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Afraid DH will Miss the Delivery

LEB2009LEB2009
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So we found out over the weekend that my DH's appeal to a wrongful dismissal lawsuit is scheduled for November 4.  He has to meet with the lawyer and the union representative on November 2.
I am due October 31 - but there have been no signs thus far of this LO making an appearance anytime soon.
Unfortunately we've been waiting 2 years to get the trial date and if he does not go the case will be thrown out of court.  I am petrified that he'll be at court when I go into labour and I'll have no way of getting a hold of him until end of session.
Thankfully my mom and sister are on standby and live close enough but I REALLY want to share this experience (its our first) with DH.
Would anyone ask their Dr about an induction???
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Re: Afraid DH will Miss the Delivery

  • MrsWilson93MrsWilson93
    Wow... that is a tough one and I totally see your point. Fortunately you are 39 weeks so anything could happen. If I were you I would be doing everything that I could to kick start something and at my next appt I would mention it to the Dr. and see what he/she says. If the Doc says not until 41 weeks then talk with your husbands lawyer and/or his/her firm. They always have their phones on them, right? Worst case scenario I would call the court house. They have to have something set up in case of an emergency, right? I hope everything works out. Keep us updated.
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  • duffmakerduffmaker member

    Hmmm I totally see how frusturated you must be... I would be stressing out massively... if doc won't budge from 41wks... did you see that post yesterday or the day before about labor cookies?

    https://www.shoppingfortwo.com/Articles/Pregnancy/breakyourwatercookies.htm

    I say give them a try... Smile added bonus you can tell us all if they really work Wink

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  • jnealetjnealet member

    I would personally play the odds on this one.  And the odds are that you won't deliver during the time that he's in court.  If you're already in labor before he goes, then maybe but if it starts while he's there then it will probably take longer than the time that he's in court for you to have the baby.

    Good luck! I hope baby decides to either come before hand or afterwards and that your DH's case goes in your favor!

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  • ChavayJakovChavayJakov
    I personally am squeemy over early inductions.  I figure, the kiddo needs whatever time he/she needs to be optimum during actual labor and surviving delivery, why make it less than optimum?  I'd want DH there more than anything (my DH's job is such that there is a chance that he could miss it or arrive late, etc) and I don't really have a back up family member or girlfriend to go in with me.  I'd be comforted with what you have, honestly, and would not ask for an induction that wasn't medically necessary.  I think I'd go the route of getting the lawyer's cell phone number and then text both DH and the lawyer if you head into labor.  Perhaps getting a call like that will have the judge post-pone things last minute?
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  • baby2011boybaby2011boy member

    If it makes you feel better, many of my friends who are military spouses have husbands who are deployed or on special duty assignments and miss the entire pregnancies, births, and may get to visit but some won't be home until the baby is six months or so.

    All I can say is I'm sorry and feel your stress. I am hoping husband will not miss the birth. I have no family and am alone. Luckily I have some good friends.

    My husband travels for work and can't just sit around for a month before or after the due date waiting for "what if" the baby comes.

    Will just say that no matter what happens, the most important thing is to keep a positive attitude. The baby is very lucky to have a mom like you who cares so much. Sorry for what you are going through.

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    P.S. The military hospital I am going to will not do "convenience" inductions. They will only induce if it is medically necessary or beneficial. Many think doing so  can cause women to need unnecessary interventions.
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