Could they possibly know???

jcandme · October 2011

I had my 20 week sonogram 2 weeks ago at which we opted not to find out the sex of our baby because we want to be surrpised! I just had my normal monthly check up at my doc's office today and they had the results/comments from the ultrasound tech as normal. My question is, do they write the gender of the baby in the charts, or if we chose to be surprised, does the gender not matter to the doctors, etc.? I was wondering if my doctor/nurse knew because the first thing the nurse said when she looked at my chart was "looks like she was breech at the ultrasound"... I'm hoping/assuming that it was just how she refers to babies rather than "it"...
Does anyone know if gender is charted?

hass2001 · October 2011

I'm not sure, I am sorry if she did slip, that is a bummer.

I know at my last appt, the doc said how much he couldn't care less about what the sex was, but that the baby was healthy, heart was good, lungs, kidneys, etc...

greengirl0909 · October 2011

For my first pregnancy we had to have a sonogram at like 32 weeks for sizing. I was strongly opposed to knowing the gender and I was freaking out. I had this vision of checking into the hosptial and the nurses coming in, looking in my chart, and being like, oh looks like your little girl is ready to come out, or something. I called and bawled to the nurse in my ob/gyns office. She said, well policy says they write it down.

When we arrived for our ultrasound I was pretty upset and the tech said, actually Dr. S called and said I didn't need to record it. He said there was no medical reason we needed to record it, so I'll be the only one who knows.

I understand how you're feeling. Just tell yourself it meant nothing!

KRISTA555 · October 2011

Oops!

My guess would be that they do put it in the chart when talking about whether or not the reproductive anatomy looks normal... however, if you don't want to know, don't ask them.

Even with her saying that, you still don't know. Don't investigate, don't ask them if they put that in the chart, etc. If you do, and they say yes, then you will assume she saw the sex and be disappointed to know.

As of right now, you still don't know. Keep it that way.

springplum · October 2011

I'm not sure if it's charted or not, but I'll bet they get yelled at for calling babies "it", so I'd just assume "she" is the doc's neutral pronoun.

stjohnbride2003 · October 2011

We are also team green (with twins). I just had my first appt with my OB after having the 20 week anatomy scan and I asked him if he was told the sexes and he told me "nope, it's not recorded, so unless I find out the sexes from you it will be a surprise to me at birth as well!"

ZoeyMarie · October 2011

With G, they didn't even write it in the charts. I'd think that your nurse was just saying "she" so that she didn't have to say "it" or "he or she". I call this baby "he" just because I feel bad calling him/her "it".

StephCripps · October 2011

springplum:
I'm not sure if it's charted or not, but I'll bet they get yelled at for calling babies "it", so I'd just assume "she" is the doc's neutral pronoun.

Yeah my Dr. told me that she usually refers to babies as 'he" and to not be concerned and that she doesn't know what the sex was..

so i would agree she was probably just saying 'she' goes maybe she's use to it? She has daughters or something

JhawkCE · October 2011

I wouldn't put any stock into it. Yes, they could have seen and noted it on the chart, but my Dr. says it's so much easier/quicker to do ultrasounds when you don't have to hunt for the parts so they don't look if they don't have too. She turns the screen off when doing the measurements where it may show up, but with both of our children she didn't know either. She actually prefers it that way.

They use pronouns like he and she interchangeably. Half the time I call it a he because my first was a boy, but I have no idea.

andreabean0929 · October 2011

My doctor knew the sex of my baby after my a/s. My next appointment following the scan she asked how my little girl was. So the ultrasound office must have wrote the sex in my records they fowarded to my OB.

jcandme · October 2011

Thanks so much! I didn't question her on it, because I'd really just like to assume she was just using a term to describe! This was literally 2 minutes after she asked me if I found out the gender! So who would really be that insensitive to slip that soon!

I guess it's a 50/50 chance, but I've gone this far without knowing so I hope to keep it that way

TIFF-N-SMILEY05 · October 2011

I had an u/s @ 16 weeks and I told them we didnt want to know. The quirky lady that drew my blood said .... "what are you having??" I told he we arent finding out and she looked around in my chart.... She said ... "I knoooowwww " singing it..... I'm like ... REALLY?! She is not teasing with my childs gender right now....... It bothered me a bit but we are still Team Green. I wouldnt worry about the "she comment" Im sure its just a normal term used.

beachbunni307 · October 2011

My dr. told me that the sex was told for fun and not necessarily as part of the scan so it's not written in the report and she wouldn't know at my next appointment. At our scan she had to specifically look for it, it wasn't something that was just apparent during the routine stuff...so she probably just said that because thats how she refers to it.

treble_clef · October 2011

That's annoying! This is exactly what I'm afraid of happening ever since we became team green... I'm so paranoid about all the doctor visits. I also have another ultrasound with my perinatologist next week, and I'm afraid someone is going to slip and tell me.

But, my ultrasound tech said she refers to all babies "he" no matter what sex the actual baby is. You never know...

Baroo2012 · October 2011

It absolutely is charted but if the couple wants it to be a surprise that is written too.

soralette · October 2011

stjohnbride2003:
We are also team green (with twins). I just had my first appt with my OB after having the 20 week anatomy scan and I asked him if he was told the sexes and he told me "nope, it's not recorded, so unless I find out the sexes from you it will be a surprise to me at birth as well!"

Yup, this is what my OB said, too, almost word-for-word, LOL. I guess it just depends on your doctor's office!

Twinkle5086 · October 2011

At my docs office if the parents don't want to know the sex of the baby they don't put it in the chart. That way the doctors don't know what the sex of the baby is and slip up and tell you.

runrinserepeat · October 2011

I saw my OB right after my A/S, and she had to ask me whether I found out the sex and what it was. It was not on the report of results that she was sent. A lot of people just refer to baby as he or she - don't read too much into it!

fishfarmer27 · October 2011

They do put it on the chart. We wanted to find out, so we did and the tech said it was a boy and pointed it all out and gave us the pics. Then right after my a/s we saw the doctor and she walked in and said "So a Girl!". I freaked, and she went and double checked with the tech. Turns out she wrote it down wrong on our chart, we are having a boy. However throughout our a/s the tech kept refferring to the baby as "she/her" before and after we found out the gender. I hope the didn't spoil the suprise for you. good luck

NiniJ55 · October 2011

I'm sure they write it somewhere - I do think they put it in your chart.

I don't think she meant anything by "she", though. You never noticed her saying she/ he before today?

My nurse never refered to my babies at "it". So I would say you are pretty safe.

ETA: Now that I think about it.... my doc asked me if I found out what I was having... meaning he asked me about the sex of the baby. So, maybe they don't write it down. Becuase could have easily taken a look himsef Huh?

kmv6107 · October 2011

soralette:
stjohnbride2003:

We are also team green (with twins). I just had my first appt with my OB after having the 20 week anatomy scan and I asked him if he was told the sexes and he told me "nope, it's not recorded, so unless I find out the sexes from you it will be a surprise to me at birth as well!"

Yup, this is what my OB said, too, almost word-for-word, LOL. I guess it just depends on your doctor's office!

I agree with this, it is not recorded, they didn't even look for that until it was all over and I asked her and then she had to go back and see.

sunnyday016 · October 2011

I'm like 90% sure that my OB does not have it written down in the charts.

bbhalphen · October 2011

Mine was in my chart. The OB was excited to tell me and I had to tell him the tech had already told me. He did ask if I wanted to know, though.

greeneyed_bride · October 2011

I know that they recorded it in my chart at my OB's office even though we don't want to know. But the ultrasound tech and my OB said that they wrote "do not reveal gender" all over my chart. However, before my ultrasound, the tech said, "Just so you know, I typically refer to babies as "he" when I look at them since I don't like to say "it." So if I say "he" while I'm looking at your baby, it's because it's my default and not because I'm telling you the gender." So it's possible that "she" is your nurse's default pronoun.

selenamarino · October 2011

If life were "according to Friends" they do write the gender in the chart because when Ross and Rachel had thier ultrasound Rachel looked in the chart to see the gender but Ross caught her (before she could see) then he called to find out because he didn't like her knowing and told her.

Sorry, I can relate pretty much anything to Friends.

itsstillme · October 2011

my doctors office does not. they specifically told me that with my first pregnancy. the doc said something like- we do not keep a record of the gender of the baby so if I say he or she it means nothing.

jrush89 · October 2011

my u/s tech told us what we were having but my doctor didnt know at my next appt. she has always used "she/her" and continued to even though i knew we were having a boy. i had to tell her. all doctor's offices are different, i wouldn't worry if i were you

cheese.fiend · October 2011

We had our A/S with a perinatologist and when I went in for my regular OB visit, my OB had no clue that we're having a girl. She had to ask!

shouldbworkin · October 2011

It was in my chart, but not on the top page. It was pretty obvious, every time I went someone asked if I knew, I said no, they flipped the page and asked me what I thought it was or if I'd picked out names. I didn't realize at the time, but totally see it now, they hinted to me a few times ... both times! Now they have EMR's and rarely even bring the computer in with them, so I don't think that will be happening anymore.

jenick · October 2011

No, it's not written down by every tech. The sex of our baby could not even be determined at the a/s so it's not something they look at specifically. We were told by the tech that they do not write it down specifically for legal purposes in case they are wrong.

Kriz_b · October 2011

My dr's office didn't have it last time. They asked if I knew because it wasn't in the report. I haven't had my OB appt after my u/s last week yet so I don't know if they recorded it this time.

ghdst1 · October 2011

My drs office is not told the gender. They are only given a report of the ultrasound from the u/s tech and doctor. So when I went in for my appt after the u/s my doctor said "I don't know if you found out the gender but they don't tell us." I remember with DS we were team green and my drs would always say "he/she" but i think they were just using them so they didn't say "it".

Shmogan09 · October 2011

My office said they always record it because there are certain things they look for with boys/girls. Not sure if that is true but that is what my nurse told me.

JosF21 · October 2011

I know with my first we didn't find out and the nurse wrote SUPRISE in big letters on the top of the chart. I don't know if they did this because they had it written somewhere else and wanted a reminder not to slip and say it or if that is where they generally wrote the sex. I don't know why they would need to chart the sex if the patient didn't want to find out, but each clinic is probably different.

Breezy through life · October 2011

Since I was never team green I don't know. I do know on the top page of my chart is the note of the gender. I saw it last appointment. However, I'm pretty sure if I hadn't wanted to know the gender, it would be a lot less obvious then that.

firefIy · October 2011

My doctor said the sex has no medical significance and that they do not put it in the chart. They wouldn't put it in even if I want to find out. So she said when I find out in the delivery room is when she (my doctor) will find out.

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