What do people say that drives you insane while TTC?

megs52881 · October 2011

Since we started TTC I can't believe how many people have asked me, " So when are you going to have a baby?" I guess it happened before TTC, but didn't bother me because I would just say "soon hopefully", or "hopefully not too long from now". Now that we are trying and it isn't working as quickly as we would like, it drives me nuts! I know the people who ask are genuinely excited for us to start a family, but people need to think before they speak.

It also drives me crazy when you make the mistake of saying, "I don't feel well" or "I'm nauseous" I feel like I immediately get, "hmmm, are you pregnant?"

SusieMom2be · October 2011

Drives me crazy when I don't have a drink just because I don't feel like drinking and immediately its, "Oh, are you pregnant?"!

kkdgirl · October 2011

agreed.. it drives me nuts too.

last week i had an upset stomach on our way to a wedding 3 hours from our house. we stopped 4 times for my poor stomach, when we got to the wedding i didnt feel like drinking because i knew i had another 3 hour car ride ahead of me.. of course my friend asked me 5 times if i was pregnant.. I kept denying it and she kept telling me she didnt believe me. To make her shut up i took a drink from my husbands and then she didnt ask the rest of the night. Someone had to drive home and obviously it wasnt my husband..

The next day I was telling the story to a different friend and then she questioned me...

Rixx0207 · October 2011

This happened last night. My MIL and DH's cousin went on and on about how we were long overdue for kids and that "it's time." I just smiled and nodded so they would stop talking. Needless to say, I have learned never to ask someone when they are going to have kids.

abfromva · October 2011

Meow84:
SusieMom2be:
Drives me crazy when I don't have a drink just because I don't feel like drinking and immediately its, "Oh, are you pregnant?"!

I've been getting this one a lot lately....I can still have fun without drinking, wth!?

For me this is the most annoying thing someone can say related to TTC because it is usually the people who are dying to "out" someone. They are the nosy, gossipy type and looking to catch someone in a lie. Do they think I would actually admit it if I was??

vanillajen · October 2011

My SIL always tells me to just have sex EOD. She warned me though how annoying it got to have sex that much the one month that they did it (they got KU on their first try...awesome).

ckbolan · October 2011

I love the one where you're out to eat with friends who know and you order a water instead of a margarita and that automatically means you must be pregnant. I mean I don't think I'm that big of a lush to assume that at dinner sometimes I want a water with my dinner. ha

SouthernBellaKS · October 2011

I've been getting a lot of:

"Aren't you pregnant yet?"

and

"When are you going to get pregnant?" - From people who we're TTC

No. I'm not pregnant yet. Thanks for reminding me. Oh, and ya know...Since I have complete control over when I get pregnant, I thought I'd just allow myself to sit in agony for 7 months to build suspense.

Charlotte648 · October 2011

One of my closest friends got KU without trying around this time last year. Whenever I mention that AF has showed or I'm charting or anything TTC related she makes a big deal of saying how I shouldn't stress blah blah blah, and I'm like, "...I'm not stressing. Just trying." So annoying.

FreyaWin2382 · October 2011

What bothers me the most is the "If it is supposed to happen, it will happen."

Gee, thanks. Indifferent

sydsmom04 · October 2011

Ever since my Dh told my dad that we had decided to have another LO, every email I get from him begins like this:

Hey! How are you? Are you pregnant yet?

So irritating. Seriously.

KNemo · October 2011

"You guys are going to have more than one kid, right?!" (Like it's a sin to only have one).
"So, it's about time for you to have another kid. When are you going to start trying for number two?"
"By the time I was your age, I couldn't have any more kids, you better get on that if you want to have another one." (Like I'm a freakin' dinosaur). The last one is MIL.

Jessrof · October 2011

My MIL's friend cornered us at a wedding recently and kept asking when we were going to try... We were the first married in my hubby's group of friends and apparently that means we should be the first to have babies (too late, already been beat twice now)... When I tried to brush it off with maybe soons, and our dogs are enough, she had the audacity to say "dogs don't count"... I just wanted to say, "well they count to me and may be all we get!" ugh

megs52881 · October 2011

KNemo:
"You guys are going to have more than one kid, right?!" (Like it's a sin to only have one).
"So, it's about time for you to have another kid. When are you going to start trying for number two?"
"By the time I was your age, I couldn't have any more kids, you better get on that if you want to have another one." (Like I'm a freakin' dinosaur). The last one is MIL.

OMG! So I thought that it was bad now, this is what I have to look forward to?

I saw an old friend about a month ago in a restaurant. My husband and I went up to him and said hello. He was holding his adorable baby. We congratulated him and he looked at my stomach and said "Do you guys have something in the works?" haahha it was like a double whammie. Not only did he ask about kids he implied I was pregnant, thus basically calling me fat! Fabulous!

blonddnyc · October 2011

Lately when i mention that Im TTC everyone says "oh you cant think about it that much" like if I mention that Im temping and charting they go - "No, you have to just not think about it, thats when it happens." and in my head im like.. theres only a 20% chance each month - if I simply "Dont think about it" i will almost definatly miss that small window... i HATE when they say that...

canthardlywait426 · October 2011

Beyond the usual pestering about having kids (prior to DS) my husbands aunt was a giant biitch once. She knew that we were TTC, and had IF because my MIL basically got cornered when I had my surgery. I had a lap/hysteroscopy and since his aunt had had the same surgery for the same reason, she started questioning my MIL. Then, after my surgery she called me and said:

"Well, you need to open your heart up to adoption because it sounds like that's where you're headed". It was like a giant slap in the face.

I thought it would get better after I had DS but the same aunt pesters me all the time about having another.

megs52881 · October 2011

canthardlywait426:
Beyond the usual pestering about having kids (prior to DS) my husbands aunt was a giant biitch once. She knew that we were TTC, and had IF because my MIL basically got cornered when I had my surgery. I had a lap/hysteroscopy and since his aunt had had the same surgery for the same reason, she started questioning my MIL. Then, after my surgery she called me and said:
"Well, you need to open your heart up to adoption because it sounds like that's where you're headed". It was like a giant slap in the face.
I thought it would get better after I had DS but the same aunt pesters me all the time about having another.

How rude! I am so sorry! Well obviously you proved her wrong. Those are some beautiful babies!

KNemo · October 2011

megs52881:
KNemo:
"You guys are going to have more than one kid, right?!" (Like it's a sin to only have one).
"So, it's about time for you to have another kid. When are you going to start trying for number two?"
"By the time I was your age, I couldn't have any more kids, you better get on that if you want to have another one." (Like I'm a freakin' dinosaur). The last one is MIL.
OMG! So I thought that it was bad now, this is what I have to look forward to?
I saw an old friend about a month ago in a restaurant. My husband and I went up to him and said hello. He was holding his adorable baby. We congratulated him and he looked at my stomach and said "Do you guys have something in the works?" haahha it was like a double whammie. Not only did he ask about kids he implied I was pregnant, thus basically calling me fat! Fabulous!

Yeah. I thought it was bad the first time around. It just gets worse the older my DS gets... My mom knows we are THX, and she asks if I'm pregnant every single week.

Ella85 · October 2011

For some reason it really bothers me when people tell me to just relax and stop stressing, it will happen.

lowkeysbride · October 2011

Pretty much any version of: it will happen when the timing is right, or everything happens for a reason (referring to my cp), or just stay positive and stay relaxed... riiiiiigghhhht, cuz I hadn't thought of any of that!

canthardlywait426 · October 2011

megs52881:
canthardlywait426:
Beyond the usual pestering about having kids (prior to DS) my husbands aunt was a giant biitch once. She knew that we were TTC, and had IF because my MIL basically got cornered when I had my surgery. I had a lap/hysteroscopy and since his aunt had had the same surgery for the same reason, she started questioning my MIL. Then, after my surgery she called me and said:
"Well, you need to open your heart up to adoption because it sounds like that's where you're headed". It was like a giant slap in the face.
I thought it would get better after I had DS but the same aunt pesters me all the time about having another.
How rude! I am so sorry! Well obviously you proved her wrong. Those are some beautiful babies!

Thank you! Only one is mine. The other is one of my besties daughters.

LBoogeyBride · October 2011

When my friends who have finished having children of their own want to lecture me on why I should have children. Why do they feel they have to take it upon themselves to tell me that I'm missing out on the most amazing experience and that I'm being selfish for not having children?
When I mention something funny or cute about my dog and people tell me, "You don't need a dog, you need a baby."
When my younger SIL lectures me that I'm only getting older and running out of time, boasting that for her, the benefit of having children in her twenties was that her babies were conceived on the first try. Makes me want to punch her in the face!

katyms7 · October 2011

I can't stand it when people say "just relax, you will be pregnant soon",

Also, last week at work I wasn't feeling well and left a few hours early. All day until I left everyone kept asking me if I was pregnant. Yes because a woman in her 30's doesn't get the flu is what I wanted to tell everyone that had the nerve to ask.

Where are people's manners...

Hopeful912 · October 2011

I get annoyed with people comments/questions about how we should have a baby now. When they ask when we'll have a baby, lately my response is "Not tomorrow."

cmuslp10 · October 2011

I'm really disliking all the questions of when we'll have kids. No one knows were trying, and we keep telling people were a few years away from that so that it will be even more of a surprise. But it's still a little jab. I wish I was brave enough to say "were trying and it's not working yet" just to shut them up. I know they mean well, but seriously. Stop asking!

mrslaurah · October 2011

Coworkers have been getting visits from their babies or grandbabies at work, and my boss will say to me "You know, you could get one of those too." Like I could put it on my Christmas list and Santa will bring me a pregnancy.

And don't forget the ever popular "once you stop trying it'll happen."

Argh.

GCJK89 · October 2011

kkdgirl:
agreed.. it drives me nuts too.
last week i had an upset stomach on our way to a wedding 3 hours from our house. we stopped 4 times for my poor stomach, when we got to the wedding i didnt feel like drinking because i knew i had another 3 hour car ride ahead of me.. of course my friend asked me 5 times if i was pregnant.. I kept denying it and she kept telling me she didnt believe me. To make her shut up i took a drink from my husbands and then she didnt ask the rest of the night. Someone had to drive home and obviously it wasnt my husband..
The next day I was telling the story to a different friend and then she questioned me...

On a diff note..hope your feeling better, that is no fun!

DarcieK83 · October 2011

I'm the oldest child of 3 and both my siblings have gotten pregnant before me. When we found out my sister was KU, my mom told me that I needed to be next. Oh and she mentioned that we have had a drought of twins in the family for too long and I needed to break that cycle. No pressure at all.....I hate it that people pressure you to start having kids just because your siblings have them. That is why no one knows we are TTC.

ashleyamberRN · October 2011

Well everyone already said it but...

I seriously want to slap someone when they say stop trying so hard and it will happen. Im like actually, you have to "try" as in have sex to get pregnant. Its not like all of a sudden I can just start having sex all the time and pretend im not trying anymore.

and everytime I see my in laws and DH extended family like aunts and cousins, their like "no baby yet" and I just say nope.

Of course my two very best friends just had their first babies in aug and sept, and everyones like oh your next, are you going to join them blah blah blah.

oh and dont forget...your still so young (24) you have so much time. Im like yea Im sure your right, but this is what I want..NOW! haha

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