Anybody else traumatized by D&C?

lc&jw · October 2011

Sorry for posting so much in the last couple days. I'm just really struggling here. Yesterday was my 4th loss, but first D&C. I'm really struggling to cope with everything that happened yesterday, not just the awful experience I had during the prep ahead of time, but also the thought of what happened in that operating room.

I'm a very modest and private person, so the thought of lying mostly naked (I assume) on a table with my legs spread in stirrups while I was unconscious has me really freaked out and uncomfortable. The thought of medical staff moving me around and doing things to me that I don't know about creeps me out. I know that nothing happened that shouldn't have happened, but I can't shake this awful feeling and sense of embarrassment or indignity. The whole process is so unnatural and invasive. I'm also really disturbed by the idea of the contents of my uterus being sucked out.

I wish I had never agreed to this D&C. I've been reliving every moment of yesterday morning since it happened. It's in my head constantly and I can't make it go away. I know that this will get better over time, but for now I'm just struggling and wondering if anyone else has felt this way. I try to tell myself that what happened yesterday was a straight forward medical procedure on the part of the staff, but for some reason that doesn't seem to be making it any easier to cope with this.

emeraudecephiro · October 2011

I had a very traumatic first D&C, it was emergency and my horrible OB did some damage and missed a lot of tissue (later closed his practice)...I had a second one with a much more caring OB, and they fixed everything and made it much more pleasant. I am so sorry you are also traumatized. *hugs* It gets better, my dear.

psychmajormom · October 2011

huge ((((hugs)))) I am very sorry you are feeling like this... I hope everything gets better for you....

briast20 · October 2011

I can understand feeling that way. Personally, I tried to block out of my mind what actually happens during the procedure. There are alot of things that bother me, but they're more along the lines of what happens after, not during. The few days after were the hardest for me. After that, it does get easier. It doesn't get better, but it gets easier.

((Hugs))

charmedgrl517 · October 2011

I am so sorry you are going through this I hope these feelings get better or go away soon! My d&c was good overall considering....I went in as an emergency which sucked and was painful before the d&c, but my doc is great She has to be one of the nicest OB's ever She rubbed my arm before going into surgery and said sweetie, its ok It was like a motherly thing and I felt so comfortable. I didn't have any pain after d&c. I thought about the things you are thinking about briefly, but couldn't imagine going thru the m/c naturally since I just started to before the d&c and the pain for me was unbarable (sp?) I really hope you feel better soon and get your take home baby very soon

amandachs · October 2011

I'm so sorry. I have enough medical knowledge to know all of the awful possible side effects, things that can go wrong, and more specifically what the procedure entails. I think that was a good portion of why I was so upset going into mine. My OB was very surgically efficient, but had piss poor bedside manners which is why I changed OB's. The nurse I had in day surgery, the anesthesiologist, and the techs were all amazing through my sobbing and shaking... very compassionate. The anesthesiologist made *sure* I was good and drugged before they took me out of the prep room, I have no memory of ever leaving the room. I literally fell asleep and woke up in the same room, with my nurse holding my hand. I'm so so sorry that you're reliving it. ((((hugs))))

hungryhippo · October 2011

I'm so so sorry and I can totally understand your feelings. I was actually awake and alert for my D&C. I did have one medication (kinda like Valium) and my memories of everything DH and I did about 2-4 hours after the D&C are a little fuzzy. But, If you want to PM me I'd be happy to describe my experience during the procedure in case that would help you sort of re-imagine what might have happened in your case.

I also totally understand if you don't want to know. (hugs)

Twizzle · October 2011

Yes, I was completely traumatized by it. I had a panic attack on the table right afterwards. It's traumatic enough, but I also had only local anesthesia, with a doctor I had never met before so that made it a lot worse. Fortunately the nurse was very sweet.

I'm really sorry that you had such a terrible experience. It does get better with time. Maybe you can journal about it or try to find something positive to think about. For me, what helped was that afterwards I no longer felt pregnant and I didn't have death in my body any more. It was like I got to hit refresh and move on. I hope you start to feel better soon!

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