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Ugh. tired of it all..... VENT!

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So, i still don't know the bump lingo much but anyway..... My xbf 1st denied this baby was his... Now, he is saying that he is willing to be in the baby's life & wants to be in my life & still loves me, but then all of a sudden changes his mind, right when i start giving him a chance. The only way he contacts me right now is by email since i had changed my number bc i wanted nothing to do with him, but in reality..... i still love him, miss him & want him. I've given him dates & times of dr. appts. i've had but he hasn't showed... he does live 3 hrs away now, but still, i think if he really did want us he would make a bigger effort, wouldn't he? Ugh. I'm so tired of these games he's playing & it hurts so much to be "wanted" one min & ignored the next? ;.( fml.......
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Re: Ugh. tired of it all..... VENT!

  • PrettyInPearls23PrettyInPearls23 member

    imageproud single mommy:
    i still love him, miss him & want him. I've given him dates & times of dr. appts. i've had but he hasn't showed... he does live 3 hrs away now, but still, i think if he really did want us he would make a bigger effort, wouldn't he?

    See that bolded part? You've already answered your own question. He shows interest when it's convienent for him. You're not a priority.

    You should continue to let him know of any Dr.'s appointments, etc, but that's it. The rest is up to him. Live your life under the assumption that he will be uninvolved and prepare yourself for that. If he wanted to be involved, he'd be making more of an effort. Being 3 hours away does it make it more difficult, but not impossible.

    Just don't hold your breath on this guy.

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  • mpotts09mpotts09 member
    I'm going through something similar...if the guys really did care and still love us, they would be there for us no matter what, and love that child even if he/she wasn't theirs. I would continue to tell him about the dr appts, I am even though he doesn't respond. At least he knows whats going on. I would tell him your feelings, ( miss him, love him, want him) but its just not the right time right now and you need to build the trust again and take things slow, then maybe something could work out. I wouldn't keep those feelings in. I feel much better tell my baby's dad my feelings for him but I don't want a relationship with him at the moment. Goodluck!
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  • proud single mommyproud single mommy
    Thank you both.... <3:)
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