2nd Trimester

Am I alone? My MIL is awesome

I don't want to get beat up here, but my mother-in-law is pretty much the coolest person ever.  I've always had a good relationship with her, and after reading all the horror stories on here about awful MILs, I'm appreciating her SO much more! 
She is so helpful with the baby stuff.  It's her first grandbaby, seeing as I married her only child, and she's SO excited for baby, but she's not pushy about anything.  

I guess I'm bragging, but I just wanted to say, not every MIL is terrible!  Be grateful for whatever good things you do have during your pregnancy! 

Re: Am I alone? My MIL is awesome

  • You're not alone! I absolutely love my MIL too :)
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  • Totally not alone! My MIL is quite amazing!

    My family lived in Florida for the last 3 years and we live in Minnesota, I don't know what I would have done with out boht my MIL and my FIL!

     

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  • Same here, my IL's (all of them, even extended IL's) are amazing. Thanks for this post, it is a shame that we don't hear more about the good ones!
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  • NOPE!!! My mother in law is amazing I am closer to her than my own mom.  She is awesome seriously bought me a whole wardrobe of maternity clothes and they are cute!  I had only planned on buying a lil since you only get to wear so much but she went crazy! She is so excited she making curtain and stuff for the babies room and already shopping up a storm. I am pretty much the luckiest gal ever!
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  • I also have a wonderful mother-in-law. This is not my first marriage and my previous mother-in-law was a 3 headed demon from the depths of hell. I truly appreciate what I have now and I wouldn't trade her!  :)
  • Yeah, my MIL is awesome. She's so helpful, does a lot for us, but never oversteps boundaries. In fact, my FIL and SIL rock too. We're all really close and they've been fantastic to me since the day DH and I started dating. I definitely lucked out when it comes to in laws!
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  • Me too!
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  • My MIL is awesome too :)
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  • My MIL is fantastic. She treats me like I'm her kid, as she has no daughters and we have a lot in common. I totally love my MIL and I'm glad my H doesn't have a BSC mom like some of the ladies I've seen mention.
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  • I love my friends' ILs! lol!  They are very nice, and one of them is like my mentor.  Actually, when I talk to her, she does vent a little bit about her DIL sometimes, but she says she would never tell her anything, and she tells me not to say anything either.  

    My MIL has major boundary issues, but she is not awful.  She has gotten a lot better too.  I blame it on her not having a MIL of her own.  She has been always surrounded by her own family, always with her own mother, so she doesn't understand what it's like to be a DIL.  

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  • Mine is awesome too!! I am one lucky girl to have such awesome inlaws!! 
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  • I've got a great MIL too and I've always considered myself lucky!
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  • I never got to meet my MIL which makes me incredibly sad and kind of irritated when other people complain about petty and annoying things that theirs do. My inlaws in general are amazing though. :)
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  • You are not alone :-) I have a wonderful MIL too and feel very blessed!
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  • I have 2 great MILs(one is a step) My DHs mom has already bought the crib and tons of sheets blankets and clothes and his step mom is throwing me a huge shower. So lucky after reading the horror stories... sorry that everyone can't have awesome support.
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  • I <3 my MIL!!! She rocks. This is her first grandbaby so she's super excited. :)
  • In relation to this baby, MIL is great so far. It's everything else we have a problem with.

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  • My ILs are uniformly awesome, and my MIL was one of the kindest, warmest, most giving ladies I've ever had the privilege to know; it's easy to see how my DH turned out so well, with a mother like her! I hope I can live up to her example. :)

    Unfortunately, my MIL passed away in 2008 (after DH and I were engaged, but before the wedding, which was just heartbreaking) ... I really wish she were still with us (and not suffering from cancer!); I'd love to talk to her about all this baby stuff, and I know she'd have a lot to share on the topic, as a mother of four! I miss her a lot, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who appreciates their MILs. <3

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  • My MIL is BSC. Fortunately, everyone in the family knows this so I try not to let it get to me. 

    My step-MIl is amazing. My FIL picked much better the second time   

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  • I AM WITH YOU!!! I ADORE my mother in law!  She is great!  Actually my entire in-law family is wonderful.  I feel very blessed. 

    She is even taking her three weeks of leave 5 days after I give birth, so when my DH goes back to work she will be here to help.  My mother will be in France the entire month of April( my birth month) so it will be nice to have help.  I will be super spoiled by the time summer hits, because I will have help up until LO in about 6 weeks old. 

    I have no family near us.  So it will be nice to have them around.

     

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  • You're not alone, but I think the drama and negativity is easier to bump about sometimes. I adore my MIL- she's so reasonable and doesn't invade our space at all.
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  • You're not alone!  I love mine!  She's fantastic.  I totally lucked out.  My mom, on the other hand is crazy, so DH has all the MIL drama.

    Every time I read the MIL posts on here, I thank my lucky stars :o)

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    I never got to meet my MIL which makes me incredibly sad and kind of irritated when other people complain about petty and annoying things that theirs do. My inlaws in general are amazing though. :)

    Yea My MIL is incredibly sick and has been for over 9 years, and I always wish I had gotten to know the real her before all the treatments. She is soo amazing but treatments have taxed her a lot.  When I see people getting upset about super small things I find it irritating I would be happy to have a MIL with enough energy to overstep her boundaries and come visit every day!

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  • Well mine sucks and hasn't called her son one time since we announced we were pregnant. She also has never called our house phone in the 4 years that we have been living here.  She calls his cell phone and never wants to talk to me.  Personally I think she is selfish and needs to be involved more in her kids lives. She will send us a check or buy us a gift when we find out the sex... whopdy doo... I would rather have her involved and be part of our lives.  She has been to visit us 1 time in 4 years.  It's just sad and I feel bad for DH.  My mom on the other hand is AMAZING and makes up for his pathetic excuse for a mother. 
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  • I agree my MIL is pretty cool, I cannot ask for anyone better. I'm very thankful that she's my MIL. Ever since I have known her she has opened up to me and she is very helpful in my life.

    She's definitely a 2nd mom to me and she cares for me alot as well. When we told her we were expecting she knew and she was so happy for us. I sincerely know she was truly happy and not just saying that.  

     Shes hosting my shower and i'm so happy to have her around 

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  • My MIL is pretty awesome, too.  Since she lives only 5 minutes away, it would be really easy for her and FIL to cross boundaries, but they never do.  I hope DH feels the same way about my parents because they are moving across the street in a few months!

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  • Nope, my MIL is also pretty awesome :)
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  • So jealous of that relationship!! 
    After DH told this parents that we were expecting, they haven't even called me, sent a card, texted me, nothing!!!!!!
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  • Mine is great too...she does so much more for us then she needs to.  But, in the same breath, she lives 1400 miles away and that is also something that makes her great lol.  When she comes to visit, by the end of the visit I am ready for her to go lol
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  • I love my MIL! She lives far away, but is here in the drop of a hat if we need her for anything, and is so helpful and giving , and just the best!
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  • Nope, mine is pretty much Rock Star Amazing, too!!!
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  • It's so nice to see how many girls are loving their mother-in-laws!!!  Hubby's mom was told that she would never have kids, and his dad is quite a bit older than his mom, then "ta-da" they were pregnant with hubby.  So he is her only child AND the child the dr's said she'd never have...so it's a miracle that they're not SUPER disfunctional!!

    My parents live 20 minutes down the road from us, my brother/wife/kids live 5 minutes away, and hubby and I just bought a house and moved away from the ranch (where his parents live) to our new house.... a mile down the way, lol, as I like to say "you can see my new front porch from my old front porch".  So it would be VERY easy for personal space to get invaded!  (My mom is definetely the worst about this, so she just has to be "reminded" from time to time.)

    I'm so glad that I'm going to have help when baby comes!  I know that plenty of girls do it, but I just can't imagine being half way across the country and having a baby with no family to help, yikes! 

    It really made me smile to see all of your posts about super MILs.  Thanks for sharing!!

  • Such an awesome post to read. As daughter to an amazing MIL to my SIL I wish she was secure enough to reciprocate with inlaws the way you ladies do.

    Now my MIL on the other hand..haha just kidding. She's nice but more like taking care of a child than having a MIL. 

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  • I love my mother in law!! More the my own darn family!

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  • No, my in laws are great!  And they can be easier to deal with than my birth  family sometimes. 

    My best friend also has a great MIL, and her own mother has serious issues. So I think it is awesome to have cool MILs. I hope that if I am ever a MIL I am a good one.

  • My MIL is great as well! DH's whole family is awesome towards me.
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  • My MIL is the best as well! She moved to CT from Louisiana last year and I dearly miss having her here.

     

    My step MIL lives here and she is another story...

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  • Definitely not alone! My MIL is awesome too!!! When I got pregnant with DD, DH and I got an apartment in the same complex where MIL lives, about 25 minutes from home. I was so nervous leaving my home (lived with my grandparents). I cried the first night because I got home sick (I was 19 when I got pregnant with DD). I was also worried that MIL would be overbearing and come over a lot since we lived in the same complex. Not at all! She is great. She helps me a ton with DD. Watches her while I go to the appointments, comes and gets her when I just need a moment alone, or to clean. She has been a big help before and during this pregnancy with DS. I don't know what I would do without her! I can talk to her about anything. I'm just glad we have a wonderful relationship because I was extremely close to my mom and she passed away when I was 17. Plus my daughter and her are VERY close too, and I'm glad because she is the only grandmother she will have, and I'm glad she has that. I know if my mom was here, she would of had a close relationship with her too, because my mom and nephew were close too.

  • Ditto, my MIL is like the mother I never had (I have a mother but she's insane).  I love my MIL!!!!!
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