Posting Pictures of your belly online?? And countdowns..

MrsSmith04 · October 2011

Do you think its bad an inappropriate to post belly pictures online on facebook?? I had two people the other day tell me that i don't need to post my belly pictures. And that i shouldn't post my countdown everyday until my baby is due!!! I can't help it, i am excited and ecstatic about my baby and can't wait. I told them that I am very happy and ecstatic and that i just wanted to share my happiness with everyone, and that if they don't understand than I am sorry. It is my first child and I just want to be happy with my husband and my son and friends and family. I personally don't think there is any harm or anything wrong with doing that. But others do for some reason. And I told them that i am sick and tired of the negativity of things about my pregnancy?? I am sorry that it is long, i am just really frustrated and pissed off. All other people that i know are all happy and excited for me and support me 100% Why can't they??

Luke's Mommy

December 13, 2011

tkmiraglia · October 2011

I don't post them on facebook because I have several friends who are terribly afraid of pregnant woman...lol (weirdest fear ever). I do take them though and I send out a mass email to friends and family with the photo attachment. But, really, if they don't like the pictures, they don't have to look at them. Post them anyway.

Lindseylouwho · October 2011

If they are so bothered by it, they don't have to view your updates or subscribe to your news feed, and that's exactly what I would tell them. I have posted my belly pics and a few countdowns mainly for family that lives far away since they aren't here to share the pregnancy with me. Some people are very jealous, or possibly just plain rude. Don't let them bother you. This is a time to joyous and share your news and updates with those that appreciate them and support you! GL!

cszlachta · October 2011

I post occasional covered belly shots on FB, but the constant counting down to anything (wedding, baby, birthday, etc) would just make me block you--not call you out on it.

Erica92 · October 2011

Take this with a grain of salt but honestly as excited and YOU and DH are about your pregnancy and this baby (which you should be) you really shouldn't expect everyone else to want to look at your belly pictures or read about your baby's development each week.

This is my 3rd pg (4th child) and I have a few friends (some who are FTM's and some who aren't) who do this and honestly i just ignore their posts and go on with my life.

But I am also one of those people who don't feel the need to post about my life (i.e. where I'm eating dinner with my family, or that I'm at the library) b/c really unless you my husband or kids nobody else cares about my day to day life and they DEFINITELY don't care that at 34 weeks my baby's eyes are open when she's awake and closed when she's asleep, weighs near 5lbs, and is gaining weight everyday.

I don't mean this to sound snarky in ANYWAY so please don't take it that way but I guess technically I agree with your friends. Your excited about your baby, as is your DH and immediate family so share your excitement with them, not every random fb aquintance you have.

MrsSmith04 · October 2011

that is what i basically told them that if they didn't like it than they don't need to look at my post. And that they can hide my post for 9 months. lol Thank You, to both of you. I appreciate it.. And Good Luck to you both as well.

It just made me so mad.. My husband told me that they are probably jealous too!

TheMrsRN · October 2011

If you posted every day about your pregnancy on facebook, I would block you. I agree with PP that this is your baby and you shouldn't expect everyone else to be as equally as excited as you. Also, as someone who struggled with infertility, I would be really hurt if I had to see someone's pregnancy updates all the time on facebook while I was struggling with getting pregnant. You have no idea if there are friends you have on facebook that might be struggling to get pregnant, and it is nice to be considerate. As far as belly photos, if you want to put them on a facebook album, then I think that is fine. I have my maternity photos, some belly pics, and pictures of LO's room in an album on my page. If someone wants to look at them, they have to open the album.

TheMrsRN · October 2011

MrsSmith1004:
that is what i basically told them that if they didn't like it than they don't need to look at my post. And that they can hide my post for 9 months. lol Thank You, to both of you. I appreciate it.. And Good Luck to you both as well. It just made me so mad.. My husband told me that they are probably jealous too!

Why would they be jealous? Do you know that they are struggling to get pregnant? If you know that they are, it is pretty darn inconsiderate of you to expect them to like seeing all of your pregnancy posts and pictures. When you want to be pregnant so badly and are struggling with infertility, it definitely does make you jealous when someone else constantly talks about their pregnancy on facebook or in person. I don't think they should have to apologize for feeling that way though......

Ready4life · October 2011

They can hide your posts or "de-friend" you if they don't want to see your posts. A daily counter till your due date might be kind of annoying, but I get annoyed when people post too much anyway, not just those pregnant. So I hide them and don't have to look at their posts.

You might consider they have suffered losses and just not mentioned it. Or they are having a hard time getting pregnant.

MrsG.060708 · October 2011

I've posted belly pics every once in a while and I think it's fine. I don't mind when my friends do the same.

Posting a countdown EVERYDAY would annoy the crap out of me, but I would just hide your posts, not tell you that you can't do it.

xxmiyaxx · October 2011

I personaly don't feel the need to put my belly pics on FB ......but I do think it's really rude of people to tell you you don't have to, AND to stop counting down. =P geeze way for them to ruin your mood!!!!

It's your FB wall....you can write what you want. Look at all the other pointless things people say on their FB walls (like they're eating...or at work....who the F cares?!) ....if you want to countdown, go for it!!!! I'm sure certain people would be excited for you Others can just ignore it....I know I ignore messages I don't care about...it's not like I'm obligated to comment on every person I know.

If you do want to post belly pics...make an album, and just continue to update it - it gives you an option to post the update to your wall or not. I did this with my u/s pic. I know not everyone cares about my baby, so I put one pic up, but my mother wanted to see more so I added more to the album later, but "skipped" posting the update to my wall. My mom was able to go in and see the new pics and comment, and no one else had to be pestered with a bunch of baby pics on their wall. If you want certain people to see the pic, just tag them in it

Don't let grumpy people bring you down mama!!! You're allowed to be excited..and if those people get pregnant, I'm sure they're feel EXACTLY the same way (excited and want to share)..and then people will be saying the same thing to them! =P hehe

trishinbanff · October 2011

I personally don't like ultra sound, count down EVERY DAY, or belly pictures on FB so guess what, I don't do it. I have friends that do and guess what, I don't look! lol

I have a private album to share with a select few people (my family is all back east so they don't get to see the progressing bump). Once and a while I will have something on my status about being pregnant but not everyday it's usually just a holy crap the baby could be here in 40 days or half way there.

Just ignore them. As PP said they can't tell you what you can and can't write on your wall. You have a right to be excited!

Novas Mommy · October 2011

This.

The only reason i post them (and it's usually every three weeks or so) is because im asked to. I have a lot of family who lives far away so i keep in touch with them on FB. The way i see it is, if you dont like it, dont look.

Chargersgrl33 · October 2011

I think it's tacky to post half naked pictures of myself....even if they are belly shots. And I also don't post countdowns on facebook. It's not that I'm not excited about my pregnancy, but why on earth should everyone else be concerned with it. I also don't post much on Facebook.

lynettexrenee · October 2011

i love seeing updates of my friends who are pregnant, and they have all posted pictures and most of my group of friends love it and always say "post photos so i can stay updated!"

if someone doesn't care, they can just pass my photo and move on to the next thing... i have always enjoyed seeing others and hearing about their news, so i assume there are some friends that enjoy hearing mine.

do you what want, i think its fun to have that stuff to look back on!

PecanSam · October 2011

I post belly shots on facebook and my friends and family look forward to them. If I fall behind in my posting then I get a call to get off my butt.

People do not have to look at your pictures, tell them if they don't want to look at them then don't look at them. It's not like you are posting them on their wall. What is their problem??

tinydancingqueen · October 2011

I've had a difficult pregnancy, and been on bedrest for the last 3 months, and facebook has been a great way for me to update my friends an family on my status and the health of the baby. It's also allowed me to reach out for support when I've needed it the most. I don't post everyday, just when I've hit a milestone (finding out sex, 28 weeks, 34 weeks, passing 3 hr glucose test) and when I need support (like at 3am when i've been up for 24 hours straight with preterm contractions, carpal tunnel, back pain and insomia and need some loving encouragement to keep me motivated). I think if there is a specific thing that you are joyful about, you should be able to post it, but I do agree that posting everything and anything about baby can get pretty overwhelming for some people (especially for my single friends who have no interest in babies or pregnancy). But its your facebook page to do anything you want with, so if you're excited about posting belly pics and countdowns, then go for it and people can just change their viewing settings if they are getting overwhelmed.

kes487 · October 2011

Seriously, if they don't like it and don't want to see it, there's an easy solution: UNFRIEND YOU. It's YOUR facebook page, for your face and whatever else you want to show. If they don't like it, get over it or delete you as a friend. Either way, there's an easy solution for their own unhappiness.

Continue to be elated about your pregnancy.

elledizzy · October 2011

Post whatever you want. I'm getting really sick of people dictating what is Facebook appropriate and what isn't, within reason, of course!

If you want to have 18 posts a day about your pregnancy, do it! If they don't like it, they can unsubscribe/block/unfriend or just freaking stop looking. Just don't be surprised or upset when this happens.

I chose to keep MOST of my pg stuff off of FB, and blog about it. That way people can go see stuff if they want to, but can avoid most of it.

For the record, I do find obsessive posting about specific things annoying, but I choose to be on Facebook, so I choose my settings accordingly!

BettyBookworm · October 2011

I don't post every day about my pregnancy on FB. I posted covered belly shots (I am self-conscious about my stretch marks) at various intervals (12 weeks, 24 weeks, etc.).

I figure if someone has a problem with them (the pictures or the updates) that they can block my newsfeed or simply not open the photos. I do have some friends that are struggling to get pregnant, & I asked them before I started posting photos how they felt about it. I didn't want them to be caught off guard with the photos on their feed, but these are also friends that I sent emails to when I found out I was pregnant (I didn't announce on FB for the same reason). So, its not that I'm not considerate of my friends with IF. Its simply that my FB page/feed/photos are about my life & so I think that it is only fair to share it. Not ALL the time, but the big milestones etc. sure.

If you are annoying with it maybe someone said something finally? I don't know. I have had to make myself more aware of how self-involved I've been feeling lately so maybe someone was trying to clue you in to cool it for a while? Be excited and share it with your family-- maybe make the updates for them (you can be selective now on who sees what on FB).

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

iverske9 · October 2011

I put up a belly pics about once a month, but blocked a few people if I knew they wouldn't be thrilled, etc. Just block the ones that complained and do what you want.

apeydawn214 · October 2011

I post a weekly belly picture and important updates about DD. I haven't heard anything from any of my facebook friends about it.

Shortly after the start of my pregnancy, I took a lot of people off of my facebook.. The only people that I really kept were those I interacted with daily. I found that there were several people that requested to add me again because they genuinely wanted to see and read updates about my pregnancy.

If someone annoys me too much, I just block them. I wouldn't complain about what they choose to post.

MrsNash37212 · October 2011

I announced my pregnancy and the sex on FB and that is it. Between old sorority sisters and high school friends, I'm not BFFs with the vast majority of my FB friends. I don't know who might be struggling with infertility (it seems a lot of people do these days) and throwing my pregnancy in their face with my AW-ing would be extemely inconsiderate. I think a photo or 2 is okay, but constant updates could be really hard for some people to take.

brea311 · October 2011

I deleted the feed for my cousin because she updated like every six hours how tired she was, where she was going, what she was doing, etc. Her whole pregnancy seemed like such a negative experience for her and it was just a complain fest multiple times a day. (We are pregnant at the same time and only a couple weeks apart).

I took a different approach and made a baby website and emailed that to my family and friends. I put my belly photos there and post updates on my doctors appts. That way people can check in on me when they want and yet the myriad of "friends" that I have on facebook dont have to know every intimate detail about my pregnancy. I also do that because in my line of work privacy is a huge concern and so I am careful what I post on fb. I didnt even tell FB that I was pregnant (and asked my family and friends to refrain from commenting) until I was 25 weeks along.

People have to realize that there are no "rules" when it comes to social networking sites and people have different levels of comfort for their privacy. I am a person who is friends with a lot of old acquaintances and people from work whom I wouldnt normally disclose personal issues to and thus have limited my profile so they dont even see photos that I post. To each their own...

icanhazbebe · October 2011

TheMrsRN:
If you posted every day about your pregnancy on facebook, I would block you. I agree with PP that this is your baby and you shouldn't expect everyone else to be as equally as excited as you. Also, as someone who struggled with infertility, I would be really hurt if I had to see someone's pregnancy updates all the time on facebook while I was struggling with getting pregnant. You have no idea if there are friends you have on facebook that might be struggling to get pregnant, and it is nice to be considerate. As far as belly photos, if you want to put them on a facebook album, then I think that is fine. I have my maternity photos, some belly pics, and pictures of LO's room in an album on my page. If someone wants to look at them, they have to open the album.

THIS.

I post stuff about my pregnancy on FB but I try to limit it to one update a week, and when I post pregnancy-related status updates I always think "Is this something the masses need to know, or do I just want to share it with people who I know are interested?" I have a separate "List" set up of those friends who want to know every detail of my pregnancy, and I will often select to share my updates/photos with ONLY the people on that list (which you can do by clicking the little pull-down menu on the right of the update box, next to the "Post" button).

Byrdgirl1 · October 2011

I don't usually post much on Facebook but I have been posting some covered belly shots every 5 weeks. I don't care what people think because so many of them post food picks or are complaining about their sig. others or just every little detail about what they are doing every day. Besides I post for my dad who lives far away and won't be here until the baby comes. So if your friends have issues they can just hide your posts.

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