Who's not married to a 9-5'er?

triagain2 · October 2011

I love the excitement for Fridays, (because they are still great because a lot of the world is done with their work week) but my DH is a resident physician and weekends SUCK for him/us. This weekend he works 7-7 both days, in fact, we have not had 2 days in a row off in.....I can't remember, 2-3 months maybe.

Anyone else not married to a 9-5'er/week day person? Or maybe you are not a weekday person?

mellobee · October 2011

My husband and I have almost opposite schedules. I work 8-5 and he works from Noon-9pm. It's definitely rough for the first few months but I've learned to get a lot of stuff done around the house/shopping/cooking during that time. Hang in there

on_a_whim · October 2011

My DH rotates through days/afternoons/nights on 10 hours shifts... so when it comes to weekends, we usually have one in any given month where he's off and we can make plans/enjoy the weekend together. Right now he's on afternoons (the shift I hate the most)... he leaves home at 2pm and doesn't get back until around 3am or so... the whole entire day is shot because he's pretty much sleeping until about 11am. The plus side of it all, is that when he's off duty..it's for 6 days in a row - which is fabulous Smile

MeatballEsq · October 2011

It does suck. My DH is a firefighter so he works 24 hours shifts and sometimes is there for several days in a row (I think 7 is his record). He's worked the last two weekends straights (going in Friday morning and getting off Monday morning) so I can relate. Somehow he has this entire weekend off, so I'm excited.

sunflowers4AC · October 2011

My husband is a firefighter/paramedic and he works 24 on, 72 off. Today is his shift, so as excited as I am that it is Friday and I am ready to start the weekend he won't be home until tomorrow morning around 8 am.

klink11 · October 2011

My DH is a home builder so his hours are all over the place.

Back in 2005 it wasn't like this but now a days we most certainly have to revolve around our client. Ha! We actually have a client living with us while his house is being built!

I can't complain too much since I coordinate weddings and events which generally are weekend ordeals.

katiem1025 · October 2011

My husband is an investment banker so he works from around 9 in the morning until somewhere between 10 pm and 3 am most nights. Luckily, he gets off *early* on Fridays (around 8 pm) and usually only has to go into the office for about 8 hours on the weekends so we see each other a lot on the weekend.

btaylor19 · October 2011

My husband's main hours are 9-5, but he often times has to work call on the weekends, which means sticking close to home and always having two cars and a pair of scrubs in case he has to ditch.

GermanGirl2007 · October 2011

My DH travels for his job, so he is gone for a few days at a time, then might be home for a day or two, then leaves again. His schedule is different every.single.week, so I never know when we are going to see each other. I haven't been working for the past 10 months (got laid off), so when he is off, I am here. BUT, now with me about to start my new job, I have no idea how often we will see each other. Sad

I know it is rough, but I think for me, it makes me treasure our time together that much more. Hang in there!

kofmkg · October 2011

My hubs is a commercial airline pilot. He's gone for 3-5 days at a time. If he mis-bids for his monthly schedule, he'll get stuck working weekends and holidays like this month and next, which blows.

triagain2 · October 2011

Thanks ladies, helps me feel like I am not the only one with a DH who works all the time. My DS is 15 months and has started crying hysterically when DH leaves for work, which doesn't help.

Oh well, such is life.

ENI36 · October 2011

DH works 10 hour days, Monday-Wednesday. Then he's off Thurs-Sun. He's an electrical engineer and this is not typical for the field. He's been at the job a long time though so was able to get this alternate schedule. It's long days and then an hour commute each day but it's worth it for him to be off four days straight. It's awesome.

PattersRN · October 2011

I work 10:00pm to 6:30am three days on, two days off. H is a restaurant manager and works a very irregular schedule and his days off are not predictable. Usually his hours are 3pm - 11pm, or somewhere around there. I'm super jealous of people who work matching 8-5 schedules and get sat/sun off.

tombomb84 · October 2011

My DH is an attorney and works long hours and weekends. I also work 6 days a week and never get home before 8:30pm so it's definitely tough to spend time together.

GCJK89 · October 2011

I work M-F 12 noon to 4pm and DH works M-F 8am to 5pm but he has taken a weekend job as a medical delivery driver to pay off his student loans and he has crazy hours. Fri, Sat he is on call 7pm to 7am and Sunday 12 noon to 12 midnight. I am glad his new job is only temporary! Confused

misstrish521 · October 2011

MH and I work almost opposite schedules. I work 6:30a-1:30p (sometimes 2:30p) and he works 4p-12:30a, but leaves for work at 3p. It really sucks. We have 1 day off together every other week. I hate it.

jk101510 · October 2011

My DH is a police officer, he works 6am-4pm, 4 days on 3 days off. Every 8 weeks his days change. So this 8 weeks he's off wed, thurs, fri. and the next 8 weeks he's off sat, sun, mon. It's nice that he's home every night but stinks when he works weekends b/c we can't do much, he has to be up at 5am so goes to bed early. It really feels like we don't have time together during these 8 weeks but it's also a nice break for me to get stuff done around the house.

narabug · October 2011

DH works overnight, M-F 10pm to 7am. I work days, varying shifts, varying days. Though I typically get off before 6 and have every other weekend off. It's still hard to find time for just us, because when I get home from work he's sleeping. And even when we have a day off together our sleep schedules don't match up at all, so he usually ends up staying awake way too long.

bwe1100 · October 2011

MH isn't a 9-5er and neither am I, but we're pretty lucky in that we're both working from home and near each other a lot. I'm a grad student and he's a musician, so we're pretty flexible time-wise. Except for when he's out on tour - that blows.

qt030603 · October 2011

I work 11:30a-8p or 8a-4:30p depending on the day and b/f works 3p-11:30p. I usually nap for 2 hours before he gets home then get up and hang out with him. I have been doing this for 5 yrs, so I am used to it.

This week though I haven't been able to get up. I've slept from 9:30 till I have to get for work and am still tired during the day. Every once in a while my body tries telling me something, like "hey you need to sleep more".

ral1985 · October 2011

I work 8:30-5 M-F and my DH works midnights. He works 12 hour shifts Friday night and Saturday night so he is basically sleeping all day throughout the weekend. The silver lining: We still get to have family time every night of the week/weekend when DD and I get home from our day and he is waking up from sleeping. The downfall: We don't EVER get a full day together, unless one of us were to take the day off. Totally sucks.

sklady · October 2011

My DH is a farmer so he is gone by 6am and doesn't normally get home until 8 or 9pm most nights now. During seeding and harvest he is gone by 6 am and normally home around 1am. So happy that harvest is over!

angelsnight · October 2011

MH does landscape so his schedule is pretty regular during the season, but in the winter he does snow removal. We live in Michigan, so winters like we had last year was pretty nuts. It can suck because he might work 24 hours straight, come home and try to get some sleep and then have to go out again a couple hours later....sometimes he gets his days and nights backwards depending on his schedule, so he'll be up till 4 or 5am and then sleep till 1pm.

It's like feast or famine, he'll work for weeks with crazy hours, and then it won't snow for weeks (which sucks for our bills). I know it doesn't compare to being without YH all the time, but I can sort of feel your pain a little.

farmerlynda · October 2011

sklady:
My DH is a farmer so he is gone by 6am and doesn't normally get home until 8 or 9pm most nights now. During seeding and harvest he is gone by 6 am and normally home around 1am. So happy that harvest is over!

This! Although it doesn't get light around here until 7 a.m. and gets dark by 7 p.m. so the days aren't quite so long. We also both work Saturdays at the farmers market, but we're working together which is fun.

FreyaWin2382 · October 2011

I'm an RN who works 12 hour shifts (day/night rotation) in the hospital, including weekends and holidays. My husband works for the airport and works late evenings, including weekends.

I feel your pain!

kiwi625 · October 2011

I'm not married to a 9-5'er.

MH and I both work 24 hour shifts. Before April we had the exact same schedule, we worked every third day. I got a new job in April, and I still work 24 hour shifts, but now the pattern of my schedule is different than his. This week is one of the few where our work days lined up. August was horrible because we would go days on end without seeing each other. It was our 2nd month TTC so that just made it even more upsetting. I can relate to not having more than a day off in a row together. I'm sorry you're going through that. Sad I'm getting adjusted to it, and it helps that my schedule is better for me on a personal level, but I still get excited when we have a couple days off together.

I hope your schedules get better soon Smile

StLerin · October 2011

I know the feeling. DH is a police officer and even though he has a "schedule", he rarely gets off work when hes supposed to and b/c he has a K-9, he is forever getting called out. It sucks but he loves it. Thank goodness I have a 9-5 job now, lol.

Mrs.KLF · October 2011

PattersRN:
I work 10:00pm to 6:30am three days on, two days off. H is a restaurant manager and works a very irregular schedule and his days off are not predictable. Usually his hours are 3pm - 11pm, or somewhere around there. I'm super jealous of people who work matching 8-5 schedules and get sat/sun off.

Ditto - my H is a restaurant manager as well. He does get two days off a week, but they are rarely two days in a row. He will usually work three 8-5/6 shifts and two 8-8 shifts a week.

BioGirl21 · October 2011

H and I work in retail, so neither of us is 9-5. I have every other weekend off and H usually has at least on day of the weekend off. We had to make ourselves unavailable on Wednesday so that we get at least one day together.

What really sucks are the days that I open and he closes-or vica vera- like today.

courtneym14 · October 2011

Last year my DH had 2 jobs so he was pretty much working everyday unless he asked for a weekend off. On the weekends he was working 12 hr shifts and had them off. Now my DH works 6:30-5 and I work 11-8 but we both have weekends off. We don't get to see eachother very much during the week, but whenever we have time we make sure to spend it together. Hang in there!!

Vonbabe · October 2011

Right now my DH is deployed but, when he is stateside he works from 5:30 am - 5:00 pm. M-F. Thankfully this does not interrupt our scheduling together. Except he likes to go to bed early since he has to get up at 4:00 am every day.

lowkeysbride · October 2011

MH is a mechanical engineer and usually works at home, which is nice. But, he also travals a great deal so we are apart a lot too. Right now, he's been out of town working in Alaska for the past 2 and a half months... ugh!

DrsWife27 · October 2011

My husband is a neurosurgery resident PGY-5 so I completely feel your pain. No one believes me when I say I see him maybe 4 days a month and that those days he is always too exhausted to leave the house

2 more years 2 more years. PM I'd love to talk more about residency and swap stories.

erpetdoc · October 2011

My DH's job is 24 hours a day, when I'm working, that is....he's a SAHD to the lovely Miss A. I'm an emergency veterinarian with a regularly irregular schedule. Right now, we work on an 18 week rotation, consisting mostly of nights, but with a few weekend day shifts thrown in to make life interesting. I work shifts that are between 12-15 hours, 10-12 days a month. The other days, I'm a SAHM with him...but of course, I do have to do some daytime sleeping, especially when I work a run of shifts together in a row. Our best time to be together is when I'm on a 3 or 7 day off break. Lucky us, the time I *think* I might be ovulating next will be when I'm on a 7 day break!

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