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May 2011 Moms
melamax26
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Your Sex Life Post Baby
melamax26
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OK, I have to ask: how has your sex life changed since giving birth?
Before I was pregnant and while I was pregnant I wanted my DH all the time. He could barely keep up. Now it's the opposite. He asks me when we'll have sex. I get in the mood sometimes but for the most part I'm OK not having sex. Granted once we start I'm totally good to go, but I am just not that into it.
Anyone else?
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Re: Your Sex Life Post Baby
I'm not all about it anymore. But it's not the sex, it's the touching. I have a certain amount of touching I can handle a day, I'm not a very touchy feely person. And between my daughters clinginess, and bfing... I'm in no mood to be touched any more when she's asleep. I need my alone time, and that's the only time I get it. Especially since with her waking up every 2 hours again, half way through the night I bring her into our bed. So it's extra touching there.
But you're not alone. It's very normal. Are you bfing also? I've also read that the hormones from bfing can reduce your libido, along with the whole being touched/intimate so often from bfing.
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We had sex pretty regularly throughout pregnancy, but I've wanted it even more since having DD. It's nice not to have to work around a huge belly!
Like PP mentioned, I do have a limit to touching in general. If DD has been having a really clingy day and BF constantly, I'm less likely to want to be touched at all by DH.
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I'd say we have it less often, (down to once or twice a week) but generally, its higher quality now.
I instigate less, cause I'm just tired now, and by the time we get into bed I'm exhausted usually. It almost always happens on weekends while LO is napping.
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I'm in the "don't want to be touched" camp. I love snuggling with my babies and even snuggling with DH if he doesn't try to cop a feel but sex is the last thing on my mind right now. I'm exhausted and to tell you the truth whenever we do try it hurts a lot still. I went to the OBGYN and had a scan to see how my fibroid looks. It's still HUGE so that's probably a lot of my pelvic pain. Not to mention the 60oz I'm pumping out a day.
Hope it gets better. I can't feel TOO bad for him, though, because I'll still "help him out" and he doesn't need to return the favor.
This isn't true for everyone. I EBF and my libido hasn't decreased at all. We also don't have to use lube; I haven't experienced dryness.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
This, totally all of this.
It's slowed down a lot (to maybe 1-2 x week now). It's hard for me to transition immediately from mommy/housekeeper/cook role to sexy wife role right when LO goes to bed. My hubby doesn't seem to have a problem transitioning, so it's probably just a female thing.
The whole time I'm thinking: "I hope LO doesn't wake up and cry" or "I hope hubs doesn't touch my boobs, they might start squirting"
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I think there's something about the touching limit----- I never thought about it but makes sense. As soon as he touches me it's like "ugh"....I'm tired. I work a part-time job plus take care of the house and both kids---juggling schedules of getting them place to place for preschool, daycare, etc plus handling everything else baby and house. DH works full time but is truthfully laid off 6 months a year. I've tried basically telling him--listen......if you help out and I'm less tired at night---we'll be able to do it more!
I think also for me I just don't feel sexy anymore. I'm way overweight now and just not happy with myself. I want to work out and feel better but I've been fighting infection after infection since DS2's birth--and just honestly feel sick all the time. So the last thing I want is sex. Having said that--we do it from time to time and it's fine but it takes a lot more to get me in the mood.
I will say this too---I saw on tv to wear sexy panties even though you might be wearing sweats--and it has helped. A little.
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