just bugs the heck out of me! Also, I am going med free and some days I have my doubts b/c my fear is severe tearing and how that would be. I'm afraid I won't handle the tearing and stitching pain. I think we will all get hit with more fears as the due date nears. You are definitely not alone.

But we can do it!

elandric · October 2011

I feel a lot less scared now than I was a couple months ago. I think just because I have been reading up and at least trying to familiarize myself I have calmed down a lot more. I will still be nervous and anxious but I think I'm getting better mentally prepared even though you just never know for sure how things will go. I have been trying to prep DH with the things I am learning as well so that he wont be totally shocked.

jason&robin · October 2011

This is #3 for me and I am still a little nervous. Every time is different. I hope it all turns out okay. Csections scare me.

Dasie515 · October 2011

ames243567:
I am totally freaked out. Hopefully the Child Birth Classes will help clam my nerves.

For me Child Birth class made my fears worse. :-(

Hang in there ladies. For me I was so ready to get DD out I did not care how I had to do it. Like PP said, no one knows how it will go but it will be a great story to tell later in life and you might look at DH Different and he might look at you differently but in a good way. DH and i have so much more respect for one another after seeing how strong I was and for me after seeing how carring he was, usually its the opposite. We will get thru it!!

lp0 · October 2011

Me! I'm absolutely freaked out by the whole idea of L&D. I'm not concerned about the pain because I know the epi will take care of that but I'm really worried about tearing, scar tissue afterwards, dealing with stitches (keeping it clean, trying to go to the bathroom, etc), etc.

luckylindy · October 2011

I thought I would be as we got closer, but honestly I am not. The only thing that I am concerned about is making sure that baby comes out healthy. As for everything else, he's coming out one or the other and neither is going to be pleasant. Worrying isn't going to change that and will only stress me out.

sanbry · October 2011

theladyjess:
I'm not too worried about pooping (it happens, no one's going to care) or tearing. What I'm most worried about is going into labor at home and not being able to get ahold of Hubby at work. He works on air craft carriers and if he's down on the boat he doesn't get cell service. His project is way behind and was supposed to be over before my EDD. Now there going to be their most busiest when I'm due. He'll most likely be working 10-12 hour days, 6-7 days a week. I'm just praying that someone will be in the office to answer the phone.

This is what i'm scared of. My hubby is Air Force and works on the flightline. I can almost never get ahold of him(can't use cell and they refuse to call them in from the line) when he's at work and he works 12's generally also. I told him I might just show up at his squadron looking like a crazy woman if i can't reach him.

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