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Joining an "officers wives club"?

Would you recommend it? There's one in the area we're going to and I'm intrigued, but also I'm a little...threatened? Insecure? Not sure the word. 
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  • I'd say try it out.  Some clubs are awesome with women who are warm and caring and understanding.  Some clubs are full of whiny snobs.  Check it out and if you don't like the women, for whatever reason, run like the wind!
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  • I'd recommend it. I'm on the board of ours and I love it. Try it out - if it's not for you, it's not of you. You haven't lost anything. 
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  • I'd say try it. When we were overseas I joined and loved it. You had half and half with what you got though. Half the women were awesome and the other half you knew to stay away from. The president was amazing as well. I think if you have a good board it can be lots of fun.

    Try it and go with your gut!!!

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  • Just like any other club, it all depends on the membership.  I have been in amazing, to indifferent to bad ones. 

    Give it a handful of meetings and see what happens.

  • It's worth a shot! You'll never know unless you give it a try.

    FWIW, I had similar thoughts before I went to my first OSC function. I ended up loving it. I met some lifelong friends and had some amazing times. I even ended up on the executive board for 2 years.

    Sure, there were some catty, snobby women. But you'll have those in any circle! I just ignored them and befriended the rest of the ladies.

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  • I would give it a shot.

    I have always participated in our squadron OSSG (officers spouses support group).  It has always been a fun way to be involved in the command, meet people, stay connected to the squadron while they guys are gone, etc.

    I have been involved with 5 different groups in one capacity or another (ranging from being the President of one group to just going to major holiday functions with another) and have had a mostly good experience.  One of them was a little more competative/catty... but it was really only two or three people who poisoned the whole atmosphere.  On the by and large I have met wonderful friends - some that I can honestly say I will keep in touch with forever. 

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  • I would. I did it once because we were newly married and I wanted to make friends/get to know the area. It was a good experience, although I didn't make any close friends.


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  • Luckily where my FI is stationed, they have 3 clubs (Officers, Enlisted, and a general Spouse's support group.)  I only joined the general group because I'm not a fan of being around just "Officer's wives,"  I much prefer to be inclusive than exclusive.   
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  • i like our officer wives club. it is a lot of very seasoned wives and retired wives but they do bunco and tea once a month and a meeting once a month as well. only bad thing is that they met when I am at work so I cant go anymore but it was fun while I could attend. why not try it out and see if you like it!

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  • I joined one club and overall it was a really fun experience. I was the webmaster for the club website and met a lot of really great ladies. Like any group you can either be really involved or just try it out. Our club had one monthly official function, lots of sub groups like kids play, bingo, etc. It wasn't gossipy and people didn't even know spouses ranks with the exception of the base commander etc. I would say give it a shot you have nothing to lose.
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