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TTC After a Loss
Smootiepie
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And so it begins... (major vent and super long)
Smootiepie
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So all the couples in my group of friends always joke about who will be the first one KU and the fact that, once one is, we all will be. Well, for the longest time, I was the only one even TTC (all the girls know I had a CP and am still not KU). I found out around August that one girl was "not really trying, but not really preventing either," and wouldn't you know, she announced this weekend that she's almost 2 months pregrant. I'm really happy for her (I seriously love her to death, and I think the reason they weren't technically TTC is because her hubby wasn't on board yet), but this seriously sucks. I can't tell you how many times I've already cried about this. All I can think about is how hard it's going to be for me to hang out with her and how I'll have to leave the room any time anyone brings it up.
Let's make matters worse, shall we...
I went over to a different friend's house last night, and we spent almost the entire time complaning about this pregnancy (which seriously makes me feel bad, but I guess I can't help how frustrated I am). The other girl wants to be TTC so badly, but her husband has told her absolutely not. Once she let out all of her frustrations, I let out all of mine. Her response? "I really think you're just stressing yourself out too much about everything. Maybe you should just stop all the charting and planning sex. I bet you if you just relaxed, it would happen for you." Awesome...thanks...never heard that one before. Only problem - I know so much about my body from charting the past 7 months that I don't think it would even be possible. I mean, sure I could stop temping, but I would still notice when I have fertile CM, I still have 18,000 OPKs, and I would still want to FWP every time I even thought I was close to fertile. But yeah, not charting would help a lot...
The icing on the cake? DH is OOT the whole week, which means I will have to suffer through hanging out with all these friends alone. And the cherry on top? I've had MF since 2 DPO.
Vent over. A cookie to anyone who made it this far!
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Re: And so it begins... (major vent and super long)
BFP #1 07/04/10. EDD 03/14/11. Missed m/c 08/09/10. D&C 09/27/10. }Casey & Jaimie{
TTA for 18 months and then TTC for 12 months
TTA for 7 months
Jan-Mar 2014 - RPL, SHG, karotyping: all results normal
TTC Again May 2014
Progesterone & baby aspirin combo for 5 cycles - All BFN's
SA with DNA fragmentation = Perfect results
Diagnostic cycle monitoring = Polycystic ovaries leading to premature egg release
TTA Oct 2014 - Jan 2015
Jan 2015 - Medicated cycle with timed intercourse
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Wow, that's a rough situation for anyone TTC but especially for those TTCAL. I know that a lot of the people around me try to say things to help but most of the times those things end up being hurtful even without them meaning to be.
I'm really sorry for what you're having to deal with and hope that this week gets better. **HUGS**
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I'm really sorry you are going through all of this. It can be very frustrating when you feel like everyone else has it so easy, and the "relax and it will happen" advice is right up there with the "Everything happens for a reason!" mantra in my book.....said by people who have no idea what to say, so they say those things. While they are trying to be helpful, those words do more harm then good.
My younger sister told me she was KU the day before we found out about our m/c....we are very close, but I have had a hard time speaking or even looking at her....and, while happy for her, I am dreading the months ahead, so I can sympathize with your frustration of your friend who wasn't even really trying getting her BFP.
BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
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This time I'm not leaving without you.
This. Maybe treat yourself to a pedicure, rent some movies and take a break. I know how comments like that can totally suck. Take care.
Forgot to mention that she decided to announce she was KU when we were all getting pedicures! Good time ruined!!!
I am so annoyed for you! My sister (who has two kids-both accidents-and says she wishes she never had them) always tells me to relax and stop charting and using opks. SHe is convinced I will get pregnant if I stop worrying so much about it. I actually think that charting and using opks relaxes me because I feel somewhat in control of my body (not that I can control what it does but I am aware of what it is/isn't doing).
Take a break from those friends. They should know what you are going through and be more sensitive to you.
♥BFP #1 "Spawn"- 02/23/11 | EDD: 11/01/11 | natural m/c 03/20/11 @7w5d♥
♥BFP #2 "Offspring"- 11/10/12 | EDD: 07/25/13 | incomplete m/c 12/14/12 @8w1d | D&C 12/21/12♥
♥BFP #3 "Progeny" - 02/16/15 | It's a BOY!! | EDD: 10/17/15 | BD: 10/23/15♥
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