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It hit a cord with me... (vent)

So my, dad (technically, step dad - but raised me since I was 4--5) has been in the hospital for the past 43 days. At many points he was on his death bed, but he is getting better. He has three biological children, two of which live local to him but due to some family history, they haven't seen or spoken to him in over 20 years. Due to his critical condition, we reached out them and they are now getting involved and visiting our dad (which, I am THRILLED about!). My dad's son has a baby girl (8ish months) and the daughter has three girls. They both told our dad that he needs to get better so he can meet his granddaughters. 

It just breaks me to hear this. I too have a daughter that I want him to meet and he will never get the chance. My mom told me about this conversation twice (one about 5 mins ago) and each time it is brought up - I am just crushed to tears. It just hits a really sensitive cord. I told my mom I can't hear about it any more cause it just hurts too much. 

We are going to have a family reunion if that is what you want to call it- when he gets out of the hospital (probably 2ish months out). He will meet his granddaughters and I am sure I will be there to witness it. I am also sure I will be a sobbing mess. 

I just needed to vent and get this out of me. It is just so unfair! I too have a daughter and she doesn't get to meet her family. She doesn't get to meet her dad or be apart of his life and he doesn't get to be apart of hers. And to make it worst, neither do I.

I guess today is a I miss Haleigh day....  

Re: It hit a cord with me... (vent)

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    You are not alone on your feelings here.  When I saw my MIL hug and kiss all over our new nephew a few weeks ago it broke my heart.  My babies will never have that experience.

    Big hugs to you today!

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    Oh how painful! I'm so very sorry. (((hugs)))
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    Sending big hugs your way.

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    (((HUGS)))  I'm sorry, and you're right, it isn't fair.
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