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"Grandmother tosses granddaughter of mall balcony" ***Very, very sad****

jsugrinjsugrin member
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OMFG has anyone else seen this story?  In front of the childs mother a grandmother tossed a 2 year old off a mall balcony.  Her fvcking reason, the toddler was stealing her daughter's love away from her, oh yeah and to get back at the father.  How many times can I say OMFG!!!!! Super Angry

https://thestir.cafemom.com/in_the_news/126703/grandmother_gives_worst_reason_for

 

And for my own little rant, it's *** like this that makes me cringe when people say stuff like " and in-law can't be that bad, they raised your husband/wife right?" or " it's not really kidnapping when a non-custodial parent takes them" (yes I get that has no bearing on this story but it's the logic or lack thereof that kills me).

I hope they have the death penalty in Virgina. That *** deserves to be stoned to death.

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Re: "Grandmother tosses granddaughter of mall balcony" ***Very, very sad****

  • RevJGRevJG
    There's a lot more to this story.  The grandmother is very mentally ill (obviously).  The news wire has picked up on the 'I was mad because she had a baby out of wedlock' angle because it is sensational. 
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  • jsugrinjsugrin member

    imageRevJG:
    There's a lot more to this story.  The grandmother is very mentally ill (obviously).  The news wire has picked up on the 'I was mad because she had a baby out of wedlock' angle because it is sensational. 

    Are you actually aware of the more behind it because I would love to read additional background.  Honestly, of course they picked up on that aspect, it's horrific no matter what the grandmother's mental health status is.

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  • futrkingsleyfutrkingsley member
    It is awful and totally terrifying. How many of us think everyone in our own family is *totally* rational? Not me.
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  • RevJGRevJG

    I can't put my finger on the source, but apparently she had a long history of severe depression and multiple suicide attempts.  She was under the treatment of several medical professionals.  The motive for what she did came from a statement she made to police (about hating her son in law) when she was arrested and it was used by the prosecution during her trial.  She was convicted of first degree murder by a jury.  If I remember correctly the jury recommended 30 or 35 years but in Virginia the judge makes the sentence (based on the jury's recommendation).  I don't believe she's been sentenced yet.


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  • Smuches4uSmuches4u member

    USA Today article about mental illness history.

    https://content.usatoday.com/communities/ondeadline/post/2011/09/va-woman-to-be-tried-for-fatally-tossing-granddaughter-2-from-walkway/1

     

    I just feel so badly for the Mom of the toddler.  Having to watch that & feeling so helpless and guilt ridden, I'm sure.  Tragic.

     

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  • thatgirl84thatgirl84

    Yes. Not all in-laws are fit to care for a child.

    I'm a prime example. I thought my MIL was quirky, and her smoking was a big issue. My DH and his mother were extremely close, so I tried to be understanding. She promised she would keep LO from all smoke, including 3rd hand smoke. Well, we come by her house one day, when he has our LO, and she has the baby in the room she said she wouldn't. It smelled horribly of smoke.

    Now for the real crazy part: She had been lurking and posting on TB since May (that I know of, could have been earlier w/a different SN). She had replied to my posts, and posted about situations that only she could know about.

    I cannot believe my LO was left alone with her.

    I agree with the frustration with "well the grandparent raised their children, and they are fine" argument. Sometimes children survive, but it's luck. Thank God my LO is doing OK now.

    Now she is threatening to file for visitation. I spoke to a lawyer, and he said that the smoking incident alone would mean she would never get visitation.

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  • jsugrinjsugrin member
    imagethatgirl84:

    Yes. Not all in-laws are fit to care for a child.

    I'm a prime example. I thought my MIL was quirky, and her smoking was a big issue. My DH and his mother were extremely close, so I tried to be understanding. She promised she would keep LO from all smoke, including 3rd hand smoke. Well, we come by her house one day, when he has our LO, and she has the baby in the room she said she wouldn't. It smelled horribly of smoke.

    Now for the real crazy part: She had been lurking and posting on TB since May (that I know of, could have been earlier w/a different SN). She had replied to my posts, and posted about situations that only she could know about.

    I cannot believe my LO was left alone with her.

    I agree with the frustration with "well the grandparent raised their children, and they are fine" argument. Sometimes children survive, but it's luck. Thank God my LO is doing OK now.

    Now she is threatening to file for visitation. I spoke to a lawyer, and he said that the smoking incident alone would mean she would never get visitation.

    Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of that.  I can't believe she was spying on you like that, creepy.  I'm sorry you had to have the stress of even talking to a lawyer on the visitation thing, it's shocking how many grandparents attempt that crap when they totally fail to understand they have no legal rights.  Best wishes.

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