One twin smiles a lot more than the other?

KarliB84 · October 2011

One of my girls is always smiling and cooing and the other you have to really fight for her smiles which I am always trying to do! : ) She seems to be smiling more but she is so serious and tends to be the crabbier of the two! I just keep telling myself that they are two different babies and they each have their own personalities and will do things on their own time but I am always wondering when one does something why the other one isn't doing it! Did you all notice that they both tended to reach milestones together or separately? I am always such a worry wart! TIA

Polofsky · October 2011

My DD was just like this, DS started smiling waaaay before DD. To the point that I was reguarly researching autism (even though pedi wasn't worried). But DD caught up, didn't start really smiling reliably until about 3 months though. Freaked me out.

And I think it gets easier as they get older to really get on board with the "they are 2 different people" idea. because right now you are feeding them the same time, trying to get them to sleep at the same time, taking them to the dr at the same time, etc....

UsedToBeGoldie · October 2011

my boys never reached any milestone at the same time.... they were often months apart for things... and it's totally fine.

one of my guys smiles a LOT more than the other- it's always been that way - they just have different personalities... one smiles at everyone and flirts, the other is more skeptical of people and makes them earn his smiles. It's amazing how opposite my twins are - in all ways - you'll learn to enjoy it instaed of worrying about it. Trust me- i used to get worried that one was so much bigger than the other and try to get the smaller one to catch up.... and now they are 10lbs apart, and I LOVE that they are so different- it makes it more fun to me

Mrs.Greg · October 2011

My babies are almost the same age as yours and I'm noticing EXACLTY the same thing. Anna is our drama queen, she used to fuss all the time for no reason (she's just starting to not fuss quite so much!) and Fiona is always content. Now that they are smiling and cooing, Fiona smiles all the time and Anna just does a little. I was a little worried but now that I see yours and other's babies were the same way, I'm not so worried!

KarliB84 · October 2011

Thank you all so much for putting my mind at ease!! And sure enough tonight when Kaydence decided that she wasn't quite ready for bed, as I was rocking her to sleep she was smiling up a storm! It's so hard not to worry about every little thing but knowing that others are going through the same thing makes me feel much better!

macchiatto · October 2011

Mine reached a few of their milestones right at the same time (STTN, rolling over, etc.) but most of them they reached a month or two apart, and their personalities are SO different! They have totally different interests, strengths, etc. I think this is one of those areas where you have to look for and nurture each baby's strengths. You might find yourself more drawn to the more smiley one at this stage but if it's getting to you, I'd just try to focus on a little extra one on one time with the other, playing little games with her (peekaboo and such), etc.

macchiatto · October 2011

UsedToBeGoldie:
my boys never reached any milestone at the same time.... they were often months apart for things... and it's totally fine.

one of my guys smiles a LOT more than the other- it's always been that way - they just have different personalities... one smiles at everyone and flirts, the other is more skeptical of people and makes them earn his smiles. It's amazing how opposite my twins are - in all ways - you'll learn to enjoy it instaed of worrying about it. Trust me- i used to get worried that one was so much bigger than the other and try to get the smaller one to catch up.... and now they are 10lbs apart, and I LOVE that they are so different- it makes it more fun to me

And I agree with Goldie, too; now I enjoy it that my boys are so different. I've always noticed their differences but other people tended to lump them together when they were infants and say things like, "I don't know how you tell them apart!" But as they got older and their hair grew in (one platinum blond, one dark brown) people started commenting on how different they are. Like Goldie said, it's fun, and it's also cool because I think it helps people see them as two different people rather than lumping them together as "the twins."

marisuz28 · October 2011

I agree with PP. They are two different people, and as they get older you will see more and more differences. And then they'll throw you for a loop and switch it up! (who's going to be the fussier one, who's going to STTN, who is happy with strangers and who isn't etc.) It's a complete guessing game daily for me, but I wouldn't get too hung up on who should be doing what when. One of my girls is Ms. Rolly-Polly, and refuses to sleep (much less stay for any length of time) on her back. The other was actually the first to roll, but it's a rare occasion when she does.

Enjoy the differences. They'll both get there!

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