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December 2011 Moms
When are you planning on....
When are you planning on letting your baby be around other children? I'm due 13 days before Christmas and my parents are kinda pissed that I will not be attending Christmas at their house this year. So they want to have Christmas at my house so the LO doesn't have to travel. Well.... I'm not so sure I want my 3 nieces and 2 nephews around my baby so soon. So again, When are you planning on letting your baby be around other children?
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Re: When are you planning on....
We're planning to go to a Christening on December 28th and we're due Christmas Day, but we'll opt for the 39 week induction.
But on the same note, we have a two year old that's in daycare, so he'll be bringing germs and stuff home that we can't prevent. Luckily, we are only close to the parents of the child being christened so no one else will want to touch him.
^ This. As soon as I get the chance DD will be right next to DS. When I had DD she was surrounded by other kids that came to visit in the hospital day one. As long as no one is sick it is perfectly fine.
um... day 1? I have a toddler...
If you're concerned about germs, you need to make sure the kids aren't sick/licking the baby/sneezing in their face.
If you're concerned about kids touching/looking at the kiddo, well...that's when you have to say "don't touch the baby" and move on.
I was told by my pediatrician and a few other friends that unless its your kid I shouldn't have the baby around other children for a few weeks. Also my hospital has a strict policy against bringing children into the hospital (unless its your kid) to visit the baby. Now.... I am a FTM, so I want your opinion on this subject. Am I being overly cautious? Is it not a big deal?
Would I bring my kid to a baby playgroup? No. Would I allow my family over for Christmas? Yes.
The scenario you are talking about (kids over at your home for Christmas) is your choice. I see nothing wrong with allowing your nieces/nephews over to celebrate with the family-you can always go in another room with your LO. Personally, I would not want my entire family over for the whole day on Christmas, especially since your EDD is 13 days before-you could be late and still healing from birth. I would invite people over for 2 hours to do a "mid-day" thing and then request quiet time as a family. My desire to play hostess to anyone after LO was born was pretty low....
We personally aren't changing anything about our normal lives and typical holiday traditions just because a newborn will be around. We're still going to take DD to pick our Christmas tree (me and LO might stay home for that), and we also plan on attending Christmas with my family like we usually would.
However, other than the 3 kids in the family that are 12 and under, LO won't really be around other children just for the simple fact that there aren't any around.
Lets face it.... our babies are going to be born in the worst time of year for flus and colds. I am going to see my family and the bf's family for xmas. If baby is born it will come too. I am a believer that the only way to fight a cold is to be around it and to develop antibodies for it. That being said, im not gonna be letting little children hold or play with the baby. But I wont be denying the grandparents the chance to see this grandchild. They are from out of town as well.
(back story my bf has two children who he has not seen due to issues with the mother, so the family is excited to have a grandchild they will actually get to see)
I am due Dec 6th and we are planning on Christmas with my DF's family that has 8(?) nieces and nephews ranging in ages from 1-17. Plus spending time with DF's 8 yr old and getting together with all of our friends that have kids ranging in ages from 4 mo.-7. I don't think many of the kids, especially the boys will care about holding our baby but if they do, we will make sure they wash their hands before touching him.
If someone is sick then obviously we will keep our son away from them but he's going to be born at the worst time of year for sickness/illness and will be exposed to germs no matter what we do.
Bugger having people over for Christmas with a newborn. Your mother sounds a bit rude to suggest that. You should just tell them that you'll play it by ear and if you make then you make it and if you don't, you don't.
Christmas is a big deal to me however, I couldn't be bothered having people over and I might not feel like taking LO out, so we'll be playing it by ear this year. Don't feel pressured to show the baby off because it suits your family. If you're not comfortable with it then you're not going to enjoy it.
When DD was born my nephews, 3 and 5yrs old at the time, came into the room after I had her to meet her for the first time. If they had been sick that would have been a different story.
This time our DD will be 2yrs old and the nephews will probably be around him right away as well. (As long as they aren't sick and this hospital allows them in, we're delivering at a different hospital.)
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This!
pretty much.
This is the first grandchild/niece on either side, so it may not come up for a few weeks. We do have friends with young children and as long as they aren't sick, I don't plan on telling them they can't bring their kids around.
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All this. Just FYI, thirteen days after my EDD with DD I was in the hospital with a two-day-old, recovering from an induction and c-section. Many FTMs go past their EDDs. If your OB doesn't induce postdates babies until 42 weeks, then you aren't even guaranteed to be home with your baby before Christmas. More likely you'll be home but still recovering from birth and trying to get some rest. This is not the time to have family over for a big Christmas thing.
I personally have no issues with LO being around other kids that young, but since I have a kid already, and she goes to preschool and brings home whatever bugs the other kids have, there's really not much point in being too protective, aside from the usual handwashing and other basic hygiene. If you're really concerned, you can ask that your nieces/nephews be up to date on vaccines, especially flu and pertussis. But in the same situation I don't think I'd keep LO away from other kids in the family.
I am with the PPs. As long as any kids aren't sick, I have no problems with them being around this LO from day 1. DS will come to the hospital as will my 4 year old nephew. Hopefully I'm not in teh hospital long enough to have a lot of visitors, but if it's like last time, I could have kids from the age of 3 up to 7 coming in to see us.
I'm due on 12/2, so holiday plans are the normal plans, all the family over at our house for dinner. Of course, as long as none of them are sick.
Since we have a DD already, I guess on Day 1 or 2! DD doesn't go to school/daycare right now but she still goes to the park and is around other children on a daily basis. I'm certainly not going to ship her off to protect the newborn. We'll definitely be focusing on a lot of handwashing though, and we'll all have our flu shots.
This is me as well - except replace your friends son with my bf's 9 y/o cousin and that's about the only other child that is in the family.