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Guilt

UofMWolverinesUofMWolverines
in October 2011 Moms
Today, I felt like I had a (relative) ton of free time for the first time since DD was born.  I must have checked Facebook and The Bump 12 times throughout the day.  I did that only during times that DD was sleeping (which is a lot!) or while my husband was taking care of her.  I fed her several times today, changed several diapers, gave her some tummy time, held her and gave her skin to skin contact, etc.  I guess I just feel like I shouldn't have so much down time.  I interpret it to mean that I'm doing something wrong or being neglectful of her.  Over the last few days, I've been filling my non-"direct baby" time more productively with household chores but today, I just didn't feel like it.  Do those of you with new outside babies find any down time during the day or are you going, going, going the whole day?   
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  • ludicrousludicrous
    I am going going going a lot but I have a lot I unfortunately need to get done outside of the house plus I have another child. I still have plenty of Internet time though as I am usually on while I am nursing, which as you know is several hours a day. All that said, other than the sleep deprivation, having a newborn is fairly easy and monotonous so I wouldn't feel bad about your extra time. It will be gone soon enough.
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  • Nita2603Nita2603 member
    I keep feeling the same - I cannot take the dog out on my own yet, since I am recovering from a c/s (and have overdone it last week, so I needed to go back to the hospital because of bleeding and now I am not allowed to anything any longer), most household chores involve too much time standing or lifting too many things, so I find myself holding baby, feeding, changing, playing with him - maybe folding laundry, tidying up a bit, cuddling dog and cats and then I am back to reading or being online or too much daytime TV. Making formula and sterilizing nipples is another one, and after all of that, I am also exhausted. It sucks. On the weekend I wanna try to walk the puppy again.
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  • MrsClark8109MrsClark8109 member

    With the two I am constantly going---and honestly when I get a break and DH isn't home I'm not that productive because AS SOON as I start a load of dishes/wiping down the BR/folding laundry one will wake up and I'm frusterated that I have to stop in the middle of it so when I do get down time if DH isn't home its usually the time that I choose to eat/check email or laydown for a minute. When DH is home I will be productive with the downtime because if they wake up he can help so I can finish whatever I've started.

    As far as guilt, I feel guilt that I try to change/feed and then get them back to sleep and laying down ASAP I feel like I should spend more time playing with them or holding them before I try to get them down but I'm so focused on getting the awake one to sleep before the other wakes up that I dont...

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  • alison2379alison2379 member

    I'd enjoy this time. After a month of massive sleep deprivation, I find that just the basics are pretty tiring. Don't feel guilty. Maternity leave is to care for your baby- not get stuff done. 

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