I'm feeling a little guilty...tell me i'm not alone

LIvie Dean · October 2011

I had a shower saturday, and we got a little bit of money from some guests. Well, we've spent a little bit of it to get groceries and now i'm feeling terrible about it. We both promised to give it back, but still. This probably sounds a little silly, and I know that money was meant to get whatever we needed for him. But we pretty much have everything we need and I still have another shower next month. I just feel bad and need to hear that i'm not the only one I guess or that we weren't wrong for doing it lol.

iluvmylab · October 2011

I would have probably put it in the savings account we have set up for the baby, but that's just me.

InTheSun · October 2011

My theory is that the cash you used for groceries frees up future cash or current money in the bank for baby stuff. It's not like you gave the cash to a homeless person...you used it yourself. Now when you go to buy something for the baby, you'll have the money somewhere else. Make sense??

MrsRucinski85 · October 2011

Well, if it makes you feel better I kinda did the same thing - although we dont have everything we need for the baby. When we were visiting family/friends in NY a few people gave us a card with money in it and I used it on food for the trip home... I kinda figured I was "feeding" the baby SSSOOOO its kind of ok right? I felt a little guilty at first but then when I felt full from the food, I got over it.

GoldenPeaches · October 2011

If you're feeling that guilty, just replace the money like you talked about. If you already have everything you think you may need, why not save it until the baby is here for random/last minute items you might end up needing? If having the cash is tempting, buy a gift card with it. On the other hand, if you get some more money from your next shower you can start a 529 college savings for LO.

mrsfowler1016 · October 2011

I really don't think it's a big deal at all.

We got a $20 Walmart gift card and I used it for groceries. The baby is in my belly and my belly needs food. Don't beat yourself up about it.

lilwildthing · October 2011

I used to be weird about this too. I have had to borrow money from DS to pay the sitter, just from not planning ahead. Anyways, I realized I am always spending money on DS, so if I have to dig a five out of his bank to have enough for the sitter, than oh-well. I usually pay him back, but I don't stress about it. You'll find that you'll more than make up for it.

buggywhips · October 2011

I thought about it...like "Mmmm baby is hungry...where does he want to eat tonight?" but we refrained. We got a piggy bank at the shower so we just put his cash in there.

missyscadoo · October 2011

Groceries are a totally fine way to spend your money. It's not like your husband took the money out to the bar or something. You bought something your family needs with the money. Besides, I'm positive that when all is said and done you will spend much more money on that baby then what you received from the shower. Just think of how you will have to take money from the grocery budget for all those diapers. Wink

. I haven't had a shower yet, but if I get money from it (which I hope I do) and have everything we "need" I will be buying diapers and throw some of it into the savings because I know we are going to need to buy a few things like a walker and highchair in a few months (I didn't put them on the registry because we won't need them for a while and we live in a tiny apartment).

MexiMama55 · October 2011

Sweetie, please don't get on the mom guilt train already. You spend that cash anyway you feel like it. Thats what a gift is for. If the gifter didn't trust you to make sound decisions with your money, they would have given you a bbrus gift card. Your family is number one, and the baby is included in that family. So groceries are more than an appropriate way to spend those funds.

I got a gift from Nordies for the baby, that i would never use, returned it and bought an entire outfit for my high school reunion. I'm not an ***, I just know my baby will be 100% taken care of and i wanted to look cute while i'm carrying her.

I hope you bought some amazing food at the grocery store! You deserve it.

DiademChi · October 2011

I would also keep it and put it aside for the baby. There will be future expenses. If not diapers, then when you transition to solid foods or bigger clothing. If someone gave the money back to me, when I gave it as a gift, I'd actually be a bit offended.

Happily Overwhelmed · October 2011

I was raised to save the money I received as a gift in a savings account or put it towards something much bigger to go with that time period in my life (example, 16th birthday money-save for a car; graduation-save for college).

I'd feel super guilty too if I spent it on groceries. However, as I grow older I realize that it's not always possible to designate money for certain things as it was when you're younger and don't have bills and other expenses.

I would try and justify it this way---Pick something YOU have bought for baby. Maybe you spent $40 for groceries today but spend $40 on a bouncer a few months ago.

Personally I like to have something to write about the money in thank yous. "Dear Sue, Thank you so much for the gift of money. We put it towards a bouncer and I'm sure baby will love it!"

Don't beat yourself up about it. Now if you went out and blew all the shower money on getting your hair and nails done it would be a different story. Like you said, you need food...you don't eat, baby doesn't eat!

prairiegurl24 · October 2011

i honestly wouldn't worry about it, like PP if you don't eat, the baby dosn't eat and god knows that we need to feed our babies inside our bellies lol

silivren · October 2011

mrsfowler1016:

I really don't think it's a big deal at all.

We got a $20 Walmart gift card and I used it for groceries. The baby is in my belly and my belly needs food. Don't beat yourself up about it.

This is my thoughts exactly!

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