Jealousy issues?

bturner13 · October 2011

My lil man is such a momma's boy and I'm all about that.He is also our first and only child.I'm wondering how he will react once baby girl comes home in January. I noticed this morning when dropping him off at our baby sitter's( he's only one of two boys that go full time) he did not like the fact that I was holding the other little boy on my lap. He threw a little fit and tried to put his toy on my lap to move the other little boy and get my full attention.He will be 19 months when sister comes and I hope he has a good reaction to the changes although I know it will be a big change for all of us. Any advice,suggestions or experiences that anybody else has gone through will be awesome! I was raised an only child so I'm still new to this sibling thing and don't quiet understand jealousy issues and having to share with another growing up.

BetsyDavis · October 2011

Try to get him involved like Ellie I let her help pick out some of DD2 things. But when DD2 arrived she was a monster. Luckily after the first few weeks things got way easier and she started loving on sister rather then being mean and throwing fits anytime we did anything with baby. THe best thing you can do is when the new baby is here is for both you and your SO to set aside time everyday for one on one time with your DS. If he still feels special and like he's not getting replaced he will warm up faster. The day DD2 was born my FI took DD1 one shopping so she could get special big sister shoes and pick out a new toy that was just for her. Also remember it gets easier. I'm going to pass the best advice my pedi passed along to me in the hospital. If your feeding baby and your DS wants to be picked up then set baby down for a few minutes Baby won't care they may get a little up set whereas DS may feel left out and like they don't matter. Also it's better to not tell them no to touching baby and babies things. That will make them only want to do it more your better off to help them touch baby nicely and softly or to redirect their attention. Good luck

bturner13 · October 2011

Thanks!! Great advice!

12bailey18 · October 2011

I was worried about this too because DS would get mad if I would hold another baby in the church nursery. However, it is completely different with DD. DS adjusted beautifully and there were NO jealousy issues. We also include him and tell him it's his baby, this is his little sister, etc. He helps me "burp" her, he puts the bottles in the sink or throws away the diaper sack. He loves to feel included so I think that's helped. It's so amazing to watch him with DD. His love for her seems to grow the older they both get.

bturner13 · October 2011

12bailey18:
I was worried about this too because DS would get mad if I would hold another baby in the church nursery. However, it is completely different with DD. DS adjusted beautifully and there were NO jealousy issues. We also include him and tell him it's his baby, this is his little sister, etc. He helps me "burp" her, he puts the bottles in the sink or throws away the diaper sack. He loves to feel included so I think that's helped. It's so amazing to watch him with DD. His love for her seems to grow the older they both get.

Thank!! Looks like ours will be the same age difference as your two are! I like how yall tell him his sister! I will have to say that to him!!

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