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Just need to vent...

sassafras007sassafras007 member
in Pregnant after a Loss

Excuse me if it seems trival...

I hate how having a miscarriage "scars" the happiness of finding out you are pregnant again. (I had mine at 10 weeks back in 2009, it was belighted ovum and now have a daughter who was born at 34 weeks due to pre-e)

I don't really feel pregnant because I am only about 5 weeks and all of this is still early. I do have some symptoms but they come and go. Every little ache and pain leaves you wondering if something happened or you are still pregnant...

I cannot talk about being pregnant with my husband and we are not telling anyone so thus my need to vent. DH does not want to "jinx" anything so he won't even talk about this until about our first appointment or as he calls it his concreate evidence that we are expecting... becasue the 10 tests and positive at the doctor are not good enough anymore.

 

That is all. Thanks for listening!

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  • sassafras007sassafras007 member

    Thanks for "listening." I have my fetal doppler and I wish I was just a bit further becasue that gave me so much peace of mind with Camryn...

     Thanks again!

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  • HBayliesHBaylies member
    Yep, previous losses really do suck a lot of the fun out of next pregnancies.  And they make you paranoid that every twinge, spotting, and even slight pain is the end of the world.  I hate that any of us have to have the added stress of a loss on top of being pregnant. 
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  • MrsAtchMrsAtch member
    My DH wouldn't even believe a digital test... I needed betas and an ultrasound for him to be comfortable even considering that I was pregnant again. It made everything harder. Just know you aren't alone- and the women here will help you get through it. I wouldn't have made it through this pregnancy if it wasn't for the phenomenal strength and love I found in the ladies here.
    After two losses, a rainbow arrived! DD born 11.5.11
    Dx with severe Asherman's syndrome after a botched PP D&C (pursuing med mal)
    Hysteroscopy Oct '13, not enough progress 
    Hysteroscopy Jan '14, given an end-of-the-road diagnosis
    Joined International Asherman's Association April '14 
    Not ready to give up yet.
    Hysteroscopy with Dr. Isaacson (an expert in the USA) 6.2.14: Good prognosis, at least 50% of cavity open.
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    Please, please, please. 
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  • sassafras007sassafras007 member

    imageMrsAtch:
    My DH wouldn't even believe a digital test... I needed betas and an ultrasound for him to be comfortable even considering that I was pregnant again. It made everything harder. Just know you aren't alone- and the women here will help you get through it. I wouldn't have made it through this pregnancy if it wasn't for the phenomenal strength and love I found in the ladies here.

     

    Thanks, the bump for the most part is great! It got me through bedrest with my daughter!!

    I have taken 4 digital...he won't believe it either...

     The asked the doctor for a blood test and she said the only way to do one was with the numbers which I do not want. Did enough of that with my miscarriage and just don't want them to run my life!

     

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