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I am going to hold a newborn this weekend

roxyttandmeroxyttandme member
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My co-worker had a baby girl last Wednesday. He knows my story and encouraged me to visit him and his family. I agreed that it was time. I have been thinking about it quite a bit and trying to prep myself.... and I think I am going to be okay. It has taken a longggg time for me to get to this place - so this will be a big accomplishment for me. I am going to drag my DH with me. I think it will be good for him as well. I am actually kind of excited about it. I am sure I will get teary eyed - but that's okay. I think that just comes with the territory. 

I think this is an example of how time makes it better. Not ever right or okay - just better. A year ago I wouldn't have dreamt of doing this.

(((hugs))) 

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  • krysiahamatykrysiahamaty
    Big hugs to you. I'm proud of you and I'll be thinking of you.
    TTC since November 2009. DH diagnosed with sperm antibodies. IUI #1 = BFN IUI #2 = BFN On the road to IVF.... Egg Retrieval Jan 21, 2011 16 eggs retrieved Egg transfer Jan 26, 2011 Only 2 viable eggs transferred. 1 IVF, 1 ICSI IVF #1 = BFP :-) 10/3/11 No heart beat at 38 weeks: Our baby Jack became an angel 12/14/11 = natural BFP Rainbow baby Samantha Jacklyn born8/8/12. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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  • illinigalillinigal member
    Hugs.  Dh's friend and friend's wife had a baby a couple weeks after our loss.  We went and visited them and held their baby at about a month old.  I was actually surprised it wasn't as difficult as I thought it would be.  I was sad for us, but happy for them.  I hope you too are pleasantly surprised when holding the baby.
    TTC #1 since October 2008. Dealing with MFI.
    IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
    IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
    IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
    Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
    IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
    Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
    Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
    IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
    IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
    ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer :(
    Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
    IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
    IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
    **P/SAIF and P/SAL always welcome!**

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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  • johnnys junejohnnys june member

    *big hugs*  You might find this to be healing in a small way!  The first time DH held our friends baby after Logan passed -- the baby was already 9 months old by then), DH said afterwards that it was kind of healing.  That he could imagine actually holding Logan and he knew Logan was with him.  DH never got to hold him.

    I'm very proud of you.  I think you are a very brave woman!  Sending T & P your way!

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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    That's a big step!  I'll be thinking of you this weekend...I hope it ends up being ok!
    Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
    Too beautiful for this earth
    BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
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  • pandabearloverpandabearlover

    I held my friend's newborn in August. I was totally fine until I looked at baby's mom and saw the sadness in her eyes. And then I cried.  We were due about a month apart.

    The next baby I saw/held was my best friend's nephew. I told her not to look at me and just let me be with him. It was fine and I didn't cry.  

    Momma to 2 sweet girls here on earth and a precious baby boy in heaven
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  • lovemymaddylovemymaddy
    ((hugs)) I am proud of you already for even being ready to try!
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  • cookie_queencookie_queen

    I'm proud of you. It's a big step.

    I find that sometimes the build up and anticipation are harder than the actual situation. YKWIM?

    TTC with severe MFI since 9/08 IVF w/ ICSI #1 May/June 2010= BFP twins
    Callan George and Bennett Charles born and died 11/7/10
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
    FET #1 April 2011= BFN
    FET #2 July 2011= no transfer because my lining sucked
    FET #3 February 2012= BFP! 1st beta 9dp5dt=314 2nd beta 11dp5dt=977 1st U/S 3/20 Twins- Heart rates of 111 and 138 Pregnancy Ticker
    Living After Losing
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  • pb127pb127 member
    Big hugs!! I hope it goes well this weekend!
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