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What would you do? Shower gift

mrschurchillmrschurchill
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So, we have this couple we are good friends with but we don't talk as much anymore because they have moved several hours away.  The wife and I talk on Facebook mostly.  Anyway, she insisted that she got an invite to the shower even though we knew she wouldn't be able to travel all that way to come.  So a few days after the shower I posted pics on Facebook and she commented that it looked like a very nice shower and that I would be receiving something in the mail to add to all of the wonderful gifts.  Now, let me say, we got way MORE than we ever dreamed and we are definitely not concerned with getting another gift....but that was a little over 3 weeks ago and nothing has arrived.  Again, I'm not concerned about the gift so much as I am that maybe she did send something and it got lost or something...and I don't want to seem rude by not sending a thank you.

What would you do?  Nothing?  I can't think of any way to say "hey, the gift never came"....god forbid she didn't send one, I certainly don't want to put her on the spot or make her uncomfortable but again, I don't want her thinking I did receive something and didn't properly thank her.

Thoughts?

Thanks ladies!

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  • canadadreacanadadrea
    If i were you I would say something about the gift because assuming she actually did send one and you didn't get it that is a waste of her money.  Perhaps she has a tracking number or something to find out where it went or some way to pick it up.
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  • alieb82alieb82 member
    I honestly wouldn't say anything, although I understand PP's point of view.  99% of the time, a gift that is sent reaches the recipient which means that she most likely hasn't sent anything.  Bringing it up would be an awkward moment in my opinion.  If I send something that doesn't get acknowledged, I will reach out to that person to see if they received it.  I'd wait for her to make the first move.
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  • mrschurchillmrschurchill
    Good point ladies...I think I'll give it a few more days then bring it up.  Thanks!
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  • mrschurchillmrschurchill
    Alieb...thats a good point, I do the same...if I send something that isnt mentioned I will ask if it arrived OK....gosh, such a sticky situation.
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  • littlehckyplarlittlehckyplar

    imagealieb82:
    I honestly wouldn't say anything, although I understand PP's point of view.  99% of the time, a gift that is sent reaches the recipient which means that she most likely hasn't sent anything.  Bringing it up would be an awkward moment in my opinion.  If I send something that doesn't get acknowledged, I will reach out to that person to see if they received it.  I'd wait for her to make the first move.

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  • juepnunesjuepnunes member
    I wouldn't mention anything. Maybe she changed her mind and never sent anything.
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  • mrsfowler1016mrsfowler1016

    This happened to me too, but my "friend" is kinda of sketchy anyway so I haven't mentioned it.

    A lot of times people say they will get you something just because they feel awkward because they didn't come to your shower or feel like they are expected to. I wouldn't mention it, I'd just wait it out.

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  • nilly5nilly5 member
    I wouldn't even mention it. I get that from people all the time that they will send something then never do. I just don't let it bother me.
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  • brea311brea311 member
    If she did send something and she does not get a thank you -- she should be the one that asks you to be sure it got there ok.  Lots of people say, "i will send you something" but that doesnt mean its in the mail yet - or bought - or thought about again until the baby comes and then the person goes, "crap!  I need to send something now!"  Dont sweat it; more than likely your friend is busy and your gift will come in due time.
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  • kylaytonkylayton member
    I wouldn't say anything.  Chances are she never sent anything.  If I sent someone a gift and never heard, I would definitely ask to make sure it got there.  
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  • PecanSamPecanSam member
    Totally agree with the people that said, don't say anything. If she sent you a gift she will ask you eventually if you received it.
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  • sagoonsagoon member
    I wouldn't say anything.  If I'd sent a gift and never heard anything back I'd ask the recipient if they'd received it yet.  If she hasn't said anything, she probably never got around to sending anything. 

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