Our circumstances do not allow us to have birthday parties in the home-our house is small with no finished basement and our daughter's birthday is the middle of November so not exactly outdoor party weather. To top things off, I am due to have DD#2 4 days before DD#1's birthday.
So, I'm trying to plan a party for DD1 and the best option I see is the Saturday after Thanksgiving-the 26th. It gives me time in case the baby is born late and a few days of recovery in the hospital plus a good 4 or 5 days at home. I really don't want to push it into December because it is 3 weeks after her birthday and one of my best friends and her little boy wouldn't be able to make it to the party because they are going to Disney. She only has like 10 that would be able to make it, so I want to try to plan it so as many can come as possible.
Well, I was figuring on invited my family and friends who have young children and then girls from DD's dance class. I was planning on having a separate little party for just family-grandparents, aunts, uncles, older cousins with just some cake and ice cream. this is what we did last year. Well I told my MIL, who thinks my daughter is her best friend and vice versa, that I was planning the Chuck E Cheese party for that Saturday and then doing a separate party for older family members and she got bent out of shape and asked "Well who will be attending if not the family?". I was polite but I listed kids and their parents who my daughter plays with and said I didn't think my husband's 80 year old grandfather would want to come to Chuck E Cheese and that they aren't allowed to open presents there. I went on to say that if they wanted to come they could, but like I said, she won't be able to open their presents.
Her response was cold and said that my husband's 23 year old cousin's BIRTHDAY PARTY is always the Saturday evening after Thanksgiving so they probably wouldn't be able to go to the 12 noon party anyway.
Am I missing something? What do you all do when it comes to parties for children and the family when you can't have a party in the home? I thought I was being accommodating by having a separate party so they can avoid Chuck E Cheese and watch her open her presents and thank them personally. I don't get it. I wonder how much Nana just doesn't want to share her best friend with other kids....Thanks for reading if you made it to the end!