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Consumed with worry

Clementine13Clementine13 member
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I'm 5 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby tomorrow. Unlike the first pregnancy, I am TERRIFIED every moment that I am going to miscarry. I can't stop worrying, no matter how I pray or try to keep myself busy. I guess it's because my sister-in-law just experienced a bad miscarriage a few months ago and I had to walk her through that emotionally--also, since I thought it would take us FOREVER to get pregnant with #2, I'm finding this pregnancy feels too good to be true. My DH and my family don't really understand the way I'm feeling. Anyone else dealing with this?
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  • CuteBride8808CuteBride8808 member
    yes! my husband doesn't understand why i can't just enjoy being pregnant. I am a worry wart anyway, but now I paranoid that Im going to miscarry or have an ectopic pregnancy, or that something bad will happen. I know why though, its because I had a miscarriage/ chemical pregnancy in May and was absolutely devastated. I wish I could just relax, but Im glad to know Im not the only one out there like this. Im doing a lot of shopping to try and get my mind off things.
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  • sproutmdsproutmd
    I feel the exact same way, and I have no other excuse other than it took a year and a half to get pregnant. My thoughts are with you!
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  • lilredd888lilredd888
    I know how it is to continually hold your breath during this time. My DH does the same thing. We both have had losses before we met and are 37. We were TTC for only 11 mos but it felt like an eternity with both of our biological clocks ticking. I can tell you this: it gets somewhat easier. When we had at first u/s at 6w3d, we felt immensely better for a while. We were still anxious, but less. After our 2nd u/s at 9w0d we took another deep breath and felt even less anxious. I figure/hope that it keeps up like that but am prepared for that last crazy few weeks when we'll start freaking out again Big Smile
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  • LCLaw3LCLaw3
    I dont think the worry really ever goes away.  My family and my husband think I'm crazy because I'm so worried and paranoid that if I even eat chocolate I will miscarry.  I suffered a previous d&c in May, so this may be part of the reason, and I'm sorry to say my personal experience is that its not getting any easier.  My 9 week scan was perfect and hb was 164.  Yet I have my NT scan in 3 days and I'm still terrified that I'm going to hear bad news.  I think it kind of goes with the territory of being pregnant.  I'm trying to make myself believe that there are some things I just cannot control and that every pregnancy is different.  Plus, I'm hoping that once I can feel the baby moving around and kicking, that I will feel more at ease than I do now in the beginning stages. 
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  • mel101mel101 member
    Yes I completely understand! Its the scariest thing in the world! I worry too and the worse thing to do is over-research what situation you're worrying about. I was consumed with worry yesterday over cramps and sharp pains, I called the dr, went in for an u/s, saw the heartbeat and everything is fine. I have no cramps or weird pains today so who knows? Our bodies are really changing esp the whole womb area, things are growing and shifting so we're bound to feel it. The dr. reminded me that I will feel many more aches and pains because it's been almost 10 years since my last baby. It sure is scary not knowing, I totally freaked out until I saw the heartbeat and I don't want to freak out like that again because that in itself is stress that isn't good for the baby. It could have even been the chilli DH made on Monday that gave me pains like that. For now I have to make my mind up to not worry so much or I will be a wreck.
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