Anyone else paranoid about missed miscarriages?

nd01 · October 2011

My husband thinks I am nuts, but I worry about it a lot (no real reason to, just my personality - I have not had any problems). At 12 weeks, I thought I felt flutters but now am wondering if it was just weird digestion issues (as my belly was really rumbley at that time). But I really haven't felt anything in a while even though I am definitely, definitely showing. Last time I had an anterior placenta so didn't feel kicks for a while anyway. Anyway, just wondering if anyone else has been as paranoid as I am...

KatieMarie27 · October 2011

I was. I didn't feel anything for a few days, not sure if i just didn't notice or what. But I felt better cuz I had my a/s on Tuesday and baby was fine. Maybe look into a doppler to hear the baby's heartbeat???

Lanatir · October 2011

I'm still sort of paranoid. This is our first and miscarriage runs on my maternal side of the family. My mom had a m/s at like 16 weeks or so, so I feel like I'm not out of the woods. I try to cling to (however small this hope is) the fact that all my mom's family had thyroid problems and I haven't ever had any and at one point a study I read claimed thyroid problems can cause pregnancy complications.

Fergie+1 · October 2011

No, I don't. Some things I think are worth being paranoid about- strangers with belly-grabby hands, sick people, etc- but not things like a missed m/c. Especially if you have no history... That's one worry I'd shelve if I were you.

salt78 · October 2011

I don't think I am ever going to stop being paranoid about that until I'm holding her in my arms. And then I'll have a million new things to be paranoid about.

RaeJ004 · October 2011

I was very stressed out about it, especially since I've had a loss before. I started feeling movement at 18weeks and since then I haven't worried about it.

chrisandchris06 · October 2011

one late night I was clicking away on blogs in sigs on the second tri board and came across a blog about late mc and now it's most of what I think about.

jules121606 · October 2011

YES!! I feel like a total wacko. This is my first, so I guess I have a lot of first time mom jitters. Hearing the HB at the doctors office buys me a couple of days of sanity and relaxation and then I get freaked out all over again that something could have happened. I haven't felt much as far as movement goes, but my doctor assured me that I could go through the whole month of October and not feel anything.

sunnyday016 · October 2011

I don't think about it much, but I do get nervous when I hear stories about people that have a late loss. I still worry about DD though and she's 2.5! There are just so many bad things that can happen, all you can do is take care of yourself, make the best decisions you can to be safe & healthy, and treasure the time you have with your LOs (whether they're already born or still in the womb).

AttyMomma28 · October 2011

I definitely have these fears. Usually right before I go in for an appointment. It's always a huge relief to hear the heartbeat or see the ultrasound. I have an anterior placenta and a pretty chill baby so I don't feel movement (or at least what I can identify) hardly ever.

Prayer10 · October 2011

I do, right now I am more concerned about finding problems at the a/s. I also have a doppler I use a lot. Each morning but it's for like 5 seconds a day just to calm my nerves.

starswinger · October 2011

All the time! I have had a miscarriage previously, so I freak out easily and am scared I will go for an appointment and there is no heartbeat. Then I hear it and all is well with the world, at least, for a couple days.

Zimger · October 2011

Yes, I've had two losses and hope that nothing like that happens again. I've been very careful with everything and often feel like I'm walking on eggshells around myself. Like a previous post said...I don't think I'll not be worried until he's here and I have him in my arms. I try my best to stay calm and be sure to call my doctor if I have any concerns. Staying positive is the best thing I can do for myself and for him.

sarahinthecity10 · October 2011

I was up until about 12 weeks. I had a loss at 9 weeks before, but felt after 1st tri I am pretty much out of the woods. Plus, if you are growing larger every week, you have to have faith that things are progressing and the baby is developing.

Mrs_MBed · October 2011

I am. I've read way too many stories about women losing one or both of their twins between 18-23 wks, so until then (viability isn't until 22wks) it will stay in the back of my mind. Fortunately, I feel them quite frequently and am monitored very closely (doppler checks with the home care nurse every Monday & see the MFM every two wks), b/c I'm high risk, so it helps reassure me and keeps me calm.

JURAH · October 2011

So glad I'm not the only one who gets anxious like this. Like a pp said, I get most nervous about a missed miscarriage in the week leading up to an appointment. My dh thinks I'm a little wacky to worry, but I just can't help it. Looking forward to getting some more distinguishable movement, but sure I'll worry about new things then. lol

lulling · October 2011

I am a little paranoid but it usually only kicks in before I go for an appointment. I really don't feel much of anything yet. I think I MAY have felt some flutters. That is it. Today is my anatomy scan in an hour and a half and I am terrified that the doctor will say I lost the baby. But, usually, the other 28-29 days of the month I am fine. Just seems like when it is time for a check up I get scared.

DR1819 · October 2011

salt78:
I don't think I am ever going to stop being paranoid about that until I'm holding her in my arms. And then I'll have a million new things to be paranoid about.

This!!

mrs.gee · October 2011

I was all through 1st tri (since I'd had 2), then I shifted to worrying about my NT scan, then worrying about my A/S. Now that that's done I'm waiting for the next wave of paranoia to wash in.

mindyeschete · October 2011

I am very paranoid!! I had a miscarriage at almost 14 weeks and had no clue until I went to the Dr for my NT scan. I get so nervous the closer I get to going to my Dr visits. I go tomorrow for my a/s scan and I went from being so excited about finding out the gender to now being worried that the baby is doing ok. I still don't feel positive kicks, just a lil flutter here and there. I don't think that there is anything else to do but pray that everything goes well.

msteph82 · October 2011

salt78:
I don't think I am ever going to stop being paranoid about that until I'm holding her in my arms. And then I'll have a million new things to be paranoid about.

THIS. Every cramp I think "what's happening?!?!" I don't worry too much if I don't feel her for a few days, but I still worry.

I'm uneducated when it comes to m/cs, but at this point, wouldn't a miscarriage be really noticable? Can you miss a m/c at this point? (<--- that might be a stupid question and I don't mean to offend anyone)

LilyPotter218 · October 2011

salt78:
I don't think I am ever going to stop being paranoid about that until I'm holding her in my arms. And then I'll have a million new things to be paranoid about.

Pretty much this!

After the first half of this pregnancy, I worry about EVE.RY.THING.

I keep thinking it will get better, then I realize how often I worry about my dog and I know I'm totally screwed.

xoladiebug · October 2011

msteph82:
salt78:
I don't think I am ever going to stop being paranoid about that until I'm holding her in my arms. And then I'll have a million new things to be paranoid about.

THIS. Every cramp I think "what's happening?!?!" I don't worry too much if I don't feel her for a few days, but I still worry.

I'm uneducated when it comes to m/cs, but at this point, wouldn't a miscarriage be really noticable? Can you miss a m/c at this point? (<--- that might be a stupid question and I don't mean to offend anyone)

Unfortunately you could still miss and miscarriage at this point. I have an at-home doppler I'll use but if I didn't have that, there would be no way for me to know my baby was still growing as I haven't felt kicks. A woman on the November board just lost her little one and that made me bawl. Life is so unfair. I don't think I'll ever stop worrying.

msteph82 · October 2011

xoladiebug:
msteph82:

salt78:
I don't think I am ever going to stop being paranoid about that until I'm holding her in my arms. And then I'll have a million new things to be paranoid about.

THIS. Every cramp I think "what's happening?!?!" I don't worry too much if I don't feel her for a few days, but I still worry.

I'm uneducated when it comes to m/cs, but at this point, wouldn't a miscarriage be really noticable? Can you miss a m/c at this point? (<--- that might be a stupid question and I don't mean to offend anyone)

Unfortunately you could still miss and miscarriage at this point. I have an at-home doppler I'll use but if I didn't have that, there would be no way for me to know my baby was still growing as I haven't felt kicks. A woman on the November board just lost her little one and that made me bawl. Life is so unfair. I don't think I'll ever stop worrying.

Oh my gosh, how devastating. How incredibly sad and horrible.

I think I was thinking m/c in the bleeding/cramping sense. Thanks for the clarification.

olga&shaun · October 2011

I'm also a very paranoid person (especially pregnancy and newborn) even DH had a stern chat with me about it a couple weeks ago. If it wasn't for my doppler, I would have probably been insane by now. And yes, you'd think it gets better 2nd time around, but it actually got worse for me! A girl in our community just lost her baby 2 days ago at 24 weeks, I don't even know her personally but I bawled my eyes out for her part. All you can really do is hope and pray for your baby while taking care of yourself!

kiarstin · October 2011

I am always afraid at my next apt there wont be a heartbeat. It makes me nervous the day before. I don't feel any kicks or movement yet though so I don't have that added reassurance.

nola 1017 · October 2011

salt78:
I don't think I am ever going to stop being paranoid about that until I'm holding her in my arms. And then I'll have a million new things to be paranoid about.

This x 1,000! I hold my breath at every appt until I hear her heartbeat. I was worried about movement (even though I know you won't necessarily feel it until 20-22 weeks). Now that I'm feeling her kick, I worry when a long span of time goes by between kicks. I have a feeling this worrying will never go away. Hugs to you OP. I hope you feel movement soon!!

LauraSmarterSpam · October 2011

It never crossed my mind. I just feel so positive, and try to watch what I do. Miscarriages don't run in my family on either side (Unless the mc happened before AF and no one was wiser). I know it'll be later before I feel LO moving around since my ute is tilted really far back. I don't think I'll be paranoid about a missed mc. Even after the NT scan, I didn't even think about the possibility that LO could have signs of Downs, I was just so excited about the 500 bagilliondy snapshots the tech gave DH and me. I say that now, but you never know when things may arise.

Relax and enjoy yourself, my sister still wishes she were pregnant she had my nephew almost 3 years ago! XD

mrs.gee · October 2011

I've seen a lot of people mention how miscarriages don't run in their families but I've really never thought of miscarriage as a hereditary thing, unless there is some genetic issue (like a chromosomal translocation) or a clotting disorder... which is not the case for the majority of miscarriages.

MrsStephanieDunn · October 2011

nd01:
My husband thinks I am nuts, but I worry about it a lot (no real reason to, just my personality - I have not had any problems). At 12 weeks, I thought I felt flutters but now am wondering if it was just weird digestion issues (as my belly was really rumbley at that time). But I really haven't felt anything in a while even though I am definitely, definitely showing. Last time I had an anterior placenta so didn't feel kicks for a while anyway. Anyway, just wondering if anyone else has been as paranoid as I am...

I totally understand. I think it is fair to worry about it. I wouldn't spend too much time "stressing" over it because it can cause issues( stressing out a lot). I have the same fear. I had a m/c in my first pregnancy, it wasn't missed. But this time (our 2nd pregnancy) I do think about it as a possibility. I would ask your OB if you are at risk for a Missed M/C. They could explain some symptoms and things to watch out for during your pregnancy. Best of luck!

MrsStephanieDunn · October 2011

nd01:
My husband thinks I am nuts, but I worry about it a lot (no real reason to, just my personality - I have not had any problems). At 12 weeks, I thought I felt flutters but now am wondering if it was just weird digestion issues (as my belly was really rumbley at that time). But I really haven't felt anything in a while even though I am definitely, definitely showing. Last time I had an anterior placenta so didn't feel kicks for a while anyway. Anyway, just wondering if anyone else has been as paranoid as I am...

I totally understand. I think it is fair to worry about it. I wouldn't spend too much time "stressing" over it because it can cause issues( stressing out a lot). I have the same fear. I had a m/c in my first pregnancy, it wasn't missed. But this time (our 2nd pregnancy) I do think about it as a possibility. I would ask your OB if you are at risk for a Missed M/C. They could explain some symptoms and things to watch out for during your pregnancy. Best of luck!

BOTB2011 · October 2011

After my m/c earlier this year, YES I am terrified. To be honest even though I can feel LO as I type this I am still paranoid between each time I see/hear him.

I didn't start feeling intermittent flutters, that I would say 100% were flutters, until mid-16 weeks. The more persistent/constant movement started around week 19-20 (so last week).

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