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Can things just get more craptastic? (multiple BFPs mentioned - not mine)

melly918melly918 member
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Ok, so my close co-worker just told me the other day that she is pg (very early). Not a surprise for me because we knew she was planning it anyway.  I took that news in stride and it does not bother me to be around her talking about it. She knows about my situation. 

Today I find out two other younger women in our place of employment are pg too and at appoximately the weeks I was supposed to be at. I feel like screaming out to everyone "I AM SUPPOSED TO BE 15 WEEKS TODAY!!!!!!"  It is just too much. I can accept being around one pg woman that I know well and have worked with for many years. But knowing there are three of them out there and that I would have probably been the first to deliver in the spring really pisses the shiz out of me.

 

 

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Re: Can things just get more craptastic? (multiple BFPs mentioned - not mine)

  • Kasi80Kasi80 member
    Left HugRight Hug  Oh, so sorry you are going through this.  It's such a crappy thing hearing others are pregnant and knowing you're not anymore. 
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  • dfduke1221dfduke1221 member
    Ugh!  I'm sorry, hun.  I know how much it stings in these situations.  ((hugs))  We're here for you to vent to.
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  • kokokatkokokat member
    I'm so sorry.  That has to be so hard for you to hear.  I know I'd be feeling the same way.  This is one of the things that's good about my office...all the ladies here with me are much older than I am, and not, uh, of reproductive age anymore.  None of them ever had m/c though, so I'm alone in that respect.  Hugs to you!
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    I'm so sorry.  That has to be so hard for you to hear.  I know I'd be feeling the same way.  This is one of the things that's good about my office...all the ladies here with me are much older than I am, and not, uh, of reproductive age anymore.  None of them ever had m/c though, so I'm alone in that respect.  Hugs to you!
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  • melly918melly918 member

    Yeah..I don't want to be bitter about it and make these ladies feel bad. I mean, I had one healthy pregnancy before and no one was mean to me about it. I just have to bite my tongue.

    I think it's just a double whammy for me especially this week is probably when I am supposed to O and we are TTAing for now because I have to get myself fixed first. 

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    BFP#2 ~ 8/2/11, EDD 4/11/12, D&C 9/12/11 at 9w5d
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  • BenzGrlBenzGrl
    Hugs to you! I had to chuckle at your comment about no one being mean to you when you had your "healthy" pregnancy...I so feel like being mean to any one I see who is pregnant right now it's not even funny. Thank God for this board, a place where we can come and vent to others who understand.
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  • melly918melly918 member

    imageBenzGrl:
    Hugs to you! I had to chuckle at your comment about no one being mean to you when you had your "healthy" pregnancy...I so feel like being mean to any one I see who is pregnant right now it's not even funny. Thank God for this board, a place where we can come and vent to others who understand.

     

    Oh, I totally agree with you !!!!

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  • amandachsamandachs member

    (((hugs)))  I wouldn't be above telling them that I did have a loss though, and that I would/should have been the number of weeks they are now.  Not in an ugly way, but in a just FYI so the comments can be kept to a minimum kind of way.  People are much more respectful now that they know of my loss, and those that aren't aware I tell when they get offensive so they don't think I'm just some b!tch who doesn't want to participate in the "yay I'm so preggars!!!" conversations. 

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  • kbhayneskbhaynes member
    ((hugs)) I know how you feel, and it sucks.
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    BFP #3  1.31.14 :: Natural M/C on 3.10.14 @ 9wk2d
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  • volleymommyvolleymommy
    That is difficult. You are valid in feeling this way. I hope somehow it becomes easier for you somehow. I wish I had some words to comfort but have nothing. Just know I totally understand how you are feeling.
    DD born 1/28/99 Second BFP 7/23/11 due 4/1/2012 miscarriage 9/2/2011 DNC 9/4/2011 BFP 2/3/2012 due 10/19/2012 mmc discovered 3/30/2012- d&c 4/3/2012 loss was around 9 weeks. Going through rpl testing. Dr. Suspects some type of blood clothing disorder. Current dx- endometrosis stage II and possible PCOS.
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