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Poop accidents three days in a row?!? Help!!
For the last 3 days around the same time every evening from 5pm-7pm, DS poops in his underwear. He casually tells us that he's pooped and doesn't seem too concerned about getting out of his underwear. He's been potty trained since June, so this is disturbing.
The biggest factor is that we're having a baby (due in March) and every book I've read and suggestions from friends point to this major change as the reason for the accidents.
We haven't made a big deal whenever he has these accidents, just take him to the bathroom and direct him to help us by removing his pants and underwear and flushing the toilet.
I'm considering letting him go pants free in the evening and taking out his old potty again. If anyone is going through this, or survived this phase, I'd really appreciate any suggestions.
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Re: Poop accidents three days in a row?!? Help!!
We have this problem on and off. It started in August and was fairly bothersome for most of August and September. Seems to have stopped again now unless it's been a really long time since he's gone. I do ask him to sit and try about 20 minutes after lunch and about 20-30 minutes after dinner.
I definitely found that paying too much attention to it made it much worse. I think it's partly a 3 year old control thing. There are so many things they don't have much control over, but going to the bathroom is one of them! It could be the upcoming baby, it could be his age.
Is it a complete BM in his pants or just a start? If it is just a little bit is it possible he might be a little constipated? Only have issues with one of my girls. If she is backed up she will have small accidents in her pants for a day or two and when I put her on the potty she just can't get it out. So once I have give her some Miralax and have her drink some 100% apple juice she will start going again and the accidents stop.
But in the beginning of training I had the problem where she would only go on the potty half the time for BM. She was not constipated and she knew it was wrong. She is the kind of kid that will only put in the least amount of effort to get what she wants, so since she got a reward for going half the time, she just didn't care when she had an accident. So I told her if she pooped in her panties she could not get into the pool the next day (we have a pool at our house and she loves to swim). She had an accident that evening and the next day, I would not let her get in the pool. She had to stay inside while I took her twin out to the pool to swim and just watched through the window. She just cried and cried, but I stood my ground. She has never had a poop in her pants again, except when she is constipated which is not that often. She needed a consequence. I don't feel as though this was a punishment, but a consequence, if you poop your pants you don't get to do xyz.
If he is doing this because he is being lazy (not wanting to stop playing) and not using the potty or because he doesn't care and wants to push boundries then I would figure out a consequence for him. Is there something he likes to do that you can hold over him. My BFF had this problem with her 5 year old. She would wait until the last minute at school to do and then there would be a line and she went in her pants. My BFF told her if she had an accident at school for waiting too long she could not go to gymnastics that week. She had to follow through only 1x and that child acted like the world was coming to an end since she could not go to gymnastics. She has never had an accident in her pants again, except when ill.
Thanks for the advice. He tends to do this in the middle of activities, like he doesn't want to stop what he's doing. He doesn't get to watch t.v. after Preschool today--that's when it seems to happen. I've also brought out his old potty chair, to see if it's an issue with not getting to the toilet on time. He goes completely--no constipation/diarrhea. We'll see what happens tonight.
Oh yes! The reward system, thanks! It seems like it's been a million years since I did the rewards for dry days. I'm running to the store to buy M&M's. Sending jlw2505 a virtual hug!