I'm making this post because a few weeks ago I experienced the best PG announcement of my life and I'm still in awe over it... I have a friend who knows all about our IF and I tell her a lot about the emotional aspects. Now that we're probably going to be child free forever, I've been telling her how that feels. Now, I've told other people this stuff before but I've never had someone do this...
She and her DH were planning to ttc and she told me to give me fair warning. Of course I figured they would get pg the first month (and they did) so one night before they tried we were discussing this and she said she didn't know how she was going to tell me when the time came. We decided that she should tell me though some stupid code... so we came up with "there are clowns in my car" (We were drunk.)
So, a few weeks ago she had a mutual friend ask me to hang out on a week night. I thought it was weird, but said Ok. When I got to her house our friend (the pg one) showed up with a bottle of Relax wine. We talked for a while as I wondered if she was ever going to drink the wine, but in my heart I knew what was coming. Finally she looks at me and says "I have a clown in my car, I brought you a bottle of wine" and I took the wine and joked "Are you telling me to relax?!" (she knows not to say that) and then I yelled at her. Seriously. I said "It took one month?! How the f**k did you do that?" She could tell I was joking but was upset deep down so she said I could cry if I had to so I did for a little bit but then said I felt like a jerk. She said I wasn't a jerk and then I cried for the rest of the night!
That was the strangest thing ever. In this moment that was *supposed* to be all about her I didn't have to congratulate her. I didn't have to pretend to be excited. I didn't have to ask stupid questions about when her due date is (though eventually I did) and I didn't have to wait until I got to the car to bawl.
The next day she called to see how I was doing.
I've never felt so cared for in my entire life.
Anyway, I know that sometimes people lurk for info on how to approach people. I thought I would put this experience out there as an example. If you have had a nice experience maybe we could share them so other people can understand... or just to have a few posts on this board!