I'm 30 years old. Honest to god, I thought I was done with facebook drama.
But here goes....
My SIL is having a baby shower in a few weeks. I spent about $300 on nice classic children's books, and a bunch of stuff from her registry. The gift is wrapped and ready to go.
Today I was creeping on facebook and saw a comment SIL made one of her friend's wall:
The friend's comment was: HATE KNOW-IT-ALL PEOPLE!!!!!
My SIL commented with: "tell me about it...my sister in law is a lawyer FML"
It's not that I give a *** what SIL thinks of me, I just no longer want to give her such an expensive gift anymore since she's such a *** for saying that.
Part of me wants to unwrap the gift, take half the stuff out, and then give her just generic stuff off her baby registry.
The other part of me is telling me to rise above, and that the gift isn't for her, it's for my niece anyway.
I don't know.. what would you do?
Re: Baby shower gift drama....
I would still give the gift since, like you said, it is actually for your niece's use.
I wouldn't write anything in the card but before the shower date I would make her aware that you read what she wrote and didn't appreciate it. Hopefully she will apologize and things will smooth over. If she doesn't she'll feel like an azz when she opens her gifts from you (and she'll deserve to feel like one!).
First of all, I hate the term "FML" People who use it really use it for the stupidest things and I just think it's so ungrateful. I never see it used like "my entire family just died of the plague...FML." To me, that would be appropriate! All I ever see is like "I just stubbed my toe...FML."
Ummm...anyway...
So...she hates having a lawyer in the family, huh? I bet that won't stop her for running to you for free medical advice if she ever needs it.
That being said, I would leave the gift as is. You're right, it is for your niece.
You should definitely say something to her about the comment. That is just crappy, especially since you are family. Just say that it showed up in the news feed and you were a little offended by it.
Give the baby the gifts as you had planned, they are for the baby technically, not her. Plus you can do it to support your hubby's family, no matter how rude his sister is. :-) You did nothing wrong! Just be the best auntie you can be and all will be well.
Um, what?
I meant free legal advice...obviously. Oops.
And sign the card "with love from Auntie Know-It-All"
~Benjamin Franklin
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I like these Ideas. Or you could just pull her aside at some point after she opens the gifts and say, the gift I gave is what I think of you. It really hurts that you don't think much of me back.
This.
Plus, try to see the FB thing as a blessing. Now you really know how she feels about you. I know you don't care, but knowledge is power right? Knowing this will help you make decisions regarding your interactions (and gifts) in the future.
I agree. Put the books aside and give them to your neice on her 5th birthday.
This ha ha
I figured as much. I just thought it was funny.
wow... my first thought is - take that $hit back!! lol but i understand what you mean. so definitely still gift-give your original gift to the baby.
With that said, my Fi would definitely have written something back in return and i would likely say something too. it'd definitely rude. definitely mention something or have your SO take care of it.
If you are that hurt over the comment, maybe just send the gift and not attend the shower?
I agree with this exactly, although I personally don't know if I would have the will power to wait until a few weeks after the baby shower to talk to her about it. I can imagine how hurt and upset you must be. Even if you don't care what she thinks of you personally, it's never a good feeling to have someone say such mean things about you (especially a family member). Your gift sounds incredibly thoughtful and I think you should just go ahead and give it. Even if she isn't grateful, you are the better person. And like PP's said, now you truly know how she feels... no need to buy anymore expensive gifts in the future.
This!!! And I would definitely mention it to her.
Thanks everyone. I love my little unborn niece already, and I don't want to bring drama to her shower. (Yes, I know the shower is for my SIL, but we're celebrating the little baby), so I'm sticking with my original gift.
I didn't want to get involved. I really have no respect for SIL, so I don't care what she says about me. But my husband..hahaha I love him. I told him not to start *** with his brother, but he wanted to call her out on it. He was on my fb account last night and changed my status to: I KNOW ALL........
Hahaha. Maybe she will get the hint, maybe she won't. But I still think it's funny.
Awesome! Maybe later you can add a follow up comment about being a lawyer, like "after all, I am a lawyer!".
Or you could just threaten to sue her for slander/libel. I forget which is which. See how know-it-all she thinks you are then! Tee hee.